From trophy wife to toxic wife

Telegraph ^ | 16 January 2007

[TheSpottedOwl]

I'm actually horrified, rather than amused. At one point during my marriage, I found myself doing approximately 27 loads of laundry a week. The house wiring was bad, so I hung it all on clotheslines. The dryer would knock out all the power on one side of the house. I cooked enough food for a platoon, spent most of my time at the principal's office, discussing our son's behavior. I was discouraged from holding down a job. I did it anyway, but had to turn my paycheck over to him.

If these toxic wives actually knew how good they had it, maybe they'd pop in the kitchen and cook for their husbands and children. You know....like being a wife, not a leech.

[jonno]

Ping (still around?)

[ReignOfError]

"Of course you are, smart women do not date married men."

"When a man marries his mistress, he creates a vacancy." -- Oscar Wilde

[Shion]

My husband does the 5:30am work, 10:30pm home thing. Mostly because he's going to school so that some day he can afford for me to say home with children. Possibly within the next decade.

Of course, I'm not a toxic wife, I'm a businesswoman, but even so, I've got dinner hot on the table at 11:00pm when he gets home from school.

[tarheelswamprat]

re:I do work for a good number of very wealthy people and there isn't one of them that is what this guy describes.

Not picking on you - just using your post to point out that the assumption several posters here have made that the author is a man seems to be incorrect. From the first sentence of the article: "Decadent stay-at-home wives who take their rich husbands for a ride have finally been rumbled, says Tara Winter Wilson."

[HungarianGypsy]

Around 1510 Luca Landucci, a small time Florentine apothecary, recorded on the death of his wife Salvestra that over 48 years of their marriage she had never once made him angry.

It's possible. My husband has said I have annoyed him at times, but he has never actually been angry.

[TheSpottedOwl]

I have mixed emotions regarding Dr. Laura. Sometimes she comes up with some doozies. One man called in saying that when his ex wife heard he was going to remarry, she told him she wanted him back. Dr. Laura told him to patch up his family and go back to his ex! The bitch was gaming the poor guy : (

[MistrX]

Soon to be 26 years with my lovely bride, love of my life.
Oooh, what a lucky man I am.

[gura]

Word. I am recently divorced. I do all my own cleaning, cooking, ironing, and geez, it doesn't THAT long.

I'm not quite sure what I'm looking for yet, and in the meantime there's lots of silly liberal girls who were fooled by the "free love" mantra of the 60's. :-)

[Theresawithanh]

Am I the only one who finds this story a little too contrived and hard to take seriously? Maybe I don't understand that it can be true because I have no way to relate to a woman who would act that way.

[ikka]

My brother has married a woman very much like this. Not quite as tyrannical, but just as snobbish.

[ThirstyMan]

Interesting! Thanks for weighing in on this discussion. It doesn't really sound like you are one of these trophy wives though. Maybe the age difference between you and your husband is similar but that's all that matches with this story.
And that's very good for Mr. girlangler.

[Brucifer]

Are you sure you're a trophy wife? You just sound like a really cool younger wife. I mean... you fish!

[BykrBayb]

Nothing in your story allows me to believe you are a trophy wife. You lack vapidity. You may have some things in common with trophy wives, but you give back too much to qualify for that title.

[Bon mots]

That's why sites like this pop up:

www.NoMarriage.com

[peggybac]

Does your husband have any available brothers???

[an amused spectator]

Thanks for your post. It made me smile.

[Dinsdale]

Q: Why are divorces so much more expensive the weddings?

A: They're worth it!

[antiunion person]

Can't you just divorce?" I asked.

"Are you kidding?" he replied. "I'd lose everything I've worked for, including my children, and I'd be paying her an indecent amount of money for life."

Has anyone ever heard of a contract hit??

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

The two husbands cited are not identified. They could be inventions but there are such shallow people out there--male and female. What a contrast to THIS:

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Philippians 2:2-4 (NIV) ...then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

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And a question I've been asking a long time, not-so-rhetorically, from Proverbs 31:
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.