Posted on 05/06/2007 5:48:30 AM PDT by shrinkermd
MY WIFE AND I just had an abortion. Two, actually. We walked into a doctor's office in downtown Los Angeles with four thriving fetuses two girls and two boys and walked out an hour later with just the girls, whom we will name, if we're lucky enough to keep them, Rosalind and Vivian. Rosalind is my mother's name.
We didn't want to. We didn't mean to. We didn't do anything wrong, which is to say, we did everything right. Four years ago, when Tina and I set out on this journey to have children, such a circumstance was unimaginable. And yet there I was, holding her hand, watching the ultrasound as a needle with potassium chloride found its mark, stopping the heart of one male fetus, then the other, hidden in my wife's suffering belly.
We don't feel guilty. We don't feel ashamed. We're not even really sad, because terminating these fetuses at 15 weeks' gestation was a medical imperative. This has been a white-knuckle pregnancy from Day 1, and had it gone on as it was going, Tina's health would have been in jeopardy, according to her doctor. The fact is, multiple pregnancies are high risk, and they can go bad very suddenly. I wasn't going to allow that, though the fires of hell might beckon.
In the midst of this experience, practically on the eve of our procedure, the U.S. Supreme Court announced its ruling in Gonzales vs. Carhart, upholding the federal ban on a rare obstetrical procedure called intact dilation and extraction, or intact D&E, also known as "partial-birth" abortion.
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You are putting words into my mouth. As I noted in an earlier response, I have qualms about the fertility industry. But try telling a young couple that their desire to become parents is as selfish as wanting the latest model car. I doubt they’ll agree.
Many bad things are done for good reasons.
Why do patients fall for this lie. If the woman was so ill or unhealthy to carry more than one child then she is unhealthy to carry one. The truth is multiple preganicies are most risky for the babies. These physicians who perform fertility treatments try to get women to ruduce the number because parents will SUE them if anything happens to the pregnancy because of the number greater than two. It is sick, sick, sick. But it is the lawsuit happy legal system we live in along with the technological ability to implant many embroys hoping only one or two will take and when all 4 or five do the physicians get scared.
Actually I was responding to the argument itself, not necessarily you. Sorry if you took it that way.
Many bad things are done for good reasons.
And what is the good reason here? It seems that the mindset from Day 1 would be to treat life, human life, as a commodity. I WANT a child. I WANT a girl. I DON'T WANT a boy, etc. What happens to us as a society, what happens to us as people when we treat human life as a commodity? The end is the debasement of the human spirit which always results in cruelty - intentionally or unintentionally. This couple started out thinking of these children as commodities and they threw away the ones they didn't want. I see nothing good in any of that and very little that would pass for reason.
“To be clear, the procedure banned by the court last month intact D&E was not an option in our case.”
So why even bring it up?
We are breaking into your regularly scheduled thread to give you this warning...
Do not go mountain climbing or sky-diving with an unrepentant woman who has had an abortion
In a tough situation she might very well decide you are expendable.
I shared this with my Mom. Both of us were entirely shocked. I also posted this on Pro-Life America forums, another pro-life board I frequent. (FReepers are always welcome there :-)) Anyway, I don’t know where to start. If she could only physically handle two children, why did they not only implant two children? I know the odds are greater the other way, but it is unfair to risk innocent life for selfish motives. I know that four of the children survived, and they decided to reduce for her health. I realize that she was in the hospital, but with bed rest and adequate medical care, did they do all they could to carry the children to at least viability? It appears that that they did not. They decided who to murder. They chose the sons because they “might” have autism. The girls were considered because abortion may be illegal, and they may be unable to kill future grandchildren. The father felt no guilt, shame, or sadness as his boys were being murdered. These people are selfish, cold, psychos who don’t deserve children!
I couldn’t agree with you more. Whatever happened to the multiple birth kids (she had about six) who chose not to “reduce” and had all the babies. They must be six or seven by now.
I'm thinking somebody ran out of pancakes and decided to use a funnel cake.
Technically there is. It just wasn't available to them in this particular instance. If it had been, I suspect they would have jumped on it.
You owe me a keyboard ...
The term “reduction” has been in use in the context of aborting multiples for at least a decade.
Oh, that comment got me too-”my wife’s suffering belly”-do you know that is a euphemism for stretch marks?
Well, I think other things about these people...
www.realcatholicmom.blogspot.com
... we're in denial.
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