Perhaps Ms. Stillman should watch the following movie:
“The Best Years of Our Lives” 1946 - it won 7 Oscars when it was released and is a dramatic depiction of what WWII soldiers had to deal with adjusting back into their civilian lives. War and human nature don’t really change that much.
Ms. Stillman seems to be young, dumb and ugly - not a good combo.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0036868/