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'Silent treatment' leads women to death: study
CTV ^ | Sep. 4 2007 10:05 AM ET

Posted on 09/04/2007 8:08:13 AM PDT by Grig

A study has found that women who use the 'silent treatment' with their spouses during arguments could be on their way to early deaths.

"This is the first time we've seen anything this dramatic that predicts death or heart disease that's not physiological," Dr. Elaine Eaker, who authored the study, told CTV's Canada AM.

The study found that women who silenced themselves during marital disagreements were four times more likely to die earlier than women who expressed their feelings during arguments with their spouses.

However, Eaker found that the health of men who indulged in the same "self-silencing" practice were not adversely affected.

"Even though men and women are equally as likely to, what we call 'self-silence,' during conflict, men did not have any affects on their health if they 'self-silenced' -- it was only the women that suffered detrimental affects on their health," Eaker said.

The study, called "Marital Status, Marital Strain, and Risk of Coronary Heart Disease or Total Mortality: The Framingham Offspring Study," published in the journal Psychomatic Medicine, was based on data from the Framingham Heart Study.

The Framingham Heart study follows over 5,000 men and women in the town of Framingham, Ma. and tracks their health over an extended period of time. The study is credited with providing much of the common knowledge into how diet and exercise affect heart disease.

In Eaker's study, traditional methods of determining marital quality such as the level of satisfaction and the amount of conflict were measured. However, the study also asked what behaviour strategies were used during marital conflicts.

Eaker said the actual practice of 'self-silencing,' not depression or anger, actually caused the health problems, even when other factors such as age, socio-economic background, levels of cholesterol and obesity were taken into account.

"It was the self-silencing that seemed to be particularly detrimental," Eaker said.

The most common illness suffered by women who often used 'silent treatment' with their partners was cancer and the next common affliction was heart disease.

According to Eaker, the study she conducted was the first to look at the factors of behaviour, heart disease and mortality in the context of marital relationships.

Couples should focus on improving their communication to combat "self-silencing," Eaker said.

"I think it goes back to trying to have more constructive communication and having a safe environment where both spouses can equally share and communicate," Eaker said.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: communication; harpies; hearthealth; nagnagnag; psychology; seennotheard; shushwoman; silenttreatment
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To: wastedyears

“Women just keep it inside forever.”

My wife once had a co-worker who kept a book where she recorded things her husband did wrong so she could use it as ammo when they had fights.


21 posted on 09/04/2007 8:25:31 AM PDT by Grig
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To: Grig
Job 21:25 And another dieth in the bitterness of his soul, and never eateth with pleasure.
22 posted on 09/04/2007 8:27:25 AM PDT by semaj (Just shoot the bastards! * Your results may vary. Void where prohibited.)
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To: Grig

Fortunately for my wife, but not always so fortunately for me, she never uses the silent treatment during our disagreements.


23 posted on 09/04/2007 8:32:33 AM PDT by Southside_Chicago_Republican
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To: Grig

I don’t mean to sound rude, but would that include things like leaving the seat up?


24 posted on 09/04/2007 8:33:59 AM PDT by wastedyears (Alright, hold tight, I'm a highway staaaaaaaaaaaaarrr)
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To: Grig
I wouldnt' be able to give a silent treatment....I need to yell (colorfully) and get it out....
It's healthy.
25 posted on 09/04/2007 8:36:49 AM PDT by Fawn (http://www.brightlion.com/InHope/InHope_en.aspx)
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To: Grig
"My wife once had a co-worker who kept a book where she recorded things her husband did wrong so she could use it as ammo when they had fights."

My ex had a photographic memory (really) so she didn't even treat herself to the cathartic exercise of writing it out.

26 posted on 09/04/2007 8:37:07 AM PDT by Joe 6-pack (Que me amat, amet et canem meum)
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To: Grig

At the gates of Heaven there are two lines: “This line is for men who were abused by their wives.” “This line is for men who were never abused by their wives.”

Line #1 stretched on and on and on, out of sight.

Line #2 had one man standing in it.

The admitting angel said to the man in Line #2, “How fortunate you were to have such a wife!”

The man said, “My wife told me to stand in this line.”


27 posted on 09/04/2007 8:38:37 AM PDT by Alouette (Vicious Babushka)
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To: Andonius_99

Q: why do married men live longer?
A: They actually don’t, it just feeeeeeeeeels longer.


28 posted on 09/04/2007 8:39:14 AM PDT by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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To: Grig

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29 posted on 09/04/2007 8:40:47 AM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: Grig
However, Eaker found that the health of men who indulged in the same "self-silencing" practice were not adversely affected.

Isn't being silent a key to not getting beat up by your wife? :-)

30 posted on 09/04/2007 8:57:15 AM PDT by CharlesWayneCT
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To: Grig
My ornery grandmother used the silent treatment on her husband (my grandfather) and on her daughter (my mother) when she was irked at them.

My grandmother was never sick a day in her life and died just 2 months short of her 100th birthday.

31 posted on 09/04/2007 9:13:02 AM PDT by PacesPaines
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To: longtermmemmory

My wife is a Boston Irish redhead with the temper to match, if she gets quiet, I know to run, she is looking for something to hit me with.


32 posted on 09/04/2007 9:18:50 AM PDT by Hydroshock ("The Constitution should be taken like mountain whiskey -- undiluted and untaxed." - Sam Ervin)
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To: Grig

‘The study found that women who silenced themselves during marital disagreements were four times more likely to die earlier than women who expressed their feelings during arguments with their spouses. ‘

I’d love to know how they support this data.

We’re to believe that women who go ‘silent’ in response became ‘chatty Kathy’s’ to researchers about it?

Pardon me if I just laugh at this nonsense.


33 posted on 09/04/2007 9:21:01 AM PDT by Badeye (You know its a kook site when they ban the word 'kook')
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To: Andonius_99

Another joke back atcha - “Ladies don’t sweat, belch, or fart, so if they didn’t bitch they’d blow up.”


34 posted on 09/04/2007 9:24:29 AM PDT by Billthedrill
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To: Badeye
"We’re to believe that women who go ‘silent’ in response became ‘chatty Kathy’s’ to researchers about it?"

They discuss it with anybody but you, ask your wifes hairdresser...

35 posted on 09/04/2007 9:39:31 AM PDT by gnarledmaw ("Righteous Violence Zealot")
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To: Grig

“My wife once had a co-worker who kept a book where she recorded things her husband did wrong so she could use it as ammo when they had fights.”

Why that’s a great idea!

;)


36 posted on 09/04/2007 9:41:33 AM PDT by GovernmentIsTheProblem (The GOP is "Whig"ing out.)
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To: gnarledmaw

They discuss it with anybody but you, ask your wifes hairdresser...

Sorry, I actually talk to my wife every day. I know, I know, its ‘shocking’....(chuckle)


37 posted on 09/04/2007 9:52:13 AM PDT by Badeye (You know its a kook site when they ban the word 'kook')
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To: Man50D

“Hillary should live a long time based on the conclusion of this study.”

Ha! This is so true.


38 posted on 09/04/2007 9:52:28 AM PDT by Old Grumpy
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To: Old Grumpy; Man50D
“Hillary should live a long time based on the conclusion of this study.” Ha! This is so true.

Of course she will: Heaven doesn't want her, and Hell's afraid she'd take over.

39 posted on 09/04/2007 10:01:26 AM PDT by Slings and Arrows ("Be deranged in a consistent manner. Manson was nuts, but at least he was always on message." --dead)
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To: Grig

Well, the effort an angry woman expends to keep quiet is roughly equivalent to the effort an angry man expends to chop three cords of firewood...so I guess this makes sense. ;)


40 posted on 09/04/2007 10:04:44 AM PDT by Mr. Jeeves ("Wise men don't need to debate; men who need to debate are not wise." -- Tao Te Ching)
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