Posted on 03/12/2008 4:55:51 AM PDT by ciocia
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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We’re on round 2...
We’re operating on the premise (Dr. Laura included) that this is a marriage. It seems more a business agreement with sex and progeny. This is no marriage in terms I understand. Few political marriages are.
“Some wives also grant or deny sex as a system of reward and punishment”
It’s important to determine this practice BEFORE saying, “I do.” lol
I was wondering how long it would take for Silda to be blamed for her husband’s lack of moral character.
Nobody is responsible for someone elses behavior or choices. Dr. Laura is full of it.
Of course, we're all different but I would suggest that if a man cheats, it is because there is something, somewhere, lacking in his marriage. Seems pretty obvious. This is not to say that the wife is to blame, but he is seeking something he can't get at home, be it, emotional or physical. The same can be said for a cheating wife.
I would even go further to say that if there is cheating going on, the spouse has to have some kind of sense of it. It shouldn't come as a total shock. If there is something missing in that marriage, the spouse should be able to sense it also unless she/he is an idiot living in total denial. People who think that their spouse would never, EVER cheat are the same that think their children are perfect angels. Not to say that their children aren't perfect angels, but they are setting themselves up for an awful big letdown if and when they get that call at 2am to come down to the station and bail their little angel out.
However Silda strikes me as Hillary Jr.
Well said, expands upon the point I was feebly attempting earlier.
And really, she isn't doing any favors to "manhood" either. Seems that she regards men as childlike and perpetually immature. According to Dr. Laura, we are all candidates for "Eliot Spitzerhood." I happen to have a little bit higher regard for myself and believe that my wife does as well.
This is sickening.....
You might be right, but I maintain that women who are shrews, spendthrifts, substance abusers or have let themselves become disheveled physically or in the bedroom, often drive their husbands astray.
No one, male or female, can totally hold back the ravages of aging, but people who are overweight, have poor dental or personal hygiene, or become detached or confrontational due to substance abuse or mental illness are giving their spouses every excuse to look elsewhere for what their marriage is lacking.
I heard a man call a talk show yesterday ...he was 35 and he uses call girls at least once a month. He said it’s his wifes fault for not being pretty and thin enough for him anymore. He said it’s her obligation to be the best she can be because men have ‘needs’. I wish I could of talked to him.
Absolutely!
And in Spitzer's case, able to pay $5000/hr to "feel what he needs."
He obviously wasn’t looking for love.
He wasn’t even looking for a complement.
The “performance” she provided was paid for in cash - nothing heartfelt from her it at all.
It seems liberal men with great power feel they are entitled to sex with other women not their wife. That they are superior and that everyone else is there to serve them. That they are the law.
Har! Eggxactly! Often the One Who must be obeyed has operated on this principle all her life -- doesn't realize it, and considers it NOP -- normal operating principle -- and probably observed it at work in her parent's marriage.
Maybe. OTOH, maybe the husband is just scum.
Talk?
He's hopeless. There's no love there.
The wife needs to leave and find someone who will love her back. There's no hope of that where she's at now.
To paraphrase his response......
"I would be looking up from a pool of blood and her first question would be 'How do I reload this thing?'"
What the heck did they do? Or not do?
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