When A Woman Isn't In The Mood: Part II (Female Nature, Sex And Men Alert)

Townhall.com ^ | 12/30/2008 | Dennis Prager

[goldstategop]

Female nature is guided by mood. Men have a constant desire for sex and often want it in non-romantic circumstances. A woman, in considering how to react to a man's wanting to initiate sex, should be guided by loving behavior rather than feelings, which can change. The right kind of behavior can bring unexpected rewards - be it in in a marriage or in any other life situation. Women need to do very little to please a man and get his undying love and gratitude. Just not get in the mood like showing love for one's spouse is a chore; it should be an expression of one's vows to one's beloved.

[Lorianne]

This article says more about the man who wrote it than he probably imagines or would want.

[dianed]

Sounds like he’s making the case for polygamy.....

[Snurple]

True, men want sex more than women..most anyway. OTOH, women like to talk, talk talk talk talk, I dont, but I do it because I love my wife. Now if I were to quit listening and communicating with my wife (as much as she wants me to anyhow, I would be just terrible,...right? Men and women are different, its a give and take thing.

[exist]

I have found the most annoying part of relationships is that you have to be romantic to have sex. Sorry I don’t feel like busting out flower petals just to get naughty.

I mean the candles and wine and the flowers— for what? A few minutes and that’s right I said it a few minutes. After a long day’s work I just mostly want to watch sports and some cable news and go to sleep with a little naughty in between. I don’t think that’s too much to ask.

[goldstategop]

You're free to disregard his insights. The obvious point is happiness doesn't come naturally to human beings - female or male. It has to be cultivated since one has to act rather than feel happy. But our post-60s zeitgeist is about "feelings" as opposed to doing what is right.

[goldstategop]

I don't recall the author advocating infidelity. I think he did say marriage is about obligations instead of rights. We should think, for those of us who are married, what we owe our spouse rather than what we think is good for ourselves.

[I'm ALL Right!]

Oh, baby...you sure are a dreamy one. /sarc

[Lorianne]

I’m not disregaring his ‘insights’ at all.
He’s telling us more than he knows about himself.

[goldstategop]

There's a place for romance in a relationship. But every man on earth simply wishes a woman is turned on for no other reason than he wants her right then and there. And if a woman is not receptive to a man's advances at that point, she will never understand what makes her so attractive to him that at times, he wants to dispense with the protocol and just on a dare, throw all caution to the wind!

[goldstategop]

He has experience to draw on. Prager intends it to be helpful but it might not work for every one or for every situation. In which case, it doesn't apply at all.

[logos]

One infallible rule for a strong and successful marriage: Each partner strives to give 51% in every situation the marriage encounters.

Or in other words, a good marriage requires each partner to work at making it a good relationship. Without such a commitment from both husband and wife, the marriage will eventually fail.

Oh, yeah ... “failure” doesn’t always mean divorce.

[malkee]

I think this says something about the kind of women some men choose as wives. Fortunately or unfortunately, a woman’s appearance is more important to many men than her character. Generosity and an easygoing nature have something to do with “sexiness” along with appearance.

[goldstategop]

Women want emotional intimacy and men want physical intimacy. The sexes demonstrate their connection in different ways but in the end its a common language. Love.

[svxdave]

Dennis Prager has a woman who comes on his radio program named Allison Armstrong. She is an expert in male-female relationships and is quite interesting to listen to. She believes that men need to be appreciated and that many women don’t do this which eventually leads to the “breaking point”.

No where can a man feel more appreciated than in the context of this article.

One more thing: Dennis has been married at least twice so maybe he wasn’t “appreciated” in the past.

[Snurple]

So true. That’s exactly why most marriages fail now days, people are not willing to give, all they want is to take, men and women.

[piytar]

True, but your posts are also telling us more than you know about yourself...

[goldstategop]

For men, looks are important. But that's not to say other qualities aren't valued. Of course if all they want is a one night stand, character is not much of a concern.

[Snurple]

yup

[DTogo]

C’mon, nothing says “romance” to a woman more than a tired man watching sports and cable news...