Skip to comments.On Bullying, Costco Disconnects from Reality
Posted on 09/07/2009 4:29:13 AM PDT by Kaslin
Millions of Americans who shop at Costco receive the retail giants monthly magazine The Costco Connection. I have to confess however that my copy of the publication usually never makes it past the garage. Not so the recent August issue, which promotes on the cover a Back to School series of essays for parents and children. Since one of the essays promised to take on the issue of bullying, I decided to take a closer look.
Bullies seem to be everywhere these days. From the schoolyard to the political arena thugs young and old have been learning that threats and intimidation are tried and true tactics in the face of frail opposition. The tragic kidnapping, repeated rape, and eighteen-year-long nightmare of young Jaycee Lee Dugard highlights the importance of effectively resisting those whose identities are fashioned by crushing the weak.
Imagine my utter disbelief then when my eyes landed on the advice offered by the two nationally recognized bullying experts interviewed for Costcos story Stop Hassling Me: Breaking the Cycle of Bullying. After getting past a rather offensively staged photograph showing two young white girls taunting an African-American schoolmate, the reader is treated to a series of tips for kids by New York City school psychologist and psychotherapist Izzy Kalman. For kids who find themselves on the wrong end of a bully for example Kalman offers the following suggestion:
(Excerpt) Read more at americanthinker.com ...
This is exactly what the liberals want our military, intelligence services and police forces to do.....answer force with flowers.
The Costco article is just youth indoctrination.
I like CostCo for shopping, but not 100%!!!!!
” If kids hit you and youre not hurt, act like nothing happened. This way you look tough and cool because you dont get upset over nonsense. If they keep hitting or pushing you, ask them calmly, Are you mad at me? If they arent, theyll stop hitting you. If they are angry, theyll tell you why. You can discuss the matter, apologize if appropriate, and they will also stop hitting you. “
Obama/Hillary foreign policy, in a nutshell.....
(Emphasis on the ‘nut’...)
CostCo, ha, never stopped in, never will.
Continuing the agenda of racism is more distrubing by depicting 2 wites taunting a black. It’s not about bullying it’s about the agenda.
This is why my kids have been taught self defense by an instructor who believes in no mercy. If the bully starts it, my kids will finish it.
I think perhaps they missed the youtube sensational video of the pack of girls who attacked the one girl repeatedly for over half an hour while she pleaded with them in every way to stop. She even lost consciencous twice during the beating.
I think there was a Dilbert cartoon whose punchline was something like, "In any business organization the incompetents get put in charge of publishing the newsletter."
How times have changed -when I was bullied as a kid before the hippies’ day, the principal suggested that shy little me should toughen up and fight back!
I have found that the only thing that stops a bully is a bloody nose.
Children quickly learn that this junk doesn’t work.
Back when I was a teacher I had to sit through “bully training” where we were taught how to spot a bully, etc. As if we all hadn’t been to elementary school. When we went through all the hallmarks of a bully, they described our school principal very well.
It’s just a matter of incentives. If there’s a fight, teachers/administrators have to handle it. If there’s no overt fight, then they can all pretend to ignore it. Problem solved.
Be nice to kids when they are mean to you, and before long they will stop being mean. This is known as the Golden Rule, and is the solution to bullying.
What a crock of crap.
When I was in school a neighborhood friend who was defined as “special education” was freqeuntly bullied at school. I found that a good ass whooping usually brought that to an end. Bullies tend to be cowards that pick on the weak. The article basically intsructs kids to be weak. What nonsense.
I know a kid who was bullied. The school told him to change his behavior that made the bully attack him. So, the victim was at fault. Of course it didn’t work, since who knows what the kid did to ‘make’ the bully attack?
One day the bully was fussing at him from behind. The kid spun around to tell him to stop and accidentally elbowed the kid in the head, knocking him off his feet. The bully stopped bothering him and even tried to be his friend.
This is the article Emperor obie read to form his foreign policy.
“Coloroso suggests for example several donts for parents to consider, among them:
Dont tell your child to fight back.”
What a wonderful way to teach them to be adult sheep, easily led by bully politicians to slaughter!
I did my tormentor in 5th grade with a 2x2 piece of pine that I was carrying home when he caught up to me. He got bloodied a bit but didn’t break anything. His daddy threatened to sue my daddy but nothing came of it except that the fellow didn’t bother me again. The worst part was that I was still afraid of the guy for a couple of weeks until I realized that his interests had changed.
RE: ‘the incompetents publish the newspaper’ - and they ALL work in HR!
As a non sequitour (SP?: In NH, the incompetents are in the majority at all three of the major state newspapers.
BRILLIANT ARTICLE — a keeper.
When I visited the Cincinnati Costco on I275, I was surprised that their prices were no better to worse than those of the local WalMart, Krogers, Meiers, etc.
And at the regular stores you don’t have to join and go through Costco’s silly membership payments. They should be paying ME.....
> I have found that the only thing that stops a bully is a bloody nose.
I found the same thing when I was a kid. You and I were lucky: we obviously had the skills and/or the fury necessary to give the bully a bloody nose (or broken teeth, in my case).
“Christianizing” bullies is great fun if you can do it. There are alot of kids who can’t, and if they ever tried the bully would thump them even harder, for longer. For kids in that unfortunate situation some alternative strategy needs to be figured out.
I used to think I knew what that strategy should be. Now I’m not so sure.
I think everybody is different.
In my case, being short, I was on the “bullied” side of the equation.
But I have never hit a person before, and I’ve never been hit more than one time.
I’ve even intervened between bullies or simply angry people and people they were trying to beat up, and never been hit more than once.
Maybe just lucky, maybe really good at analyzing people and saying the right thing (I go with lucky).
For example, one time at a bus stop, a bully and his friends got around me, I presume because he needed a quick “pick-up” of “esteem” by beating up someone. So as he threatened to beat the crap out of me, I looked him in the eye, and told him that of course he could beat me up, he was bigger and stronger and had all his friends. But I said it wouldn’t be any fun because I wouldn’t hit back or defend myself.
Then I pointed out that his girlfriend was watching, and she probably wouldn’t find it very impressive watching him beat up a kid who wasn’t interested in hitting him.
Sure enough, she came over and told him to leave me alone, and I was off the hook.
Like I said, probably lucky, not sure it would work at all in today’s world where kids are not taught right and wrong.
“After getting past a rather offensively staged photograph showing two young white girls taunting an African-American schoolmate” The problem with this in my opinion is that the Vast Majority of Blacks and Mexicans I come in contact with are the TRUE RACISTS. Go By any High School in So-Cal and you will see the true Bullies and Racists, most are Black or Brown
Mr. RightField taught in a very upscale SoCal school district for 37 years. You are correct ... nearly all of the racists were Black, and the bullies were Brown. No profiling, just fact.
My 7yr old is in his third year of Karate lessons. When he is old enough to be out on his own, he’ll know how to take care of himself.
I was at a neighborhood party of some 30-somethings (much younger than me.) One of the little kids came up to me crying saying, "Tyrone hit me!"
I said, "Well hit him back!."
The kids face lit up and he ran off looking to administer an ass-whooping to Tyrone.
The mother was aghast.
Needless to say, I was never invited back, but the kid doesn't get bullied, either.
School is like prison. There are people who will enjoy beating you.So fight. even if you migh lose. One bloody nose on a enemy might discourage him in the future and move on to a more pliabe person even if you lose.
On the other hand, you might win. In that case, beat the bully every chance you get. Make him/her your bitch.
“If the bully starts it, my kids will finish it.”
I choose to shop where I can get the highest quality product at the best price. On this part of the Oregon Coast, Costco is hands down the best place to shop.
Wholeheartedly agree about best price.
Here in Ohio, though, Costco isn’t it.
What’s the idea behind having to pay to shop at a store, anyway? (Sounds like a scam to me.)
Especially if that store costs the same or more than its competitors. That’s downright silly.
My guess is that a lot of folks pay membership fees and then don’t use the store, just like so many folks do with gym memberships.
In this area Costco prices are significantly lower than other stores and I save back my membership fees on gasoline alone in just a few months.
The bullying issue in schools has become a pc timebomb.
Two years ago, we knew a couple, whose daughter was bullied. The mother is Mexican American, and the Dad is African American. The girls, who bullied her were blacks and Hispanics. Her guilt, she was smart, did her homework and never caused problems at school.
I suggested to the parents they get some evidence of the bullying. They had relatives, and uncle and aunt in a separate vehicle video tape their daughter being bullied and basically assaulted after they dropped her off at the middles school.
The relatives were in a separate vehicle and got close to the action. The aunt taped the bullying. It got so bad, the aunt got out of their vehicle and hollered at the bullies that they were being video taped. Their response was the famous one finger salute. While they were saluting, their niece ran into the school.
When the parents of the poor girl talked to the principal, he refused to do anything even when shown the tapes. I suggested they tell him and the superintendent to do something or they would show the video to the cops, file charges and post a copy on You Tube. They met the superintendent and showed him the video.
The school administration’s response was to change her school and bus her to another school. That was an extra 15 minute ride each way for her, and she was the innocent one. The bullies remained in the school and continued to bully others.
A similiar incidence happened in an elementary school where the kids of younger relatives go. A girl being bullied was white, and she was being bullied by a mixed group. The girl’s parents had visiting grandparents tape the bullying from their vehicle.
This school administration’s response was the same. The girl being bullied was transferred to a school 30 minutes away versus her current school which was minutes away and could be walked to with good weather. Her family sold their home and moved back to a small midwest city.
Our younger relatives at this school have a son who is a jock like his dad, uncles and his mother. So he hangs around with other small jocks, sometimes they tackle each other or dare to kick a soccer ball at each other. Several times they have been supposedly called in for bullying when they tackled each other. The last time all of the parents went to the principle’s office told him bs. There was no bullying, these were just normal boys, who were young jocks playing. He said that he still had to write them up. One of Dads of the “bad” young jocks asked his lawyer brother about it. He was told the principle needed some paperwork showing that he was on top of any bullying.
..You can discuss the matter, apologize in appropriate, and they will also stop hitting you.”
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That didn’t work in the early 50’s and I doubt it would work today....
I was always the ‘new kid’, fairly smart and didn’t mind letting the ‘dummies’ know it, SMALL and even skipped a grade (3nd) so was at least a year younger than my ‘peers’.
I went through ‘HELL’ until I finally hit back and MORE IMPORTANTLY turned out to be a better athlete than most of them..and in essence most ‘bullies’ tend not to participate in team efforts (other than showing their ‘a$$’ trying to impress their so called pals)....Also when you succeed in athletics and are ‘small’, the jocks tend to put the word out if you are ‘screwing’ with him, you are screwing with US... you know, that TEAM WORK thing again...
When I went in the USN 10/56, I had stretched and beefed up to 5’8” 130 lbs.....
Really? Gas here is only about 4 cents cheaper than at Circle-K. I remember back in about ‘98 or so, gas was selling at about $1.25 and Costco would be 15 cents cheaper. 4 cents off $2.63 is a lot smaller incentive than 15 cents off $1.25.
FYI, the CEO of Costco is a BIG Obamanation supporter - this from WSJ during the election - need to vote with your feet as I have....Costco free zone at my house...
I think when the district’s solution was to inconvenience the victim/remove her from her friends, I would have threatened to take it to the DA and see if I couldn’t make it into a criminal matter. The bullies should have been the ones inconvenienced. If the bullies get thrown out of every school where they bully others, either they’ll stop or it’ll end up as a de facto expulsion.
Schools talk about bullying but they usually blame the victim. The only reason they talk about it is to keep the lawyers happy.
Short of that, I'm getting really tired of their puffed up self important BS about liberals greenie products - that are often inferior and more expensive...
I'm shopping for the "best" not the "politically correct"...
I’m in total agreement with you.
The problem often is not just the young thugs but their parents who are thugs and use their thuggery to get their way at the school boards and with the parents of the kids being bullied.
Last year, I think we had a couple of posts where cops came to schools and arrested young thugs for bullying their peers and threatening teachers.
Nope it's about political correctness and liberals thinking it's eternally 1968...
The local store had one wall collapse during the Northridge earthquake and was therefore closed for three months.
Come membership renewal time, this lack of access was not accounted for - when I phoned I got a distinct "What earthquake closure?" response......end of relationship right then and there.
I taught for four yrs in a small Catholic school outside of DC. My third graders knew that if I ever caught or heard of any bullying, they would be in deep doo-doo. I would haul the involved parties out into the hall, do an investigation and make the guilty party perform reparations - i.e., carrying the victim’s backpack to car pool for a week. I could look the parents in the eye every beginning of the school year and tell them my top priority was keeping their children safe. Never had any complaints, ever!
We’re happy with our new Sam’s gas station...paid 2.79 yesterday, and the others in the area are all 3.03 — and higher down by the Interstate of course.
They (all hands) continually pump up the bad economy bs—but the merchants wouldn’t treat customers the way they do if they really needed the business—they know for every customer they alienate another svcker is coming through the hatch!
I dunno which is worse...the capitalists or the gd Godless marxist basterds!
You are wrong about them hitting harder if you are unable to actually beat their butts. If the bully is alone, not with a gang, then fighting back is what it takes to stop it. If you make him/her(yep, there are female bullies) pay a price sooner or later he/she will learn that picking on you is to costly and they will go off to seek easier prey. I know, I was the small guy when I was growing up, I attracted bullies like iron filings to a magnet, but I always fought back and usually only had to do it once to a bully.
If there is a gang of bullies the rules change and you probably need to seek help in the form of friends, or if that fails, a weapon of some sort.
Bingo! When the school yard bully gets ready to make “his first visit”, punch him in the nose with everything you’ve got! Funny how they learn that you’re not as easy a target as he somehow thought you were.
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