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We're off to a `warmer' place; Gay life in Miami
Miami Herald ^ | 9/12/2009 | Charles Perez

Posted on 09/12/2009 5:12:29 AM PDT by IbJensen

've decided to move out of the Sunshine State. It's a bit more chilly here than I had expected. Some may say good riddance, but I'm no longer willing to live in a place where I can't get married, can't adopt children and where there are no state laws to protect me from being fired because I'm gay.

And so my partner Keith and I have decided to sell the house, load up the dogs and head north, toward a decidedly warmer climate.

To those who visit here, Florida must seem somewhat schizophrenic. We sell ourselves as a great place to come and play, a multicultural paradise where you can be who you are, as long as you respect the rights and privileges or everyone else. Not so if you're gay and you decide to stay. You'll be greeted by a regressive system of laws more emblematic of a backwater state than one that now, because of its population, draws comparisons to California and New York.

Last year, as gay rights took front and center on the Florida ballot, through the Florida Marriage Amendment, or Proposition 2, religious groups, like the Orlando-based Liberty Counsel, were able to collect more than 600,000 signatures and raise millions of dollars to defeat not only gay marriage, but its equivalent. In essence they pulled the rug out from under civil unions as well, whether they be homosexual or heterosexual.

Many of these voters took to the polls hoping to save kids and marriage. Yet states such as Connecticut that have gay marriage, allow gay adoption and have laws protecting gay men and women, seem to be doing just fine. In fact, according to the most recent figures for the National Center for Health Statistics, Connecticut has a divorce rate approximately 36 percent lower than does Florida. Connecticut also was able to place more than double the percentage of kids available for adoption into permanent homes.

Maybe that gay-tolerant state is, actually, more pro-marriage and pro-family than we are.

Christian beliefs

I grew up as a Catholic. I was an altar boy. I went to a Catholic high school in Fort Lauderdale. I still consider myself a Christian, at least in philosophy: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It is an ethic shared in Judeo-Christianity that has at its core a call for tolerance and love. However, I am also cognizant that for most of the history of Christianity, the church and its many offspring often sided against the forces of compassion and used fear, threats and ignorance as their most powerful tools.

Cannot change orientation

Organized religion can be uplifting, community building, powerful and spiritual.

But, as with government, if left unchecked by its adherents, can also become misguided.

As long as my homosexuality is confined to the ``immoral'' by some, questions about my right to marry, adopt kids and be protected in the workplace will persist. I also have green eyes, by the way. They are as much a part of me as is my sexual orientation. My green eyes have as much to do with my morality as does my sexual orientation. I can cover them with contacts, but I cannot change them. They are inseparable from who I am, as homosexuality is inseparable from human history.

Keith and I are tired of visiting attorneys who tell us, right off the bat, ``There is no privileged communication between the two of you.'' In other words, if we were married, we could not be forced to testify against each other in a court of law. What we'd say in the privacy of our relationship would stay in the privacy of our relationship. We don't have that right in the state of Florida. In Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, Maine, New Hampshire and Vermont we would. We could also be raising the family we want, all respected by the laws of our state, giving our children nothing less than the dignity that comes with having a seat at the table.

We have a right to sit at that table, along with everyone else, and we should have that right in Florida. To fight for that right is certainly the good fight. However, as the clock ticks, and my partner and I push through our 40s, we're no longer willing to wait to have the family we want.

And so, though I hate the cold, to warmer pastures we will go, certain to receive a warmer welcome, convinced that too much love and too much commitment are never a bad thing.


TOPICS: Crime/Corruption; Culture/Society; Editorial; Philosophy; US: Connecticut; US: Florida
KEYWORDS: dontletthedoorhityou; gaystapo; homobama; homosexualagenda; homosexuals; miami; perverts; protectmarriage; samesexmarriage; seeya
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Hell is much warmer than Miami. Go there.
1 posted on 09/12/2009 5:12:30 AM PDT by IbJensen
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To: IbJensen

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

Uh, yeah, but what homosexuals do onto each other was not hwat the Lord had in mind.


2 posted on 09/12/2009 5:15:52 AM PDT by vladimir998
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To: IbJensen

One is not a “Christian” unless one follows the teachings of the Christ.


3 posted on 09/12/2009 5:15:55 AM PDT by exnavy (GOD save the republic)
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To: IbJensen

“bone-us noches”

I bet in Cuban Miami they call those Maricons, Patos.


4 posted on 09/12/2009 5:18:26 AM PDT by Vaquero ("an armed society is a polite society" Robert A. Heinlein)
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To: IbJensen

When “he” and Kieth break up, as it statistically unavoidable, “he” will be back in South Beach.


5 posted on 09/12/2009 5:19:15 AM PDT by HospiceNurse
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To: IbJensen

Hey, don’t let the door...


6 posted on 09/12/2009 5:21:32 AM PDT by 101voodoo
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To: HospiceNurse
...“he” will be back in South Beach.

Trolling. Looking for Mr. Goodbar. Finding new love and serious communicable disease.

7 posted on 09/12/2009 5:22:15 AM PDT by IbJensen (If Catholic voters were true to their faith there would be no abortion and no President Obama.)
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We're off to a `warmer' place

Ted Kennedy's last thought.

8 posted on 09/12/2009 5:23:10 AM PDT by GoldenPup
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To: vladimir998
There is, indeed, something inherently evil and immoral about one 'sex partner' placing their pee-pee in another's poo-poo.

Very unsanitary besides being a serious mortal sin.

9 posted on 09/12/2009 5:23:30 AM PDT by IbJensen (If Catholic voters were true to their faith there would be no abortion and no President Obama.)
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To: IbJensen

Hell will be his home if he does not repent.


10 posted on 09/12/2009 5:23:55 AM PDT by thethirddegree
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> Hell will be his home if he does not repent.

obummer is opening a clinic they can get healed at on the way to St Peters

St Peter, just for that name sake I am surprised more of them don’t want to be Christains


11 posted on 09/12/2009 5:29:14 AM PDT by SF_Redux
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To: IbJensen
also have green eyes, by the way. They are as much a part of me as is my sexual orientation.

If your eye offends, pluck it out.

This dude has strange ideas of what Christianity and compassion are all about. Does not reflect well on his claimed Catholic upbringing.

Real compassion and love could not abide one leaving one in the sty of sinful sodomy.

12 posted on 09/12/2009 5:30:06 AM PDT by Martin Tell (ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it)
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Good. Don’t let the door hit ya....


13 posted on 09/12/2009 5:31:10 AM PDT by inflorida
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To: IbJensen; Salamander; Slings and Arrows
"In essence they pulled the rug out from under civil unions as well, whether they be homosexual or heterosexual."

Sounds to me like the state law is fair and even-handed. So what's the problem? What? You were looking for "special" treatment?!? Xin Loi, Mun Oi.
14 posted on 09/12/2009 5:31:47 AM PDT by shibumi (" ..... then we will fight in the shade.")
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To: IbJensen
Plenty of gays throughout Florida, doing well even in more conservative parts of the state. How is that? Because most of them simply live quietly and get along with everyone else. They pay their taxes, aren't confrontational, act discreetly, mostly living like any other Floridian.

I don't see a mass exodus happening any time soon. Sure most gays here aren't thrilled about the lack of gay marriage and adoption, but they find ways to otherwise live fulfilling lives. This guy is just a whiner.

15 posted on 09/12/2009 5:33:22 AM PDT by Paradox (ObamaCare = Logan's Run ; There is no Sanctuary!)
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Keef...please keep in mind that here in NH, we’re very dedicated to overturning that law, considering it was done without the consent of the people. Just sayin.


16 posted on 09/12/2009 5:34:48 AM PDT by OCCASparky (Steely-Eyed Killer of the Deep)
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To: IbJensen

Good bye.


17 posted on 09/12/2009 5:35:20 AM PDT by Bulldawg Fan (Victory is the last thing Murtha and his fellow Defeatists want.)
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To: shibumi

‘I still consider myself a Christian, at least in philosophy: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”

Must....refrain....from....posting....vulgar....reply.


18 posted on 09/12/2009 5:36:27 AM PDT by Salamander (Like acid and oil on a madman's face, reason tends to fly away.........)
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To: IbJensen

The climate is no good for peanut butter packers here in Texas, either.


19 posted on 09/12/2009 5:37:18 AM PDT by Quickgun (As a former fetus, I'm opposed to abortion)
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To: IbJensen

In order to keep taxes from going up even higher; New Hampshire will need more people to replace the conservatives that are fleeing to the south and west. NH has Lynch, Hodes, Che-Porter, and Shaeen to represent you...all dedicated to the gay agenda. Hell; any state in New England will welcome you.


20 posted on 09/12/2009 5:39:40 AM PDT by who knows what evil? (G-d saved more animals than people on the ark...www.siameserescue.org.)
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