Posted on 11/15/2009 4:28:16 PM PST by Lorianne
Yes, but the fact is that babies need to bond in first two years of life, preferably to the nursing mother for optimal physical and emotional health.
If that bond is broken in the first three years of life...then great trauma happens to the child that he/she may not recover from....Severe emotional damage to children in early years occurs because of mother desertion.
Fathers are definitely important to identity formation and to self-esteem but the loss of bonded parent is the destructive force. Society should encourage the bonding of mothers and children in the security of marriage which is the optimum method of raising a child.
To pretend that Natural Laws (which our country was based on) do not exist is suicidal and unjust and destroying the future generation.
I didn’t have to fight: Women didn’t back then, AND it was the end of the VietNam War. Thank you, though. Our kids today DESERVE our appreciation!!!!!!
I was part of Desert Storm.
My son has decided to join the Marines (I couldn’t talk sense into him - LOL).
Every kid in every generation that does their part deserves thanks.
IMO, what should happen in cases like this is the soldier in question should be allowed to care for her/his child, knowing that every day she/he spends out of active duty up to a certain number of days (lets say 365) will be added on to the end of her/his enlistment. At the end of that "off" time, she'll/he'll either have her/his workable plan in place or will face severe disciplinary consequences. Shirking duty for any reason should always be a punishable offense, and one should never be able to use their children as an excuse not to serve.
I would not exempt men from this plan. They are just as responsible for their children as women are.
adoption. problem solved.
Those of us who said that this problem would manifest itself along with significant numbers of women in the armed forces were shouted down. Now the chickens are coming home to roost.
Negative. They knew he deal when they signed up. They took the training and the paycheck.
Well said. She chose to join the army, and she chose to have a child. Those choices do not entitle her to leave early and receive the GI Bill.
First of all, she chose to be a “single mother”. Second, where was Grandma before the deployment?
“They chose to join the military, right?”
Yes, but the military has also chosen them. I’m very disturbed at the number of mothers, and esp. single mothers deployed into battle zones.
“War means fighting. Fightin’ means killing.”
Unless you are planning on having her dig a foxhole, uhhh. I mean fighting position, outside the day care center, she needs to be expeditiously chaptered (no borads, no review etc.) with a general discharge. The rules are clear, and she broke them.
OMG, we need a new government program to care for the children of female combat troops (something that should never be).
Yes the rules are clear, she is a single mom and therefore, less than that of a single father. God does not view single moms or their children, any different than he does single men and their children.
Please continue to express your opinions and I will do everything I can to make sure my sons do not share your view.
“Is the same type of PC crap that got 13+1 killed in Ft Hood?”
Yes, except she apparently got pregnant in Iraq and came home a few months early. A sad example of unintended consequences.
I never saw any mention of baby-daddy in the coverage.
That particular "Dad" is also deployed to iraq.
Since there were no relatives who were capable of "parenting" the child, my daughter (a fellow officer and ROTC roommate) became "the plan"...
AFAIK, as far as the Army is concerned, all my daughter gets out of this is responsibilty for a fourth pre-schooler for a year -- and the gratitude of a dear friend...
Looks like a deficiency in logistic planning on the part of the Army to me...
Not less than a single father in the same situation. However, if she has custody, than it is her responsibility to have a viable family care plan. Absent that, she is incapable of fulfilling her duty and therefore, should be chaptered. Decisions have consequences.
The military is not a social program. It discriminates against lots of folks - handicapped, fat, stupid, drug users, folks w/o a high school degree, those who cannot pass a pt test, and yes, single parents (not mothers) who fail to follow the rules and have a family care plan.
Of course you should raise your sons as you feel proper. A word of caution. - life is not graded on a curve.
She had 9 months + 11 months for a total of 20 months to figure this out. Of course 20 months ago she should have been smart enough not to be in this situation. Where’s daddy or his family?
She is obligated to serve. Her child is not the military’s problem. It’s her problem.
Either kick her out of the military, or discipline her.
Thank you for using "single parent", because that is the issue and not a single mom. No life is not graded on a curve, but men who father children and do not raise them are given a pass and it is more often than not, the females fault. Teaching our kids responsibility and accountability for actions and choices is what is required. This is my gender neutral position. Good night.
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