>>He was 30 then, and married, she was 15 and his employee. He was also her Sunday school teacher before that.<<
This is interesting. I remember when I was 46 and married and was music director and Sunday School teacher for the high school aged kids at my church. One day a family came to the church that had three daughters. The middle daughter (around 14 or 15) was very cute and gregarious and at first I thought she was being nice to me. However, she started giving me the creeps because she seemed just, well, TOO friendly and attentive to me. She acted LITERALLY the way a woman that was coming onto me in not so subtle ways would act. I shook it off and assumed she was just learning how to act socially. It still made me very nervous to be around her and, of course, I always applied my “never find yourself alone with a single woman” rule. Nothing even remotely improper happened and I even discussed it with my wife in our normal day-to-day discussion about what’s going on in our lives.
It turned out I was not the only older guy she was treating this way. I left the church for completely unrelated reasons so I don’t know what ever happened with her or if anything improper ever happened between her and any other men.
After that experience, I will say this though: If a 30 year old guy ended up with her nude in a hot tub, he is not the one I would blame. And if he eventually became a high profile politician, he would be an excellent mark for a hundred grand or so.
The fact that he was an adult and her ‘superior’ makes it HIS fault. He is the one in charge, the adult the one who sets boundaries.
Along these same lines, I do understand your point, I know one teenage girl who had an affair with her ‘Seminary’ (HS age religion courses before school) teacher when she was 15 and he was 45. She was sure he was ‘in love’ with her.
Still doesn’t make it right.
And if his judgment is that poor, he shouldn’t be in a position of responsibility anyway.
I would. You said *No* and he could have too.
Getting in a hot tub that he had to go out and rent showed intent and planning. It was no spur of the moment thing.
Passion of the moment is one thing. Premeditated is another altogether.