Ol' Marty, back in the day.
Posted on 11/28/2010 1:09:45 PM PST by Red in Blue PA
Ol' Marty, back in the day.
That is a good list, but I will say this, to every yin there is a yang.
Those are good general rules, but when dating don’t be discuraged if you don’t click with someone, that just means that is not who you are suppose to click with. I met my husband in graduate school, after thinking I would never marry. I was on the shy side, and he is more outgoing.
On our first date we talked alot about our families. We were both from still married parents, had siblings, and good childhoods. Both ourselves and our families are religious. He was finishing a PhD, but did not brag about his researh, to him that was just “work”. That was a change, because so often men would spend the whole first date bragging about themselves instead of actually talking. He was very gentlemanly, got the door, etc. He was not overgroomed but was put together. (well, for a science guy he was put together).
It just clicked. We met when he was 30 and I was 26. We’ve been together for 10 years, married for 9, have 2 beautiful children and one on the way. I wouldn’t trade him for the world.
So my overall advice is be yourself. If it is meant to be it will.
“I guess, but it can be a serious issue. How long, and how consistently, a ring stays on a finger is inversely related to how big she insists it is. The best piece of advice you can give a young man is to stay away from women that believe they are entitled to fine jewelry.”
The smile face I included in my original post was a good indicator as its inflection. :D
The odd thing about #9, back when I was single, I had better luck (received more interest from women) when I had either just exercised or performed physical labor. I’m not talking about having a nasty stench, but a slight smell of sweat.
The times I went out straight from the shower, I didn’t have much luck.
I treated all my women like snowflakes.
But I finally ran out of room in my freezer.
I have to disagree with you there. If you want something more then a short term relationship you should be her friend. You just shouldn't be her "girl friend". She has female friends for that (and if she doesn't that is a major warning sign.)
But friend yes.
For a beautiful woman, a compliment on her appearance that reflects looking beyond the surface can be very effective. Such as:
I love the way your eyes sparkle when you smile!
Just make sure it’s true.
/soap box ;-P
The Man Law clearly states that "If you must hold her purse, you must hold it like a running back holds a football."
LOL at least not on the first date...burping is also a no no unless you say “excuse me”
Your screen name reminded me of the AC/DC song “Shot Down in Flames”, which, incedentally, is related to the subject of this thread:
Out on the town, looking for a woman
Gonna give me good love
Anybody want to hang out with me?
And maybe burn me up?
She was standing alone over by the jukebox
Like she’s something to sell
I said, “Baby what’s the going price?”
She told me to go to hell
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7J5SrhjNQ5g
good old song...
A good sense of humor and the ability to make a woman laugh should be #1 on any list....
Well, at least you can make them, if only one at a time.
≤}B^)
A decent list- but for me the Number One way to my heart is to make me laugh. Regularly. I was well into my thirties before I even realized it. Money, stability are good- important, even. But keep me grinning, chuckling, laughing..and I’m apt to overlook much.
I also find a man with true self-respect to be very appealing- and I don’t mean ego or “self esteem” or whatever nonsense they’re trying to ruin kids with now- but real, old-fashioned self-respect.
The way a man looks at a woman tells her a lot about him. But it cannot be faked..
Good post and good points. One thing some guys forget is when a woman pushes you around or starts taking you for granted, you boot her arse to the curb. I’ve had to do this a number of times.
I get the luxury of dating the ‘flippers’. I’ve dated 3 that I knew quite a while before dating them, everyone loves them, and were conservative women, great personalities, very attractive people all around. I met two working in the GOP.
So far into the relationship they completely go in a different direction, usually with another man. Sometimes for money, sometimes for the bad boy, sometimes for the looks, or a combo of the three.
I’ve made more money than the last 3 and spent beyond my means at times and gave to them what I didn’t have. Gave love and attention freely. I attract women of all ages. I can walk into a church or bar and be fine. Was nice but never kissed butt even when they were difficult. I’m not hot headed but will spout off if you push too far. Their kids loved me, their family loved me. We clicked, lots of physical spark.
With flippers it doesn’t matter. When they’re done they’re done. You be nice and they run over you, you stand up to them and you’re a psycho and an abuser. You just cut them off and never look back.
My last one was 50, got a small promotion from a low level bureaucrat - to a slightly higher low level bureaucrat, and suddenly she’s in the country club high society. I’ve done way more with life in the business world than she’s even thought about.
Goes back to her abusive, controlling ex-husband because he makes more than me. She’s a conservative and an officer in the local GOP, we rub shoulders with politicians all the time. It never fazed her. Now it’s all status and money, I and other friends known her for years and she’s NEVER acted like that. But that’s how flippers are.
Suffice to say at 42 I’m just completely WTF? about women right now. Sometimes I envy the older generation.
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