But you don’t know if it is a different marriage. You are assuming. Why do you doubt that she might have been married twice? Because she’s Black?
Bad kids come from families of one and two parents. It may be true that it is higher in single parent, it still doesn’t mean that every single parent has a bad kid.
She is grieving. Again, you don’t know what she had done in the years leading up to this. You are assuming.
It still doesn’t excuse the nastiness on this thread. FReepers should be above this.
Since you brought race into the equation, 75%+ births in Memphis are out of wedlock. Over 85% of babies born to blacks in Memphis are out of wedlock. According to this article, over 73% of black children are out of wedlock, so Yes it may be a guess that this woman never married and her children are out of wedlock, but it is a educated guess.
http://madamenoire.com/42945/time-to-get-serious-about-the-73-percent-out-of-wedlock-birth-rate/
I used the word “statistics”, twice.
You are making the logical error of assuming righteousness without evidence. I am saying that the *probability* that she is a person who has made bad personal choices, and is likely a bad parent, is *considerably* higher than the *probability* that she is as you described, a ‘good parent’ who is unlucky.
This is *supported* in that her deceased offspring is a repeat offender, known to the local police and having been convicted previously.
So what would a good parent do? (Select from list)
1) Give child a strong moral upbringing.
2) Discourage child from associating with peers of low moral character.
3) Limit student from travel and activities at night.
4) Seek support from any of the numerous organizations that provide constructive activities for children.
5) If you live in a bad neighborhood, or one that is a bad influence on your child, prepare to move, then move. If the urban influence is bad, move to a more suburban or even rural area.
6) If your child has been arrested, place them under strict discipline which does not end until they are an adult no longer in your care.
While you might *assume* that she did one or more of these things, again *statistically*, the odds are *strongly* that she did not.
I can back up my assertions with numbers, but you can only do so with faith and hope that maybe she is in the statistical minority.
72% of black children are born out of wedlock.
http://www.bvblackspin.com/2010/11/08/72-percent-of-african-american-children-born-to-unwed-mothers/
Various studies have shown that children raised by a single mother comprise about 70% of juvenile murderers, delinquents, teenaged mothers, drug abusers, dropouts, suicides and runaways.