Posted on 09/30/2012 12:27:22 AM PDT by Jyotishi
Divorce rates are far higher among “modern” couples who share the housework than in those where the woman does the lion’s share of the chores, a Norwegian study has found.
The report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work. Photo: ALAMY
In what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.
“What we’ve seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesn’t necessarily contribute to contentment,” said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled “Equality in the Home”.
The lack of correlation between equality at home and quality of life was surprising, the researcher said.
“One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite,” he said.
The figures clearly show that “the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate,” he went on.
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I knew I had a twin brother somewhere. LOL
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Absolutely!
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As a never married woman with an old home, CAN I CLONE YOU???
Serious question..how do you respect your wife when you look at her as subservient?
My first thought about this 'study' was just that, but it did lead to some interesting comments on the thread.
I think the reason for the higher divorce rates in these stuations is because the men married lazy wives and just got tired of a dirty house.
I'll bet I'm closer to the real story than these 'researchers' are.
Well, Peggybac. Sure you could clone me. You may want to confer with my wife though. She may want to warn you that I can be picky about her role. If my shirts or pants are not quite ready for work I can be a bit of an A** about it. I also expect the “goods” at weird hours (not that I am batting even a .500 at getting waht I want). Also, I’m too soft on the kids, allowing them to eat things, or drink soda from time to time when I know my wife would say no. When it comes to money, though, its ours together and she never has to ask for anything. Fortunately for me, she’s more frugal (see: cheap) than I, and that works well. Good luck in your search. I hope you find someone better than me. Clone a more perfect guy, because although not a “man chick” I’m not the best out there.
You mistake subordinate for subservient. It is a very foolish Captain that "looks at" his XO as a menial, and so it is with Biblical marriages.
Thanks for that. My hubby has a home based business and is happy to either let the house go, hire a little help, or do some things himself to keep me happy (working outside for our health insurance.)We too have been married 30 years, but we always say we have really been married 6 or 7 times due to re-negotiations.
In the U.S., 80% of divorces are filed by women.
My wife does most of the household chores but I go out of my way not to add to her work. That is, I pick up after myself. I put my dirty clothes in the hamper, rinse my plate off and put it in dishwasher, if I’m last out of bed, I at least attempt to make the bed, etc. When hamper is full, I take it down to the laundry room for her. When trash is full, I empty it and put new liner in. Husbands that are slobs and leave messes behind are definitely inconsiderate.
The wife should not even be subordinate..both parties should go through life/marriage as equals..
It is naive to think any partnership can endure two leaders. That type of mistake is exactly why this study demonstrates a higher incidence of divorce among the study group.
The only distinctive, in that sense, of the "Judeo-Christian" marriage is leadership falls to the husband by default.
And this talibanesque view is why people my age are running away from religion...I do respect your opinion and view but it's not for me. I love my women strong(mentally and physically), smart and independent..
FRiend, “people your age” have always run away from existential truths that offend their sense of propriety. That is what defines the difference between a liberal and a conservative, as popularly understood.
Conservatives, with age and experience, eventually accept the foundational principles upon which our universe operates, and liberals spend their entire lives trying to impose their philosophical preferences on it.
This is the seed from which Churchill’s famous comment grew.
While I appreciate your “respect” for my opinion, your description of your preferred “women” (now who’s demonstrating “talibanesque” attitudes) clearly shows you don’t understand that opinion. “Smart and independent” are not mutually exclusive of subordinate.
After all, there’s no such thing as a Navy SEAL that’s not smart and independent, but they still willingly pledge themselves to a hierarchical organization....and wouldn’t have it any other way!
In my own circumstance, I’ve been married to the same, first, wife for twenty five years. She has a professional degree that I paid for. Owns her own business with international clientele. Sits on the board of numerous charitable as well as professional associations. Holds more than one Peabody award. Regularly brings home more money than I do. Yet for all her accomplishments, she NEVER tries to circumvent decisions, or challenge our agreement that final authority for directing our family rests on me.
I submit to you no person with her list of accomplishments would EVER submit to a marital relationship as you conceive one like ours must be. Therefore, that conception must be flawed.
It's like I tell the wife, "You can tell me what to do, or you can tell me how to do it, you don't get to do both."
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