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FReeper Canteen ~ Sunday Chapel ~ LEADERSHIP AND LISTENING ~ 06 April 2014
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Posted on 04/05/2014 5:02:06 PM PDT by Kathy in Alaska
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LEADERSHIP AND LISTENING
"Listen to what I am saying," Job cried out to his "friends" in the biblical story. "That is all the comfort I ask from you. Give me a chance to speak, and then, when I am through, sneer if you like." Job didn't ask for much. But it was more than these colleagues were prepared to offer. Unfortunately, such encounters are far too frequent -- even among those we would expect to care about what we think or feel. Back in 1989, Admiral Carlisle Trost (then Chief of Naval Operations) asked a group at the Navy's Senior Enlisted Academy, "What is it that makes a leader?" His answer: "Communication, effective communication." He went on to assert that "A leader's willingness to listen, and I mean SINCERELY listen, is probably the single most important factor in the morale of a ship, squadron or unit...." Notice his emphasis on LISTENING rather than conveying information, or persuading, or even negotiating. Steven Covey, in his "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People," makes a similar point when he teaches, "Seek first to understand, then to be understood." Only when we are willing to be influenced, he says, do we give people room to release their fixed positions and consider alternatives. But how hard that is to put into practice! Isn't our normal reaction to begin framing our response while someone else is still trying to make their point; to defend our own position rather than considering another? When you consider all the OTHER barriers to communication -- such as differences in personality, temperament, background, training, culture, and sometimes even language -- it's amazing that we are able to communicate at all. Our perspectives are just so different. Still, we can listen and explore the meaning behind the words. And we can ask questions rather than simply ask if our remarks are clear. We can ask our listeners to repeat back what we've said in their own words. And we can invite dialogue rather than settle for assumptions. I'm reminded of the old adage attributed to Zeno of Citium some 300 years before Christ: "The reason we have two ears and only one mouth is that we may listen the more and talk the less." How different the world would be if we all learned the leadership (and relationship) secrets in really listening...and seeking to understand. If Covey is right, we would probably be much more effective. If Admiral Trost is right, we would probably be happier as well. Something to consider...
CAPT J. David Atwater, CHC, USN |
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To: E.G.C.
Good morning, E...((HUGS))...a Blessed Lord’s Day to you and yours.
Has your weather straightened out?
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posted on
04/06/2014 2:10:36 AM PDT
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Kathy in Alaska
((~RIP Brian...the Coast Guard lost a good one.~))
To: E.G.C.; beachn4fun; Arrowhead1952; ConorMacNessa; MEG33; LUV W; PROCON; SandRat; Allegra; ...
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posted on
04/06/2014 2:16:17 AM PDT
by
Kathy in Alaska
((~RIP Brian...the Coast Guard lost a good one.~))
To: All
Good morning/afternoon/evening/night Troops, wherever you are.
Thank you for doing your part to help keep all of us free and safe.
Thanks, unique, for the pastries.
Coffee is always on........
How about a donut?
Cookies?
Veggies?
Sandwich?
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posted on
04/06/2014 2:22:48 AM PDT
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Kathy in Alaska
((~RIP Brian...the Coast Guard lost a good one.~))
To: Jet Jaguar; txradioguy; JemiansTerror; MEG33; Laurita; CMS; OneLoyalAmerican; Defender2; ...
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posted on
04/06/2014 2:36:11 AM PDT
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Kathy in Alaska
((~RIP Brian...the Coast Guard lost a good one.~))
To: Kathy in Alaska
Sunday Morning Coffee Bump.
It looks like we're going to get some rain today. :-{}
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posted on
04/06/2014 4:13:27 AM PDT
by
E.G.C.
To: Kathy in Alaska
Lynn-dah took a walk today, for the first time since her surgery on Friday!
I was praising and thanking God the whole way.
She is still a little unsteady but she IS getting better!
Thank you for your prayers!
(((((HUGS)))))))
Prayers UP for Onyx’s Hubby.
To: Kathy in Alaska
Prayers for our dear friends onyx and her loving husband.
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posted on
04/06/2014 4:36:51 AM PDT
by
RedMDer
(May we always be happy and may our enemies always know it. - Sarah Palin, 10-18-2010)
To: Kathy in Alaska; txradioguy; StarCMC; Lady Jag; laurenmarlowe; tomkow6; GodBlessUSA; CelticLass; ...
Good morning to everyone at the Canteen. Have a Blessed Sunday.
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posted on
04/06/2014 5:22:58 AM PDT
by
Arrowhead1952
(The Second Amendment is NOT about the right to hunt. It IS a right to shoot tyrants.)
To: Kathy in Alaska
Zeus still likes exploring free in our big backyard.
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posted on
04/06/2014 6:34:17 AM PDT
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SandRat
(Duty - Honor - Country! What else needs said?)
To: All; Kathy in Alaska; Arrowhead1952; LUV W; beachn4fun; E.G.C.; SandRat; AZamericonnie; ...
Lord's Day Blessings To The Canteen
Texas Bluebonnets
Prayers For Those Injured And Mourning at Fort Hood.
~May God Keep Safe All Who Serve Our Country~
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posted on
04/06/2014 9:12:50 AM PDT
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MEG33
(God Bless And Protect Our Troops)
To: Kathy in Alaska; laurenmarlowe; BIGLOOK; alfa6; EsmeraldaA; SandRat; mylife; TMSuchman; PROCON; ...
"Dia shábháil ar fad anseo!"
Genuflectimus non ad principem sed ad Principem Pacis!
Listen, O isles, unto me; and hearken, ye people, from far; The LORD hath called me from the womb; from the bowels of my mother hath he made mention of my name. (Isaiah 49:1 KJV)
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posted on
04/06/2014 9:45:29 AM PDT
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ConorMacNessa
(HM/2 USN, 3/5 Marines RVN 1<center> <table back969 - St. Mlichael the Archangel defend us in Battle!)
To: MEG33
((HUGS))Good morning, MEG33. How’s it going?
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posted on
04/06/2014 9:54:32 AM PDT
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E.G.C.
To: E.G.C.
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posted on
04/06/2014 10:07:15 AM PDT
by
MEG33
(God Bless And Protect Our Troops)
To: Kathy in Alaska; laurenmarlowe; BIGLOOK; alfa6; EsmeraldaA; SandRat; mylife; TMSuchman; PROCON; ...
" Dia shábháil ar fad anseo!"
Genuflectimus non ad principem sed ad Principem Pacis!
Listen, O isles, unto me; and hearken, ye people, from far; The LORD hath called me from the womb; from the bowels of my mother hath he made mention of my name. (Isaiah 49:1 KJV)
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posted on
04/06/2014 10:12:43 AM PDT
by
ConorMacNessa
(HM/2 USN, 3/5 Marines RVN 1<center> <table back969 - St. Mlichael the Archangel defend us in Battle!)
To: Kathy in Alaska; laurenmarlowe; BIGLOOK; alfa6; EsmeraldaA; SandRat; mylife; TMSuchman; PROCON; ...
""Dia shábháil ar fad anseo!"
Genuflectimus non ad principem sed ad Principem Pacis!
Listen, O isles, unto me; and hearken, ye people, from far; The LORD hath called me from the womb; from the bowels of my mother hath he made mention of my name. (Isaiah 49:1 KJV) i>
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posted on
04/06/2014 10:41:17 AM PDT
by
ConorMacNessa
(HM/2 USN, 3/5 Marines RVN 1<center> <table back969 - St. Mlichael the Archangel defend us in Battle!)
To: ConorMacNessa
""Dia shábháil ar fad anseo!"
Genuflectimus non ad principem sed ad Principem Pacis!
Listen, O isles, unto me; and hearken, ye people, from far; The LORD hath called me from the womb; from the bowels of my mother hath he made mention of my name. (Isaiah 49:1 KJV) i>
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posted on
04/06/2014 10:53:22 AM PDT
by
ConorMacNessa
(HM/2 USN, 3/5 Marines RVN 1<center> <table back969 - St. Mlichael the Archangel defend us in Battle!)
To: MEG33
Good afternoon Meg and (((HUGS))). Wish we would get more rain. It poured at church this morning.
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posted on
04/06/2014 1:05:30 PM PDT
by
Arrowhead1952
(The Second Amendment is NOT about the right to hunt. It IS a right to shoot tyrants.)
To: left that other site
WOOHOO!! Lynn-Dah is on the mend. Prayers continue for her complete recovery.
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posted on
04/06/2014 6:05:36 PM PDT
by
Kathy in Alaska
((~RIP Brian...the Coast Guard lost a good one.~))
To: Kathy in Alaska
yes...Lynn-Dah is getting to be her old self again. She has amazing powers of recuperation.
Five days from now, the first layer of stitches come out, and a week after that, the subcutaneous stitches come out.
She is braver than most humans.
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posted on
04/06/2014 6:12:44 PM PDT
by
left that other site
(You shall know the Truth, and The Truth Shall Set You Free.)
To: RedMDer
Thanks, RedMDer, for the prayers for onyx and her husband, and prayers continue for you and your wife as well.
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posted on
04/06/2014 10:27:43 PM PDT
by
Kathy in Alaska
((~RIP Brian...the Coast Guard lost a good one.~))
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