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Posted on 05/13/2014 7:22:16 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
What reasons, other than religious reasons, might someone want to keep marriage defined as only the union of one man and one woman? There are actually thousands of reasons. They are born each day. Marriage must be protected to protect children.
How does that follow? How will children be affected by broadening the definition of marriage? To discover the actual truth about this complicated issue of same-sex marriage, it’s important to be correct rather than politically correct.
Let’s start by identifying the main reason we have marriage laws in the first place. The main reason the government is involved in marriage is not to recognize that two people love one another or have a romantic affinity for one another. We don’t have marriage laws to recognize the fact that you get a tingle when Barbara wears that blouse. Why should the state care about just romantic feelings?
The real reason governments have an interest in promoting natural marriage because only natural marriage perpetuates and stabilizes society. Strong marriage laws encourage men and women to procreate and then stay together to mother and father their children. That benefits children and all of society because children raised in biological two-parent homes tend to do better and cause society much less trouble than children raised in other situations.
Why is this so? Because men and women are different. Mothering and fathering are different. A mother brings unique benefits to her child that a father cannot provide and vice versa. Same sex couples always deny children in their care either a mother or a father. Only natural marriage can provide and protect the parenting unit that every child deserves—a mother and a father. That’s why limiting marriage to a man and a woman is not bigotry—it’s biology. It’s based in the biological facts of nature and the needs of children.
Homosexual activists inadvertently admit this in arguing for same-sex marriage. While they assert that men and women are the same—that there’s no difference between homosexual and heterosexual relationships so those relationships should be treated equally—their entire case denies that point. If men and women were really the same, the activists would simply marry someone of the opposite sex—which according to them is the same as someone of the same sex—and be done with it. The very reason they are demanding same-sex marriage is precisely because they know men and women are drastically different.
Since same sex and natural marriage are different behaviors that result in different outcomes, they should not be treated equally. The law must treat people equally (which it already does) but not their behaviors. When the law treats these different behaviors equally the cultural understanding of marriage changes and children get hurt.
The law is a great teacher. It shapes opinions and behaviors for generations to come. Wherever same sex marriage becomes law, the public doesn’t come to see two types of marriage—natural and same sex. It comes to understand that marriage is genderless. In other words, by dropping the gender requirement, the law helps teach society that marriage is a genderless institution merely about the romantic desires of adults and nothing about the needs of children. Well, if marriage isn’t about the needs of children, then what institution is about children? Do we really think we can divorce children from marriage and avoid negative consequences?
We can’t. In fact, we’ve been experiencing negative consequences since no-fault divorce laws passed in the 1970s. Those laws make dissolving a family too easy and should be repealed. They also help teach people that marriage is only about the desires of adults, not the needs of children. If marriage is all about my happiness and not the needs of children, then I should get divorced if I’m not “happy.” The law is teaching me that if the tingle is gone I should move on. No wonder families break up at alarming rates, and children are damaged in the process. Making marriage genderless through same sex marriage will further hurt children by annihilating their connection to marriage completely.
Making marriage genderless also impacts what we teach our children. In Massachusetts, for example, parents now have no right to even know when their kids as young as kindergarten are being taught about homosexuality, much less opt out of it. Why are we indoctrinating five year olds with any information about sex, especially homosexuality? And why is California now mandating that homosexuals must be identified in public school curriculum and only depicted in positive ways? Nothing negative can be said even if it’s true! That’s not education; that’s propaganda. Our education system is politicized and propagandized and our children are the victims.
Some states even dictate how parents educate and counsel their children outside the schoolroom. California, along with New Jersey, now make you a criminal for counseling your own child out of unwanted homosexual desires. Do you realize the totalitarian nature of this? The state has given itself the obligation to indoctrinate your children into homosexuality and taken away your parental right to counsel them out of it. Are you the parent of your own child or is the state? Is this still America?
If all of these observations make you mad, don’t blame me—I didn’t make up the facts of nature. I didn’t make up the fact that men were made for women and that babies only come from their unions. I didn’t make up the fact that mothers and fathers are different and bring unique parenting skills and benefits to their children. I didn’t make up the universe in such a way that children tend to turn out better when raised by a biological mom and dad. I didn’t make up the fact that we all have desires we ought not act on, regardless if we are born with those desires or acquire them in life. These aren’t “my” truths or my morality. They are self-evident truths. They are not hard to know—just sometimes hard to accept.
It can be summed up this way: Conservatives try to adjust their behavior to fit the facts of nature. Liberals try to adjust the facts of nature to fit their behavior. No matter how well intended, the latter is an impossible approach that often leads to tragic results.
If we truly love and care for people, we won’t abandon self-evident truths and celebrate destructive behavior. When we do, not only do children get hurt, so do many others as we’ll see in tomorrow’s column.
Good thing you are not in the NFL, because you (author) would be sent to re-education camp for saying that.
I hate that every time some homo-normative event happens in the media, this issue is forced back into the public sphere and becomes part of the cultural narrative of the moment.
The best thing we could do is stop talking about homosexuality altogether and let it die off on its own. By continuing to bring it up, we are lending credence to the idea that it’s a legitimate way to live life as opposed to the abominable behavior it truly is.
I believe in GENDER REALITY, NOT GENDER EQUALITY.
All of my beliefs that were once considered normal are now ‘controversial’ simply because they don’t tow the lines of liberals and hollywood celebrities.
Nobody with completely 180° views as mine are apologizing so I dang sure aint going to.
I believe in God the Almighty.
I believe gay is disgusting.
I believe in earning what you get.
I fly the American flag for my country and the confederate flag for my heritage.
I could give a flying rat’s patooey who likes it or don’t like it. A million divided by zero a million times is how many flips I give what someone thinks of me or my beliefs.
The proof can be seen in what happened to the black neighborhoods when welfare destroyed the black family.
I confront these guys every chance I get. It frustrates the hell out of them. One 20 year old girl cracked me up with her response. I told her about my following the aids epidemic since it was called GRID. I told her about my acquaintences in Seattle that were homosexual and their trials and tribulations. I told her about reading the Seattle homosexual rag since the 1980’s.
And on and on.
Her response? I’m ignorant.
They have nothing so they always resort to ad-hominem, even to the point of lunacy. I love getting into it with them because they simply can’t win. All of the facts are on our side. All of them.
I agree. but I would ask that you not refer to “gay”, please call it what it is, HOMOSEXUALITY. I don’t always agree with Rush Limbaugh, but he is right when he says, “Words mean things.” Gay is a word that means joyful or happy, homosexuals never seem that way to me. They seem mean and angry and bigoted again heterosexual people and call them breeders.
I agree. but I would ask that you not refer to “gay”, please call it what it is, HOMOSEXUALITY.
I was in church a few months ago and the pastor, during his sermon, used the word “gay”. Without even thinking, and loude enough for the whole church to hear, I said, “You mean homosexual.”
Gay means happy. Homosexual is anything but.
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Not only biology but common sense. Anyone who has studied Anatomy 101 understands that the anus is not an organ designed for sex. It has a fraction of the lining, nerves and muscles as a vagina. We don’t even need to get into the implications for all three . . .
Part of what got the homosexual activists panties in a twist, was the Duck Dynasty guy talking about the male anus.
I get the impression that we’re not supposed to think too much about what goes on behind closed doors in the homosexual community.
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We see homosexuality injected into so many areas of life.
We see same sex couples on TV shows. I heard some show featuring homosexual characters is going to have a same-sex wedding.
We see the Michael Sam thing, in which they are making this guy the Jackie Robinson of homosexuality. I still want to see if he makes the Rams coming out of training camp. He’s been said to be a marginal NFL prospect. But we’ll see.
The whole subject of homosexuality, cross dressers, trans-whatever peoples, is out of the closet, and these people can’t shut up. Everything seems to offend their sensibilities.
A destabilized society is the lefts goal they have been working on for years the likes of Soros,media and others fan the fire the will not win but logic will.
Spot on. I would also ask anyone interested in this issue to use the term the author uses: NATURAL marriage. Words do matter.
He also made us in His image. So creation as male and female points to marriage and marriage points to Christ and the church. The church is the Bride of Christ and Jesus Christ the Bridegroom.
Natural marriage is God's design for us. The call to love as God loves is literally stamped in our beings as male and female “the nuptial meaning of the Body.” And unfortunately for those who reject God's plan for His earthly world ...
'God always forgives, man sometimes forgives, but nature never forgives.'
This “Modern Family” show is lauded as “brave” for having 2 men together and adopting a little girl. Aside from the social commentary by that alone, the show really isn’t very funny. I’ve tried to sit through an episode and found myself more repulsed than entertained.
Hollywood makes me sick.
LOL, I’ve been banned from just about all blogs because I set them up and smack them down real quick.
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