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Thank you so much for that reply. I have been flamed for even saying things approaching it.

It is a problem. I did not pick 30% out of the blue. A blood test study did. I was shocked. I was even more shocked when I found that most states only allow a challenge to paternity within a certain time period, even if the fraud was committed on the named father.

Immagine a horrendous divorce, wife gets kids and child support and immediately marries or shacks up with the guy she's been cuckholding. Guy discovers that the kids are really her new boyfriend's, just made during their marriage.

Destroyed, shocked, humiliated, and now he finds out that the kids are legally his, because the law says even if you know they are not your children, children concieved during marriage are legally those of the married couple. If you don't make a timely challenge, the psuedo father is humiliated once again.

He gets nothing. He's not the father in manner or deed. The only thing he gets is the title of cuckhold and bill payer. What a prospect?

This is not a good system, not fair, not equitable, and not moral.

That's why some of the good guys are pissed.

Don't ask them for more.

DK

It is a charged issue without a doubt and everyone who has had any experience with it is going to have a strong reaction. Actually, that situation you described could work the other way as well. Hear me out. This is a situation I was very close to. The girl gets pregnant. The boy is a complete loser and troublemaker. Girl dumps boy. Gets new boyfriend. New boyfriend is a good guy. They want to get married. He wants to be the baby's dad. He is willing to make that commitment. If they marry before the baby is born, the law protects him as the rightful father by his simple declaration of paternity. They don't get married though, until after the baby is born. He still files a declaration of paternity and gives the baby his name. A few months later, useless sperm donor shows up and wants to make trouble. He has no real desire to be a part of the child's life or to support the child. It is more like, "if I can't be in control, neither can you." Baby gets caught in the middle and it's a real mess.

Okay, I realize that perhaps that's the exception, but I throw it out there just to point out that these issues are rarely ever black and white.

The marital presumption is asserted as often (if not more often) by the husband in order to retain legal parenthood over the children to whom he has formed an attachment, and to keep their biological father from interposing to do the same. If the ex-wife attempts to disparage the legal paternity of her ex-husband, in favor of the biological father, than can be grounds for her to lose custody.