Older women urged to become lesbians

The Mercury.au ^ | 10aug03 | Nikki Voss and Nicole Cox

[scripter]

AUSTRALIA'S leading relationship counselling body is urging lonely older single women to become lesbians.

Relationships Australia spokesman Jack Carney said men's shorter life spans, and their pursuit of much younger women, meant women in their twilight years were often forced to turn to other women for love and companionship.

Mr Carney said the government-funded support group encouraged older women to explore lesbian relationships, which were seen as more nurturing and emotionally supportive.

Older women were even pooling their resources to buy property and making pacts to form couples if they did not find a male partner by a certain age, he said.

"As they get over 60, opportunities to get a man diminish substantially. Men marry younger women and they die about eight years younger, so there is a real male shortage," Mr Carney said.

"And as women get even older it gets much worse, so we ask them to entertain the idea of lesbian relationships."

Australian Pensioner and Superannuants League secretary Yvonne Zardini said she was aware of more women moving in together in old age.

"You notice it more where women are sharing houses, but I never ask exactly what the nature of their arrangements are, but it wouldn't surprise me (if they were in same-sex relationships). Loneliness can be a terrible thing when you are older," she said.

Myra Flynn, from support group Older Dykes, said some older women "defaulted" to lesbian relationships because of a lack of men.

Others had struck up relationships with men in the 1950s and 60s only because they could not be open about their sexuality, or they wanted a child.

"It's becoming more common and I've noticed a growing trend in bisexuality," she said.

The Matrix Guild, a Victorian support group for lesbian women aged over 40, refused to comment on the Relationships Australia advice.

Census 2001 statistics show older members of society are adopting the divorce trend and are leaving life-long partners, some even in their 80s.

Mr Carney said that despite the encouragement for women to "explore other options", married and miserable was still better than alone and free, unless there was abuse.

"The best thing you can do is stay married if you want to live longer," Mr Carney said.

"When I talk to other counsellors, they are seeing many more older people coming in, but we try to tell them to stick with it. Divorce is like amputation."

Founded in 1948 as the Marriage Guidance Council, Relationships Australia is a non-profit counselling organisation funded by both the Federal and State Governments.

In response to the pensioner stampede to the divorce courts, Relationships Australia has launched two courses on how to start again in relationships in old age.

[Grampa Dave]

My Mother who died this past April and my Mother In Law who is 88 would have agreed with your Mother.

I posted this as a reality of what is happening in many of our retirement homes. This man never chased after nor persuaded any of the women who wanted sex with him. They came to him.

There have countless such stories posted on Free Republic. These agressive older women have apparently not decided to live as lesbians or nuns. Does ignoring that reality make it go away?

[FrdmLvr]

How can you urge anyone to change their sexual orientation? I thought you were born gay or straight. Which of course begs the proverbial question yet unaswered by the gay community, What about bi's?

[putupon]

If a geezerette saw this pic while having hot flashes, could they be mistaken for the "hots"? Inquiring minds want to know.

[bimbo]

... the predator homosexuals never miss an opportunity to recruit from the crib to the nursing home.

They must recruit - they cannot breed.

[scripter]

How can you urge anyone to change their sexual orientation?

Unfortunately it happens all the time. The gay agenda documents their tactics well.

I thought you were born gay or straight.

That's because the gay agenda is pushing lies. Studies indicate the major factor in determining homosexuality is environment:

• Finding a Needle in the Ocean 
• Homosexual Researchers Debunk 'Born Gay' Urban Legend  FR 
• Is Homosexuality Genetic? 
• Is Sexual Orientation Fixed at Birth? 
• Is There a "Gay Gene"? 
• The Biological Research on Homosexuality 
• The Fading "Gay Gene" 
• The Gay Gene: Going, Going...Gone 
• The Innate-Immutable Argument Finds No Basis in Science 
• What Causes Homosexual Desire and Can It Be Changed? 
• What Is "A Homosexual" 

There's also been thousands of gays who have left the lifestyle (or deathstyle, depending on your perspective).

Which of course begs the proverbial question yet unaswered by the gay community, What about bi's?

That is indeed a qood question. I think we've had it answered by gays on FreeRepublic but I can't remember their answer. Then again, I could be wrong and they've never answered the question.

[AF68]

There'll be two more available lesbos for granny when Janet Reno and Donna Shalalala break up.

[Sacajaweau]

That's exactly what she is suggesting in the article. SICK!

[Grampa Dave]

They can't breed, and the gay men die young. The older dykes we know are often in terrible health.

[verity]

Not the Oregon Department of Transportation, but Older Dykes on Trykes!

Hah!

[Grampa Dave]

Or MDOT. Mature Dykes on Trykes!

[Old Professer]

Now this is a clever idea for reducing the state's burden in caring for old folks.

[I_Love_My_Husband]

Oh yeah. And the younger ones are in terrible health as well. They have environmental illness. They walk with a cane. They're overweight. They sued some employer because of discrimination. They have some personality disorder and are taking xanax/prozac...etc. They rationalize it all out too.

There's a whole lot of dykes that were just dykes for trendy/political/mtv reasons and are now straight and live in suburbia though.