How men are harmed by abortion

The Pilot ^ | February 11, 2010 | Father Tadeusz Pacholczyk

[NYer]

Rev. Tadeusz Pacholczyk, Ph.D. earned his doctorate in neuroscience from Yale and did post-doctoral work at Harvard. He is a priest of the diocese of Fall River, MA, and serves as the Director of Education at The National Catholic Bioethics Center in Philadelphia. See www.ncbcenter.org

[NYer]

Ping!

[Redleg Duke]

It was back in the early 70s, and I had no say in the matter. In the two-week time span that I was away and two weeks of annual training with the Guard, she discovered she was pregnant, sent me a card to my home address (Big help!), got the abortion, and sent me a second card to my home address.

I stood in my living room and thought about my child, who never had a chance, because I never had a say in the decision.

Yeah, I still miss that child of mine and wonder what he or she could have done.

Yeah, abortion hurts men...it hurts really bad!

[Redleg Duke]

I meant "at two weeks of annual training", not "and two weeks of annual training".

It still hurts.

[Red Boots]

Yeah, abortion hurts men...it hurts really bad!

Oh no. That was a horrible thing that was done to you and your child. I am so sorry for your hurt, and the life that was lost.

[mockingbyrd]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your child knows you had nothing to do with his/her destruction and loves you for your grief.

[trisham]

I’m very sorry.

[Mach9]

Overall, not bad; but”responsibility” (or, more appropriately, the lack thereof) isn’t really fleshed out here. Male support of abortion reflects two linked advantages: unlimited promiscuity and at least limited immunization from child-support. Win/win for consciousless males.

More appallingly, however, instead of supporting both existing and potential legislation that would have reduced male promiscuity (in and out of wedlock) while more adequately binding them financially to their progeny, feminists chose the lowest path possible: we want a full share in the same irresponsibility and depravity available to the MOST ethics-challenged of the opposite sex. Then we’ll be equal.

And we wonder why the culture’s deteriorating.

[Happyinmygarden]

Yeah, abortion hurts men...it hurts really bad!

Then keep it in your pants. The zipper is the most reliable contraception around.

[Theo]

That’s kind of harsh to say to someone who’s mourning the loss of his baby to abortion.

Not all aborted babies come about because of extramarital sex. Sometimes a wife aborts her child, for a variety of reasons.

Yes, abstinence is 100 percent effective. But there’s more to this issue than that.

[RnMomof7]

I actually did a term paper on this topic in college.. at that time the University of Buffalo actually had a "group "for men who's "partner "had an abortion. The professor heading that group gave me a lead on finding sources.

You know men have souls and hearts too, they grieve the loss of their son or daughter, and they have anger if it was done without their consent and guilt if they were.

Abortion is not an inconsequential act that is easily forgotten as the current culture would like young people to believe

[Happyinmygarden]

Not directed to anyone in particular.

I am rather tired of the abortion argument, when adults know perfectly well what causes a pregnancy. If there were not casual sex without any attention to the possible consequences, then abortion would not be the tragedy that it is.

In fact, why are there so many abortions? If every man stopped and really made sure that an unwanted pregnancy wasn't in the mix, then the world would be a better place. The ability of women to waltz down and get an abortion is a terrible thing, but it is men who could bring an end to this tragedy if they put their minds to it.

While all forms of contraception, except absenance or sterilization, can result in a pregnancy, it is the responsibility of BOTH parties to not take chances. All the whining after the fact could be avoided IMHO.

[Lizavetta]

What people fail to see is that an abortion does not remove the "problem" from your life.

It merely makes you the parent of a dead baby. Your dead baby.

[marajade]

Edwards isn’t a good example to use. He wanted Hunter to abort his baby.

http://www.buzzhollywood.com/explore/gossip/etonline/john-edwards-aide-john-wanted-mistress-to-abort-baby/

[Ol' Sox]

@Redleg - I’ve been down that same bad road...informed after the fact by the ex-Mrs. Sox. “Genetics issue” was the excuse. It was a long time ago, and the betrayal has been forgiven. I’ve remarried and we have three children that I treasure. When I’m alone, however, my thoughts often turn to the one I never knew.

[colorcountry]

A great tragedy to those men who feel the loss....it’s a tragedy all way round.

[count-your-change]

But you did have a say in whether or not to produce a child and with whom.

[Ol' Sox]

While what you say is true, your timing sucks.

[NYer]

Thank you! for posting such an intimate and personal testimony. I truly believe the effects of abortion on men is clearly lacking in any discussions of this topic be it in the mainstream media or on the bogs.

It may interest you to know that there is a place where you can find healing from this tragedy.

Rachel's Vineyard

When you visit the site, on the link bar at the top, you will find For Men. That will take you to testimonials from other men and the opportunity to connect with others who have been victimized like you.

God speed!

[NYer]

Abortion is not an inconsequential act that is easily forgotten as the current culture would like young people to believe

See my post #19.