Posted on 04/30/2011 2:38:35 PM PDT by marshmallow
The Archbishop of York has given his backing to Prince William and Kate Middleton’s decision to live together before marriage.
The Archbishop of York backed Prince William and Kate Middleton’s decision to live together before marriage, saying that many modern couples want to “test the milk before they buy the cow”.
Dr John Sentamu argued that the royal couple’s public commitment to live their lives together today would be more important than their past.
But Anglican traditionalists criticised the Archbishop, the second most senior cleric in the Church of England, for failing to reinforce Christian teaching which prohibits sex outside marriage.
The row came as Prince William and Kate Middleton unveiled their choices for the royal wedding service, which include classically British music and hymns, and an updated choice of marriage vows in which the bride omits the word “obey”.
In a television interview, Dr Sentamu was asked whether it was appropriate for the Prince, who is in line to become head of the Church of England as King, to have been living with his bride before marriage.
He said he had conducted wedding services for “many cohabiting couples” during his time as a vicar in south London.
“We are living at a time where some people, as my daughter used to say, they want to test whether the milk is good before they buy the cow,” he said. “For some people that’s where their journeys are.
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whon said this was about sex, you can live with each pother and not have sex till marriage
love to see those stats as everyone I know lived with each other and all are married still, well minus one
Also ever heard of living with each other and not having sex?
I guess I would consider any woman that could live with me for 2 years without sex to not be compatible.
With more of the more traditional Anglicans having taken the offer from Rome to come home, over the course of time, what is called the Church of England could very well be reunited with Rome.
I hope not!
And in the long run, it is good for neither the guy, the girl, or society. God is not mocked.
You’re right it’s not about what society accepts, it’s about what God accepts.
The Archbishop of York backed Prince William and Kate Middleton’s decision to live together before marriage, saying that many modern couples want to “test the milk before they buy the cow”.Wow how sleazy is that? If this marriage lasts more than ten years (without the prince cheating with a younger Guernsey, or Kate grabbing herself a shiny new Stallion), I'll be pretty surprised.
You dated a woman for three years and remained chaste? I have to hand it to you, your self-discipline is amazing.
Viele Danke! After all, what is love if it is not unconditional? What kind of so-called “love” rejects the beloved because he or she fails to conform to some idealistic, unrealistic standard? If that was how God loved, then we would all be in mortal danger. The Bible says “God is love,” and his unconditional love for humankind - despite our utter unworthiness - is the basis for all human love.
Yes, I am the Reverend Leroy and I preach at the Church of What's Happening Now!
It's funny because it's true.
I’ve been married 29 years and my hubby and I lived together for 2 years before we married. I have no idea of the accuracy of living together making it more or less likely the marriage won’t work- but among our friends those that lived together first have stayed together.
Another thing I would like to add here- It seems to me that many who do not live together rush into marriage pretty quickly which can be a huge mistake also- absolutely don’t know each other yet.
I think ideally a couple should darn sure get to know each other for quite a while before marrying- whether they live together or not. I have two daughters that rushed into marriage not knowing the other person nearly enough. One son-in-law was a meth addict and the other was a control freak- likely on his way to being a wife-beater. Both are getting a divorce now and I sure wish they had taken longer to marry to begin with.
It's funny because it's true.
Yep. And I would add that they need to look for character traits WITHOUT love-colored glasses. REALLY look. Unfortunately, too many people let their feelings color their judgment when it comes to dating.
I got my wife to read this, and got her response. She says that neither of us were virgins, in fact we'd both been married before, so chastity would have have been just weird.
On a personal note, I am grateful I did not cohabit with my wife beforehand, as I she probably would have backed out of marrying me once she saw how imperfect I was (and am). Thankfully, we both believed marriage to be a lifelong commitment, and are now in our 23rd year.
We obviously did live together, and we're just a bit behind you. We have been together 21 years this last December, and we'll have been married for 20 years this June. I don't see a divorce on the horizon.
It's a good think this inartful man has someone else writing his sermons for him.
While they shouldn't have been cohabiting, the right choice for cohabitants is to get to the church and take the vows. So Bravo for making the right choice in the end. There are quite a few folks who started out on the wrong foot but did well. The Archbishop should not have given his approval, he should have looked forward, praised them for making their commitment, and left it at that.
My husband and I celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary in February and will celebrate 24 years together in June. Our daughter will be 13 in July.
We lived together for 5 years before we got married and actually got married while he was unemployed because of being in the midst of a worker's comp lawsuit. We've been through all kinds of h3ll, but neither of us can imagine trying to go through any of it without each other.
The Good Lord will judge us when the time comes, but I don't believe HE will look all that unfavorably on us, if for nothing else than the fact that our beautiful daughter loves Him and His Word because of the way she is being raised.
I personally find sanctimony a far worse sin than cohabiting.
A good example of why I thought the who to do about the royal wedding was sad.
It was a farce. A funeral for a great nation and people played out on a world stage.
Statistics can say lots of things. They are just numbers and can be shown to say anything the party spouting them chooses them to say.
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