Posted on 01/03/2005 8:31:56 AM PST by qam1
Was that a dirty joke?
My wife and I were the oldest of large families. We saw enough...The parents sick with worry over supporting us all, the diapers, the calls from teachers, and all the rest. All our many siblings have children, so there is no loss to the population or the family continuity. From life observations, and reading some of the more condemnatory posts, I susepct that what is behind some of the fury is the guilt some (Not a lot, but some) parents feel at, waking at 3 AM, all alone in the dark, in the deepest private secrets of their soul, wishing they had not had children, hating the soccer practice, the upcoming tuition pressures, and the whole trip.
They know they CANNOT feel this way. They MUST condemn people who do not have lives like theirs. They cling to condemning childless people, like clinging to a talisman, because NO ONE must suspect, even for a second, how they really feel.
Not to mention the vast majority of "overpopulation" whiners live in big cities. Unable to see past the ends of their collective noses, they believe the whole world looks exactly like the view outside their studio apartment windows--and we all end up hearing the moaning and kavetching!
I agree. It would have been much kinder not to have children at all than to have them and put them second to a career. Great point.
Thanks!
Wow, that's a whole lotta kids in the house! Were ya'll homeschooled, too?
LOL! Good points. I can't imagine this woman has been to too many showers, bridal or otherwise. They are only fun for the bride/mom-to-be (sometimes not even her) and possibly her mother and various other female relatives.
I didn't have a bridal shower by choice. I don't like them so why subject my family and friends to one? I can't imagine anything as stupid as a "You've Got No Kids!" shower.
See my earlier post. Madonna is the poster child on all the reasons a person should NOT have a kid, yet does. For more, just look at your local slum.
Good point...they need to be limited to only the dollars they contributed and not a penny more, no correction for inflation either...because they represent population deflation. Pio in Mass.
Not me. I think its great. There are far too many selfish couples who do have children. The fact that they know this about themselves is to their credit.
"That's not for me to decide. For my own case, I have four children. I am praying that I have good daughter and son-in-laws. I am preparing for my emotional future. I want more than anything to be the type of person others will want to be around when I am old and feeble. Others can do what they wish. I, on the other hand, want to be surrounded by family on my deathbed."
First, I hope that you aren't saying that you had kids to insure your own future. That would be just as selfish as saying that you didn't have kids to insure your own future. Having children or not having children shouldn't be all about what they can or can't do for you when you're 80. Second, I also want to be surrounded by family if I am blessed enough to die in bed at an old age. But that doesn't mean that I'm going to run out and get married and pregnant just because I fear being alone in a few decades. Third, you're assuming that someone without children and in-laws will be alone if they die in bed at an old age. Maybe you don't have siblings, close nieces and nephews, close friends, etc. and only have the immediate family your created, but that's not always the case.
Sadly, I don't agree with you. I know a few parents who don't say that they want to "give their child back", but they behave like their children are a nuisance, and I would guess that if they had it to do all over again they wouldn't have had children at all.
Sickening. My wife and I don't have kids and the reasons for that are personal. These people however, are children themselves.
LOL!! And you and your wife, of course, are NOT children because your reasons are "personal."
Your post screams hypocrisy.
Well, not totally self-centered or they'd succumb to pressure and probably become resentful and rotten parents. And any kids would be the losers.
Not at all! I think often it is very unselfish to not have kids. My argument is with those who look at this and immediately apply the "selfish" label.
Agreed!
Perhaps they should receive a refund for school taxes to make that investment.
Not even close. I will not offer a sample so you can compare and contrast.
My point was the reporter found them...they didn't find the reporter.
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