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Married, without children: Finding fulfillment with no kids
Rocky Mountain News ^ | 1/3/05 | Mark Wolf

Posted on 01/03/2005 8:31:56 AM PST by qam1

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To: Tijeras_Slim
We're not kid people.

And yet you hang around with me, martin, CD, and presidio. :-)

101 posted on 01/03/2005 9:09:44 AM PST by TheBigB ("Eat my rubber!"--Clark W. Griswold, Jr.)
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To: DennisR

"Being childless and having abortions are from the same root: selfishness. Period, end of story. If you could have, but do not have, kids, why waste the oxygen? I know this is harsh, but..."

You can only apply this attitude to someone whom you absolutely know to be childless for nothing but selfish "I don't want to take the time to care" reasons. The problem is that so many people who think like you apply this attitude to someone BEFORE understanding why they are childless. It may not stem from selfishness and isn't your business anyway. So don't assume that selfishness is the root, as you put it, when you just don't know.


102 posted on 01/03/2005 9:10:03 AM PST by susiek
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To: freedumb2003
You disagree that self-centered people should not have children or do you disagree that people who say their owne lives are too important to raise children are self-centered ?

And there is no evidence, anecdotal or otherwise, that child-free couples vote liberal.

You must have missed all the articles regarding the strongest indication of who voted for whom. Childless folks went for Kerry, while parents went for Bush.

103 posted on 01/03/2005 9:10:18 AM PST by Raycpa (Alias, VRWC_minion,)
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To: DennisR

In my opinion it's better to not have kids than to have kids and make a mess of the raising of them. Perhaps the people in the article don't feel as if they're cut out to be parents.


104 posted on 01/03/2005 9:10:22 AM PST by durasell (Friends are so alarming, My lover's never charming...)
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To: cyborg
The hostility comes from the fact that this is a conservative website that often discusses things like abortion,etc. The idea that people wouldn't want to have children sounds strange to some people. It really IS no one's business but they opened it up for discussion by putting themselves in a news article.

I agree that this couple opened the door to this discussion. However, I'm just not sure why people are so hostile to them choosing not to have kids. I don't really buy the idea that having kids is some sort of magical, wonderful thing. All it takes is a couple of drunk 16 year-olds and poor attention to birth-control.

In any event, these two do strike me as sort of whiny, but it is true that once your friends start having kids, your friendship is more or less over at that point.

105 posted on 01/03/2005 9:10:37 AM PST by Modernman (What is moral is what you feel good after. - Ernest Hemingway)
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To: qam1

To all the people calling these folks "selfish":

Do you think married people who don't want children should have them???

Stop and think for a moment.


106 posted on 01/03/2005 9:10:43 AM PST by k2blader (It is neither compassionate nor conservative to support the expansion of socialism.)
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To: econ_grad

LOL. I can certainly relate to that. I have figured that each week visiting them translates into six months of therapy. ;-)


107 posted on 01/03/2005 9:11:00 AM PST by BikerNYC
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To: lonevoice
I've never seen a demographic. But, every childless by choice person that I know in my age group (Boomers) is a conservative Republican.

Yep, same with the childless by choice friends that I have.

108 posted on 01/03/2005 9:11:15 AM PST by katnip (Defeating John Kerry is like giving Vietnam Veterans the Homecoming they never had)
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To: tallhappy; All

This is a propaganda thing.

The left wants to equate the childless "normal" couples (aka DINKs) with unable-to-produce children homosexual couples.

This is about making marriage not part of childraising

As for the woman complaining about not getting a party for not having children. Nobody is throwing her a party for NOT climbing Mount Everest either.


109 posted on 01/03/2005 9:11:21 AM PST by longtermmemmory (VOTE!)
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To: Prime Choice
There is no cultural celebratory template for women who decide not to have children.

Selfish is right. Well, all of these couples had better get on board with open borders. We'll need illegals to have all the children who will work and pay taxes, in order to support social security in 20 years. Read Mark Steyn. Look at the enlightened Eurasian Empire and consider...

110 posted on 01/03/2005 9:11:34 AM PST by January24th
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To: Tax-chick
I'm sure they went and hogtied this reporter in order to spread their tail of woe right?
111 posted on 01/03/2005 9:11:57 AM PST by Durus
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To: killthedonkey

You don't know what kind of groups I'm referring to. I'm not talking about some sort of church group, or conservative couples. I never said being childless was a bad thing. I was referring to these little liberal coffee klatches where they all get together and pat themselves on the back for not having kids and being smarter than women who stay at home.


112 posted on 01/03/2005 9:11:59 AM PST by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: rlmorel
Don't you agree that there are some people who you wish had thought a bit harder about whether they were suited to raising children or not?

That's not for me to decide. For my own case, I have four children. I am praying that I have good daughter and son-in-laws. I am preparing for my emotional future. I want more than anything to be the type of person others will want to be around when I am old and feeble. Others can do what they wish. I, on the other hand, want to be surrounded by family on my deathbed.

113 posted on 01/03/2005 9:12:57 AM PST by Slyfox
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To: k2blader

"To all the people calling these folks "selfish":

Do you think married people who don't want children should have them???

Stop and think for a moment."

And do you really think that the only reason someone doesn't have kids is selfishness? Unless you have quotes straight from that person like those in the article, you can't know why someone is childless and cannot assume a selfish motive.



114 posted on 01/03/2005 9:13:23 AM PST by susiek
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To: January24th
Selfish is right. Well, all of these couples had better get on board with open borders. We'll need illegals to have all the children who will work and pay taxes, in order to support social security in 20 years.

So we should have kids so that they can pay for social security when we get old? That's not selfish?
115 posted on 01/03/2005 9:13:41 AM PST by BikerNYC
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To: Tijeras_Slim


We're not kid people.

We could've related to that. I also didn't relish the idea of working, paying bills, and being responsible in general. Maturity comes with accepting that responsibility and is rarely there before it is needed. That said, we now have 9 children and I wouldn't choose a different lifestyle.


116 posted on 01/03/2005 9:13:43 AM PST by freedomfiter2
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To: freedumb2003
"...don't elevate people who have kids to some sort of selfless status. It just ain't so."

The term "most likely" may not be 100% accurate, but it does leave out many people. I have seen people decide to HAVE children for all the wrong reasons as well.

117 posted on 01/03/2005 9:13:53 AM PST by TommyDale
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To: countess
These are the first people to remind you of what a tremendous sacrifice they have made.

Bingo!

118 posted on 01/03/2005 9:13:57 AM PST by Minuteman23
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To: Future Snake Eater; Tax-chick

Seventh of nine children here. You don't see many such large families these days. Good luck Tax-Chick!


119 posted on 01/03/2005 9:14:19 AM PST by Rummyfan
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To: qam1
Wow--I would do anything, including having a kid, to avoid being a self-centered leftist a-hole like those people.

To do:
1. knock up girlfriend....

120 posted on 01/03/2005 9:14:20 AM PST by Cogadh na Sith (--Scots Gaelic: 'War or Peace'--)
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