Posted on 08/08/2005 2:17:45 PM PDT by jb6
These children are technically not "orphans," they have been removed from abusive homes.
It is probably better for them in these homes with loving, and professional caregivers, than adopted to a foreign family.
And I spoke plenty of Russian when our kids came home. But it didn't stop them from setting fires, explaining to me how to torture a cat, or spitting on me and refusing any food from my hands(while later stealing it from the fridge at night), lying in the obvious face of evidence to the contrary, and quite frankly, making the use of the word "child" seem to be completely ridiculous.
In the meantime you take this child out in public and they become little angels and everyone is fawning over them, having been charmed into oblivion by a mere child. You begin to want to take the last piece of furniture the child set on fire with you on outings to show everyone.
It's very difficult to humanely parent a child who is not attached to you and actually more or less hates you. You just spent a small fortune to add a child to your family and you have been dying to put your arms around this kid for a year now, and she comes home and spits on you and bites you.
We actually did a television talk show about being afraid of your (adopted) child.
Tania is 16 now and doing pretty well, though probably harboring some oppositional stuff beyond the norm for a teen. I remember well how much I despised her at one point, though. Our attachment counselor told me to put her in daycare and she only lasted a few days. They called to tell me she was tripping the other children and laughing at them when they fell. She was like that movie, The Bad Seed, and I am not kidding. I would never have made it without hurting her if not for my husband and our church.
Yes, sadly, it is exactly the parental stuff that makes them go round the bend in attachment disorders. My kids thrived in institutional settings at first. It was when they hit up on family intimacy that they became angry and hateful. And certainly they had reason to have those kinds of feelings, as I know our oldest was removed from her birthparents at age 5 for horrid neglect.
It just doesn't occur to these kids that not all parents will be like the first set they had.
They all have told me that as soon as they are 18, they are headed back to Russia. Go figure.
"My mother gets paranoid when I travel..."
Speaking as a mom myself I must say children, of any age, should always stay home. And if they go out, they must remember to wear a jacket!
What about clean underwear?
Yet for some reason an arrest was made here.
"They all have told me that as soon as they are 18, they are headed back to Russia. Go figure."
I doubt they will stay if they do go back. Russia is one of the most depressing countries on the planet.
i think some of these comments are just plain rude sorry, and if kids want to go back to the country they were born in and plus you can’t make them stay in a place they may not want to be at and some russian kids that do get adopted by american familys they treat them very well and are healthy cuz some people do care about kids.
37 lbs? How often was he seeing a doctor?
this article lies the people did abuse and hurt dennis and his sibling. this article lies
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