And unlike Dr. Spock, W. Cleon Skousen actually raised kids, including a bunch who weren't his own.
Children’s Books Gift Package
http://www.drlaurashop.com/product.php?id=18
Parenthood By Proxy
http://www.drlaurashop.com/product.php?id=44
Stupid Things Parents Do To Mess Up Their Kids
http://www.drlaurashop.com/product.php?id=43
Dr Laura recommends books
http://www.drlaura.com/reading/
Dare to Discipline, by Dobson.
Encyclopedia Brown
( I loved em,after I could read of course)
“Dare to Discipline,” James Dobson.
When you have to say no, explain why.
If you are Christian pray with him and teach him the love of God, why and how Christ died on the cross for our sins,prepared a place in Heaven for His children.
The love for your son will lead you to be the best Dad you can be.
May God Bless you and your precious son.
And unlike Dr. Spock, W. Cleon Skousen actually raised kids, including a bunch who weren't his own.
The “Teaching Your Children” books by Richard and Linda Eyre:
Teaching Your Children Values
Teaching Your Children Responsibility
Teaching Your Children Joy
Teaching Your Children Sensitivity
(they’ve written a bunch of other books too, but these are the only ones I’m familiar with)
They also have a website, though it’s mostly oriented to selling you their various programs. http://www.valuesparenting.com/
They’re LDS, but nothing in the books is specific to their religion.
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Giving the Love that Heals a Guide for Parents, by Dr. Harville Hendricks
This book will help you to heal the wounds to this little soul. And unless he father is a threat him, by all mens encourage him to love his dad and to have a good relationship with him.
Dr. Hendricks is also a minister as is his wife.
My son found the “Captain Underpants” series fairly stimulating.
Good luck! I like John Rosemund’s books. Very sensible.
Whatever you do, remember that you are not raising a boy, you are raising a man.
Also, unless there is some extremely dangerous reason not to, make sure the boy spends as much time with his father as possible and never never run his father down in front of the boy.
While your request is a little odd, you may want to consult NAMBLA.
I am sure NAMBLA has many books on the subject.
Not books, but from experience:
1) Consistency in discipline
2) Despite divorce, work as a team - don’t undermine each other’s authority in the eyes of the child. If a punishment has been given by the other (e.g. one week without t.v. for something), enforce it together, no matter whose house he is staying at.
3) Always demonstrate good moral character. Don’t lie to someone in front of him (even the little ones like “Tell Aunt Jean I’m in the shower”, while you’re standing right there). Model kindness and compassion to other people - not that phony baloney talk but no action, but have him see you being good to people who need help, even when you are having a bad day.
4) Always remind him of the consequences of his actions. When he does something that hurts someone else, show him how his actions hurt others. When he does something good for someone else (like befriending the bullied kid) show him how his bravery and kindness have made a difference in someone else’s life.
5) If you are religious, take him to church, where he can see a whole community of adults who live their faith.
and of course: love, love, love
Good luck to you!