Posted on 08/29/2007 2:18:39 AM PDT by Caipirabob
A few years ago, my husband, Mark, and I were at one of those hip downtown restaurants sipping mojitos and nibbling on lime-spiked seviche when one of my bosses appeared from a cloud of Cuban-cigar smoke and patted my shoulder. When I introduced him to Mark, he naturally asked what he did for a living. We both froze.
"I do some freelancing," Mark said.
"He studied film at NYU," I said at the same time.
Mark looked at me and shrugged. "I stay home with our daughter," he said, as my colleague quietly balked.
"He makes it possible for me to do my job," I said, laughing. But inside, I was mortified. Technically, I had it all back then, including a gorgeous toddler and a cool job.
What I didn't have was a husband I felt proud of.
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Its time we stop letting this be an excuse for anything. The school has my son for six hours a day. 1 1/2 hours of that are recess and lunch and sometimes P.E.. I have my kids the rest of the time and use that to teach them how they should be. I am an example to my kids of what a man should be and how they should act. I teach my kids the real history of America and correct the teachers when they tell lies about America or health or God or anything else and I tell them why teachers or others would lie about such things. I tell my kids to think for themselves and ask me if they have a question about curriculum. I will not hesitate to defend my kids but also make sure they know the teacher is in charge and getting in trouble in school will get them in trouble at home.
My wife and I have more influence over my kids than some damn school curriculum.
You are right too.. we can survive horrible losses to war, economic catastrophe but if we don’t reproduce and or pass on our beliefs we die.
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I am glad that you ¨get it¨.
We are in a serious civil war against Marxism. You are correct that Marxists and their useful agents are in very powerful positions.
Government schools are their most important weapon.
There aren’t a million like her. At most, there are 50,000 like her in the entire country. And they are centered in three or four metropolitan areas. She’s a type, but a harmless type.
You get my Coffee Spew post of the morning!
It’s probably the bragging about it that’s egregious.
And oh yes, a magazine spread image/lifestyle is often a requirement for some jobs.
With unemployment below 5%, this guy couldn't find a job? What he really meant to say is that he couldn't find a job in the extremely obscure and competitive field of "film making," where there are very few employment opportunities, and that he was unwilling to adapt to the real world and find a real job, even if temporary, while waiting for the door to open in his chosen field.
As Charles Darwin said,"In the struggle for survival, the fittest win out at the expense of their rivals because they succeed in adapting themselves best to their environment." This guy's wife dumped him as a result of his inability to adapt. Hopefully, his gene pool has come to a dead end.
If she wrote it honestly, it would be more interesting, i.e. “Hubby hated everything about my job, except the money...”
There are actually quite a few jobs in film making in NYC. You just have to be willing to fetch dry cleaning and coffee for a couple of years.
This struck me as well. He was the primary care-giver, why didn't he get custody, child support and alimony while mommy pursues her trophy husband?
No doubt, but the number of jobs is far less than the pool of qualified applicants. This guy's unwillingness to do something, anything, while chasing the limited oppurtunities is what makes him a loser.
She didn't find a second husband so much as a new fashion accessory. A guy whose hobby is translating poetry?! How trendy.
The verbal and promotional skills of this class magnifies their importance greatly beyond their numbers.
In my very young days and in need of cash, I worked on movie sets. It was interesting in retrospect, but hellish at the time. The number of people who pass through that business is incredible. If you went to NYU and can’t get a job doing something in movies or television, then you’ve got serious issues. Hell, even “Radio Man” works.
This guy’s problem is that he had an inflated vision of his own worth, and wasn’t going to take just a job unworthy of his graduate degree.
All of that is pretty much in the subtext of the piece. Living in NYC I’ve seen this exact situation a dozen times.
"And when I got home, I seethed. I couldn't walk across the living room without tripping over some plastic toy or container of wipes. The baby was in the same little nightgown she'd slept in the night before. There wasn't a hint of dinner on the horizon. He was home all day—couldn't he at least run a freaking load of laundry?"
If this is true then she does have something to b*tch about. When I am off work for whatever reason I am a lazy slob... for about 3 days. After that I just can't do nothing around any more, I have to work.
Fortunately my wife knows this, so she just lets me get it out of my system, then reaps the benefits of a bored husband who is a neat freak. This guy should have the house clean, the kid taken care of and all the other stuff done.
If your going to be a stay at home dad, then BE a stay at home dad, butch up, and do it the best you can.
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