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She's happily married, dreaming of divorce
CNN ^ | 8/26/2008 | Ellen Tien

Posted on 08/26/2008 12:53:43 PM PDT by Red in Blue PA

I contemplate divorce every day. It tugs on my sleeve each morning when my husband, Will, greets me in his chipper, smug morning-person voice, because after 16 years of waking up together, he still hasn't quite pieced out that I'm not viable before 10 a.m.

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Maybe one day, marriage -- like the human appendix, male nipples, or your pinky toes -- will become a vestigial structure that will, in a millennium or two, be obsolete. Our great-great-great-grandchildren's grandchildren will ask each other in passing, "Remember marriage? What was its function again? Was it that maladaptive organ that intermittently produced gastrointestinal antigens and sometimes got so inflamed that it painfully erupted?"

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous
KEYWORDS: culturewars; divorce; ellentien; feminism; marriage; mememe; narcissism; oprah
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To: JRandomFreeper
Celibate, single, and solvent seems to be the correct direction, these days.

No kidding, it's the only way to go. Was married/divorced once.... no more.
61 posted on 08/26/2008 1:41:07 PM PDT by plsvn
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To: Red in Blue PA

I initially enthusiastically agreed with all the comments here ( morning/night person debate aside.)

After I read the article, I decided to cut her a little more slack after I got to the part where he hit her with the car. I know it was an accident, but I can understand her being slow to get over it.

So now I agree slightly less enthusiastically with the comments here. :)


62 posted on 08/26/2008 1:42:28 PM PDT by murdoog (http://babydoc3.livejournal.com)
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To: Red in Blue PA

Liberals don’t like marriage because they are such foul, nasty, hate-filled vermin that no one likes them. They have to meet in social settings like coffee shops where the odor of coffee outweighs their body odor and there is no commitment past the few hours at the coffee shop.


63 posted on 08/26/2008 1:42:42 PM PDT by CodeToad
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To: everyone
I did twenty years, that was enough. Now I am no longer overdrawn, overextended, lonely, and horny. I have found someone that does not spend all her time, her effort, her passion, and all my money on extra curricular activities.
And one other thing, I am a night person. I hate arrogant smiling happy-hearts that wake up whisteling in the morning.....GRRRRRRRR.
64 posted on 08/26/2008 1:44:21 PM PDT by nuadvntur
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To: everyone
I did twenty years, that was enough. Now I am no longer overdrawn, overextended, lonely, and horny. I have found someone that does not spend all her time, her effort, her passion, and all my money on extra curricular activities.
And one other thing, I am a night person. I hate arrogant smiling happy-hearts that wake up whisteling in the morning.....GRRRRRRRR.
65 posted on 08/26/2008 1:45:08 PM PDT by nuadvntur
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To: HamiltonJay

I doubt that she’s hot now...Lib women are generally bitter because they didn’t get asked to prom.


66 posted on 08/26/2008 1:46:23 PM PDT by mpackard (Proud mama of a Sailor.)
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To: ZGuy

I am definitely not a morning person. My husband is even worse. He’s known to work until 3am.

My parents were morning people, and now it looks like my son is. One of my daughters is definitely not, and I’m not sure about the other one.

The only problem I have is that school is definitely not made for nightowls. My son just started high school, and he has to be there at 7:40. I hate it. What’s funny is he is up much earlier than me and is very chipper. I just need a coffee.

I think life is easier for morning people, so I’m glad my son likes the morning.


67 posted on 08/26/2008 1:46:51 PM PDT by luckystarmom
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To: Red in Blue PA
Oh, how sophisticated, how witty, how modern is this woman!

In her own mind.

68 posted on 08/26/2008 1:47:04 PM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: Westbrook

9 kids, 5 married, 21 grandkids.

We ARE OUTBREEDING the liberals.


69 posted on 08/26/2008 1:48:10 PM PDT by Alouette (Vicious Babushka)
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To: Alouette

If you allow libs to educate them, though, all you are breeding are new liberals.


70 posted on 08/26/2008 1:52:21 PM PDT by MrB (You can't reason people out of a position that they didn't use reason to get into in the first place)
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To: Red in Blue PA
Someone might want to tell Ellen that the appendix and tonsils are now considered organs of great use in the human body. For decades Doctors thought they had no use and could be removed at the drop of a hat with no repercussions. But now they know that both organs are an important part of the immunity system.

I think Ellen might find out why marriage is an important part of society when she thinks beyond her own selfish wants.

71 posted on 08/26/2008 1:54:55 PM PDT by Anitius Severinus Boethius
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To: Politicalmom

My husband and my daughter are the same way.

My daughter is so difficult to get her out of bed in the morning for school. Then she it is so hard to get her to finish her homework after school.

However, she gets a second wind around 8:00, and she will spend hours doing extra math or spelling worksheets in her bed. I’ll think she is in her room asleep, and then I’ll go make my rounds before I go to bed and I’ll see her light still on. It will sometimes be after 11. Of course, then she is tired the next day.

If she wanted to homeschool, I would let her sleep late (10 or 11), and then do school late for her. I think she would do great with that schedule.


72 posted on 08/26/2008 1:57:25 PM PDT by luckystarmom
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“Dreaming of divorce”

Did you notice it’s always women in their 40’s. I believe it could be due to hormone imbalance (pre-menopause). I’ve seen it with people who had the best marriages, the woman just gets funny and up and leaves. Poor guy tries to figure out what the hell he did wrong. And the answer is nothing.

Just in case you are wondering, I am a 40 something female. Didnt post this to be sexist.


74 posted on 08/26/2008 2:09:13 PM PDT by mouse1 (I'VE BEEN CALLED A REDNECK BIGOT AND I'M PROUD OF IT!!)
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To: al_c

Someone post a picture of Peg and Al Bundy!


75 posted on 08/26/2008 2:12:04 PM PDT by JSDude1 (It;s only a protest vote if your political worldview is Republican 1st, conservative 2nd-pissant)
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To: luckystarmom
My daughter is home-schooled, so theoretically she could wake up and go to bed whenever she wants as long as she does her studies. Still, being a morning person, it's really hard not to want her to get up early to hit the books.

My wife is like your husband though, and it does have a major effect upon a marriage when the two are wildly different. In 15 years of marriage I can probably list the number of times we've gone to bed at the same time on one hand, and they were on our honeymoon. Talking before we fall asleep . . . or holding each other . . . or chatting when we wake up? Never happens.

76 posted on 08/26/2008 2:19:47 PM PDT by ZGuy
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To: Red in Blue PA

A truly sickening and depressing article.


77 posted on 08/26/2008 2:20:39 PM PDT by Unlikely Hero ("Time is a wonderful teacher; unfortunately, it kills all its pupils." --Berlioz)
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To: Red in Blue PA

Representative lines:

“No. Your husband is not your best friend. Your best friend is your best friend. If your husband were your best friend, what would that make your best friend — the dog? When a woman tells me that her husband is her best friend, what I hear is: I don’t really have any friends.”

Yeesh. Somebody needs to get laid. And I don’t think her husband wants any part of that.


78 posted on 08/26/2008 2:22:42 PM PDT by Unlikely Hero ("Time is a wonderful teacher; unfortunately, it kills all its pupils." --Berlioz)
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To: shrinkermd

In a good marriage, the husband and wife are best friends. The author is just jealous of all the women who are best friends with their husbands and that’s why she feels the need to denigrate them. And only a complete idiot could make the jump from “My husband is my best friend” to “I don’t really have any friends.” Biggest logical fallacy I’ve seen in years.

What a bitter and negative person this author is. She lives an empty and miserable life and it’s a lifestyle of her own choosing. And did she even stop to think what kind of effect her article would have on her husband if he read it, or worse - if his boss read it?

The sad thing is that many men will think all women are like this and post their own bitter experiences. We’re not all like the author. I certainly have nothing in common with her.


79 posted on 08/26/2008 2:23:24 PM PDT by JillValentine (Being a feminist is all about being a victim. Being an armed woman is all about not being a victim.)
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To: Alouette

> 9 kids, 5 married, 21 grandkids.

PRAISE THE LORD!!

Hope you are homeschooling them, too.

> We ARE OUTBREEDING the liberals.

Indeed, but they are importing their voters.

Nevertheless, the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.


80 posted on 08/26/2008 2:24:26 PM PDT by Westbrook (Having more children does not divide your love, it multiplies it.)
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