When A Woman Isn't In The Mood: Part I (Dennis Prager On Why Sex Is So Important To A Man Alert)

Townhall.com ^ | 12/23/2008 | Dennis Prager

[Razz Barry]

6. Then there’s the woman who knows that if her husband truly wanted sex, he’d have taken out the trash and helped with the dishes.

[EBH]

I agree, his denial was the first prompting to start thinking of a divorce. To read this issue dismissed out of hand here is aggravating.

When it comes to sexual relations between a committed couple, it is important to both sexes to understand that denial is a serious dysfunction of the relationship.

[Kozak]

A man whose wife frequently denies him sex will first be hurt, then sad, then angry, then quiet.

Then on the prowl.

[bikerman]

I am tired of being told that women don’t have sex drives.

You havent met my wife.

[bikerman]

I get sex every 3 months its a reminder for me to pay my quarterly taxes, oral sex its time to renew my drivers license.

[Tolerance Sucks Rocks]

6. Then there’s the woman who knows that if her husband truly wanted sex, he’d have taken out the trash and helped with the dishes.

That's porn for women, right there. :-)

[Chinstrap61a]

I read this article and was struck with its simple truth and I am surprised and saddened to see the dissenting responses from some of female posters.

People that have a rich and rewarding marriage "get it". Those that look at this article and scoff should start looking for a good divorce lawyer.

[goldstategop]

There's truth in that. A woman will not react the same way a man would. Most men though quickly learn to appreciate and live with the differences. Men I think, don't want to be with someone exactly like them. A woman shows a man a view of the world that he can't always see from his own viewpoint. The benefit of another perspective is always helpful in life and is also conducive to true happiness.

"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus

[goldstategop]

A marriage about good communication, appreciation and respect. You give those things to your partner, you get love and you have great sex together. Those things don't just come out of the blue. It takes years to cultivate them and a good marriage, like anything in life, must be nurtured and worked at to be a success. Sex has its place in a marriage but it alone will not make a marriage thrive unless attention is paid to the non-sexual parts of a marriage as well. In this day and age the first thing people should give priority to is to the people they love.

"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus

[goldstategop]

A couple has to tell each other what they want and what their expectations are. People have this fantasy that their partner knows what to give them without having to be asked and they get hurt when the other person doesn't know. People can't read minds so tell each other what you need. It may not look romantic but it can save you from being hurt and looking downright stupid. And it can only improve your love life and your marriage.

"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus

[olezip]

This is a major reason many husbands clam up. A man whose wife frequently denies him sex will first be hurt, then sad, then angry, then quiet. And most men will never tell their wives why they have become quiet and distant.

Having been married to the same woman for more than two score years, I find the article by Dennis Prager to be right on!

In some cases women know this and use sex as a weapon to punish their spouse for whatever reason. When we hear of a divorce or separation, the question of the health of the sexual relationship of the estranged couple comes up.

Furthermore, in today's world with most married women with their own careers and work responsibilities, I can understand their not being in the mood owing to physical and emotional exhaustion from commuting and working daily. Watching couples struggle because of the new work ethic for women, makes me glad I did not have to deal with that dimension of a relationship.

[Caipirabob]

"If my man wants my body, my body he shall have, period."

All these comments are bringing out my "inner Austin Powers"...

YEAH, BABY!

; )

[Caipirabob]

‘Townhall’ should stick to politics and not the politcs of sex. . .

OTOH, after the last election, I haven't really wanted to think about politics. The change of subject kind of reflects my thinking.

[DainBramage]

A couple of black eyes and shell get in the mood more often. (;)

[wafflehouse]

i’d like to buy whoever wrote this a steak dinner

[Chinstrap61a]

"A marriage about good communication, appreciation and respect. You give those things to your partner, you get love and you have great sex together. Those things don't just come out of the blue. It takes years to cultivate them and a good marriage, like anything in life, must be nurtured and worked at to be a success."

Yeah, sure, no kidding - but if your wife, your "partner for life", repeatedly rejects you...the relationship is doomed for exactly the reasons the author cited.

When your wife rejects you, you take it very personally and no amount of pompous twaddle offsets that effect.

[arasina]

Good grief. It’s a little bit of heaven on earth, and some folks talk about it like it was taking out the trash. It draws me incredible closer, and having read some of the posts here, it sounds as if it drives some people apart just thinking about it.

I agree wholeheartedly, DoughtyOne. It's definitely a little bit of heaven on earth. And, I agree with all of Dennis Prager's points in the article. His conclusions are backed up by good reasoning.

[Wildbill22]

For men sex IS more of a body function that requires regular attention, one way or another. The prostate requires draining on a regular basis, or it causes insanity. Any man will agree with that statement. That is a fact, and there is no choice.

Animals? Well that is a little more than degrading regarding men’s nature, but men are more in touch with their animal nature, without which there is no sex, love or marriage. And as the article mentions, sexual restraint is a direct result of loving a particular woman.

Maybe men have difficulty understanding women because they are so different, but contrary to what they believe women have even less idea as to what men are and they have even less incentive to want to understand unless they really truly want their man to be happy because of the traditional roles of men as the aggressor/initiator and women as the chooser, and this article is right on. This article is required reading, and thanks for posting it.

[arasina]

I REALLY think Prager has lost it.

Why? Don't you believe making love is essential to a good marriage?

[Hardastarboard]

it is important to both sexes to understand that denial is a serious dysfunction of the relationship.

I always characterize it as an inability to be emotionally intimate with another person. I've been the victim of this, and know several people with this issue. It's sad, and it hurts everyone involved.

A poster above said that to get a woman in the mood, you have to talk to her. I characterize that as re-humanizing the relationship, and becoming emotionally intimate again in order to achieve physical intimacy.