next year will be my 40th... haven't been to one yet, and still don't want to see any i don't still on a regular basis
Posted on 05/18/2012 7:22:19 PM PDT by floridavoter2
A woman who was bullied mercilessly in high school 25 years ago has gotten some closure from a class reunion page on Facebook.
Lynda Frederick, a graduate of Orange Glen High in Escondido, Calif., in 1987, posted a heartbreaking poem about her experience on her school's 25th class reunion page.
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I agree 100%!! That was then, this is now. Get over it!
Who WASN”T picked on, teased, whatever in school. Kids can be vicious. It’s a fact of life. PARENTS are called upon to correct it, but then, not now! I am sick of hearing about this.
If someone is being beat up, or anything physical, not just a prank or teasing, then that is beyond bullying, that is assault and the schools need to step in. But even then, it was in school! Once you are an adult, you are expected to understand the fact that kids are stupid and do stupid things. GET OVER IT! What kind of pathetic life must an adult live to wallow in self pity over things that happen in a school?
Had a friend who went to a different school than I did.
This was in the late sixties. She was hyperfocused on a guy who wore suits and suit jackets and a pocket protector and carried a briefcase. He was sorely bullied by kids in his school.
My friend uesed to go on for long periods of time about how discusting this poor soul was. This normally nice woman became an angry vindictive witch.
Years later she was angry because at her HS reunion the guy had not attended but instead wrote a pretty pointed letter telling peoople how much he had suffered in high school. This women three decades later was raging that he was trying to ruin every one’s good time.
No insight. No compassion, me, me, me.
She grew up to be a major leftist. Dropped our 30+ year friendship when Bush won his second term.
Standing up to the lone bully, that almost nobody likes, could well work.
When bullying has gotten organized into a gang, things are dicier.
AMEN !
next year will be my 40th... haven't been to one yet, and still don't want to see any i don't still on a regular basis
No they shouldn’t shut up and take when it is going on. But once they are adults, yes. Like this woman in the article.
ROFL isn’t it the truth!
As an FYI ... I think Columbine-like incidents are almost always a response to the second type of situation, not the first.
Your post was excellent, from start to finish.
The advise that some people give, like "be a man, stand up to your bully", might work in some limited cases. But in general it's naive to the point of being silly.
I was an urban school teacher for quite a few years. I've never seen a bully back down. I'm sure it happens, but I've never seen it. What I have seen is a bully and his "posse" kick a victim senseless until help could arrive.
And what's worse are comments like "there have always been bullies, get used to it." Tell that to the kid laying on the floor with a broken rib (yeah, I saw that too).
I am aware of one case involving a very specific situation where a relative was being bullied by a kid who happened to be the son of a respected local physician. The parents of the victim had a hard time getting anyone at the school to do anything, partly because of the aggressor's family influence in town, etc.
The father of the victim rightly figured that a certain measure would work in this situation that might not work in other cases. He simply called the doctor at his office one day, identified himself, and said that if the bully ever picked on his son again, he was qoing to drive right over to the doctor's office and kill him in front of his patients and staff. Of course, this was a big risk but he figured it wasn't likely there would be any evidence to support a criminal charge against him for making a threat like this.
The bully never showed up in that school again. He was sent to a private school, and the problem was solved. With certain types of parents who have a lot to lose, the most effective thing you can do is convince them that they're dealing with someone who is nuts and has nothing to lose.
Sorry,.I cant agree with you. The bully problem makes life miserable for the kids that are bullied. The so called adults in the schools actuallt participate in it so they too can be cool by picking on the kids. The school administrators should be personally liable for civil damages when they fail to step in to stop it. Then it would stop. Bullying is a terrible terrible thing and you are very wrong to try and diminish the seriousness of the problem
What is terribly different today than 50 years ago, is racial violence and crime, as bullying in public schools.
“Know how to stop them? Ridiculously simple. Stand up to them. Challenge them. Get in their faces. Like all cowards, they back down. Every time.”
Doing so will get kids suspended or expelled from school these days.
“From now on, if you have issues with bullying in your life-circle, it’s your own damned fault.”
Must be nice to live in such a simple world.
Sorry, but no. Bullying in school is very much like being harassed as an adult (only worse, because adults can handle things mentally that young people can't).
Suppose that someone starting calling your work, repeatedly, and spread rumors about you. Maybe they told your supervisor that you were some sort of pervert. And maybe they made calls to your house, laughed, then hung up. And maybe called the electric company and cancelled your service. And threw garbage on your lawn, again and again. And a million other things to make your life miserable.
And maybe this went on for months and months and months. You, my FRiend, are being bullied as an adult. Should you just get over it, once it stops? Or would it - sadly - become a part of you?
Sorry for being so harsh here. But as I said on an earlier post, I was once an urban school teacher. I've seen a lot of bullying that left permanent mental scars.
you can take it a step further and say a group of kids attack their victim and the victim has a weapon and kills of one the attackers, you have the Trayvon situation all over again.
I was big for my age in high school. I saw a kid in school getting picked on every day. One day a group of kids were knocking his books out of his hands. He would pick them up and they would do it again. I stepped in the middle and squared off with one of the kids. Without giving him a second I punched him in the stomach. He ended up on his butt gasping for air. Then got up and left. I saw him later during the school day and told him if anyone picks on that kid again I was going to come after him. He showed me the knuckle marks I left in his stomach which I thought was pretty neat. If I could do that in 9th grade then adults that run the schools can also solve the problem.
I was big for my age in high school. I saw a kid in school getting picked on every day. One day a group of kids were knocking his books out of his hands. He would pick them up and they would do it again. I stepped in the middle and squared off with one of the kids. Without giving him a second I punched him in the stomach. He ended up on his butt gasping for air. Then got up and left. I saw him later during the school day and told him if anyone picks on that kid again I was going to come after him. He showed me the knuckle marks I left in his stomach which I thought was pretty neat. If I could do that in 9th grade then adults that run the schools can also solve the problem.
I was big for my age in high school. I saw a kid in school getting picked on every day. One day a group of kids were knocking his books out of his hands. He would pick them up and they would do it again. I stepped in the middle and squared off with one of the kids. Without giving him a second I punched him in the stomach. He ended up on his butt gasping for air. Then got up and left. I saw him later during the school day and told him if anyone picks on that kid again I was going to come after him. He showed me the knuckle marks I left in his stomach which I thought was pretty neat. If I could do that in 9th grade then adults that run the schools can also solve the problem.
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