LOL...!!!
Posted on 01/18/2013 2:05:46 PM PST by NYer
LOL...!!!
Go formerly communist-bloc young men.
No apologies to Horace Greeley.
“I cannot understand multiple marriages.”
I hear you; I’m reasonably happily married (15+ years), but if it doesn’t work out or she passes away I wouldn’t do it again. Marriage is hard, and I don’t think I could reconcile adding another person to the family while I still have responsibility for my children (the whole Cinderella/stepmother thing). I wouldn’t want to put my children in a position where they might have additional sibling via a stepmother (just my personal take on it).
Back in 1970, an Italian immigrant friend, recently arrived, assessed the emerging feminist movement in America. He pointed to Ancient Rome and Greece and pronounced that within my lifetime, I would witness the collapse of America. He went on to explain how, throughout history, each time women rose to power, they were soon followed by an increase in the homosexual movement. At the time, I laughed! Remember ... this was 1970. I stopped laughing in 2000. Your assessment of the current situation matches his prediction.
You’ve got quite a chip on your shoulder there. The anger at American women runs deep, huh?
Has anyone factored in the Mother-in-law aspect?
I don’t see this as directly related to homosexuals; what isn’t really mentioned is the role children (or the lack of them, or the lack of desire for them) play. This trend started years before the big gains the sexual deviants made recently; it is caused by (among other things) economic insecurity, lack of (any) religion in a growing number of young people, and the fact that the initial “children of divorce” (in my mind, kids from the 1970s era) are now marriage-age and still have a bad taste in their mouth from growing up without daddy.
Europe is having the same problem (but I don’t know if the “children of divorce” applies there).
I am in my sixties. I was raised to stand when a woman walked into the room, to open doors for women, etc. And I did that for a long time. But I stopped doing that years ago when I opened the door for a woman who then proceeded to chew me out in public, saying she was a woman and didn’t need a “f***ing man” to open a door for her. Oh, I will still open a door for a woman whose hands are full with packages or a child, or a woman who has an obvious disability. But for and apparently healthy woman? Not a chance.
At least Taylor Swift gets a breakup song out of the deal.
“You’ve got quite a chip on your shoulder there. The anger at American women runs deep, huh?”
Not at all; I dated American women, and they were certainly nice enough (and still are - as long as you’re not looking for a prospective mate for life). When I wanted to start a family, they preferred material wealth to the sacrifice required to have a family. Thankfully I live in a state loaded with foreigners, including traditional ones; I was married earlier than most of my friends (those that bothered to get married), and we’ve got a little (bilingual) tribe going now (being raised by their parents - not daycare/nannies).
American women are the angry ones, yet they still fail to see the situation from a man’s point of view. Running TVs showing irresponsible men avoiding commitment isn’t working either; now the best fathers on TV are those in non-traditional roles (taking care of another man’s kids). Creating a false utopia isn’t working; this issue runs deeper than most. The media may have convinced enough people to re-elect Obama, but they will NEVER convince many men in this environment to get married.
And I dumped a woman because she thought Iron Maiden was pretentious.
Life is not Hollywood. Women cannot have careers, children, a handsome, wealthy, husband, willing to share housework, raise children, take her out on Saturday night, fund family vacations during the summer, at Christmas and remain cheerful, loving and supportive 24/7.
Likewise, men cannot have the cheerful, smart girl give up everything to cook, clean, and look beautiful 24/7 while he makes his way in the world. The two people have to know one another and share the same goals and religion.
Marriage is work. The feminists and colleges/universities have created empty-headed monsters out of too many younger women.
The hip-hop hood culture has created an unconscionable mess of baby-no-daddy’s mamas, and those men have no marriage intentions. Welfare taxpayer government pays their way.
God is missing from too many homes.
When I went to a state school, I was shocked at the anti-man sentiments everywhere but quickly adapted to it. One day a friend and I were walking across a large plaza between buildings (during class time - it was pretty empty, and a crappy day weatherwise), and when we reached the science lab we heard someone yelling. We turned to see a female student in distress with a stray dog (nothing life-threatening); we looked at each other, smiled, and walked into the building.
They won; we lost. Oh well. It was sad how I had changed into someone who would do that.
"You get the feeling that too many gringas are coiled like rattlesnakes, looking for slights about which to be enraged."
"The lack of femininity. The word is hard to define, but the quality is impossible to mistake. American women seem to want to be either androgynous horrors or smaller men with the appeal of a truss ad. On the street they dress in those awful Brooks Sisters business suits with the ugly blazers and little shoulder pads. You see them in restaurants, drinking too much and yelling, “He’s a f-----g piece of sh-t,” apparently in the belief that talking like a jock in a rural locker room makes them one of the guys. Some of us don’t want to date one of the guys. We want to date a woman."
"Women are vicious in divorce. Whether they are morally inferior to men can be debated—they don’t fight wars or bomb cities, for example—but in terminating marriages, they are heartless and often sadistic."
Rough estimates:
50% of marriages end in divorce
75% of divorces are initiated by women
From what I have seen, the husband ends up taking most of the blame from friends, family, the courts, even when there are two sides to the story
Over 80% of divorces result in the ex-husband paying “maintenance”, child support, or both
Men rarely get custody of children, even when they want it
Marriage has become too much of a financial and emotional risk for most men.
Well said (in terms of the expectations on each side).
I don’t expect anything to change, but someday maybe the blog comments that explain where “Americans” went (unlike the way we can’t determine where the Mayans went, for example). Without courts behind them, these whining women (I really don’t see men unhappy with the status quo) are reduced to graying hags shaking their fists at the diverse (non-American, or 1/2 American on the father’s side) children filling the schoolyards.
“I’m 22 while my husband is 48. Guess there’s something to this idea.”
Do you have any sisters?
Seriously, good for you and the best for a happy life together.
Once for 4.5 years (too young to know);
Once for 26.5 years. Two grown children, 4 grandchildren.
Finally learned my lesson. I will never do that again. I would much rather be alone than to put up with any of that crap.
Even the seemingly even-keeled women who appear to be team players eventually twist off and go brain-dead.
No, thank you. I'm done.
Go for FOBs (Fresh Off Boat), old-school wives appreciative of a providing husband. So many of today’s younger American women are not keepers.
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