Posted on 02/07/2014 1:23:02 PM PST by 2ndDivisionVet
Turns out progressive views of equality aren't an aphrodisiac...
The New York Times has come to a surprising conclusion. This:
isn’t sexy. Really. It took a feature-length article in the magazine to explain to readers that when men act less like men, heterosexual women want to have sex with them less. Despite women being told that they want men more involved in traditionally female household tasks like cooking, cleaning and childcare, when men actually do so, wives find their husbands considerably less sexy.
Another “surprising” revelation: equality in a marriage, especially in the bedroom, was a major turn-off for women.
A desire for equality, and the lack of desire that equality can create, may make scientific sense, even as it challenges conventional wisdom. As Daniel Bergner has written in his book “What Do Women Want?” and in this magazine, many studies show that women often report fantasies, like those involving submission, that tend to be inconsistent with our notion of progressive relationships.
The word “submission” was used four times in the piece, a radical concept for radical feminists.
Last month Candace Cameron Bure, of Full House fame, set off a firestorm when she suggested while promoting her book that the secret to her marital happiness was the fact that she let her husband take control.
“I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work,” the actress writes in her book.
During a recent interview with The Huffington Post,Cameron Bure explained what she meant.
“The definition I’m using with the word ‘submissive’ is the biblical definition of that,” she said. “So, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength.”
“And, listen, I love that my man is a leader,” she said. “I want him to lead and be the head of our family. And those major decisions do fall on him. … It doesn’t mean I don’t voice my opinion. It doesn’t mean I don’t have an opinion. I absolutely do, but it is very difficult to have two heads of authority.”
“In my marriage we are equal … in our importance, but we are just different in our performances within our marriage,” she said.
For these statements the former child star was lampooned by feminist sites like XO Jane, which mocked the concept of gender roles that Bure and social conservatives defend:
I had the pleasure of listening to Phyllis Schlafly explain how feminism was ruining women: liberation turned women into confused sluts and emasculated men (clutch all of the pearls!). It was, of course, both an all-purpose salve and a blame game: If your marriage wasn’t working, that was your fault for rejecting biblical womanhood. Reject instead secular notions of gender and equality, celebrate your femininity, be submissive, and live happily ever after. And do it, even to the detriment of your family.
Conservatives are lampooned daily for their supposed anti-science views. Now that science has reinforced the importance of traditional gender roles within households, will progressives continue their push for total marital equality? If so, conservatives will have the last laugh… all the way to the bedroom.
After four decades of trying to sell them Alan Alda,
no sale.
Scouts Out! Cavalry Ho!
LOL, a keeper for sure...
All other things considered of course.
I think women secretly want to be dominated. Not cruelly or in a demeaning way, but simply to offload a lot of the decisions — and the heavy lifting — on men. They’ll get away with as much as they can, but inwardly they despise a man who won’t put his foot down and say “Enough!”
A quibble: in my limited experience, women are impressed, even intrigued, by a guy who’s a good cook and can put something together with a little pizazz now and then.
If anybody gives a damn, I’ll post a great Bananas Foster recipe here which has become associated with a few very cherished memories of mine over the years. (The trick is not too much brown sugar which is where most go wrong.)
int cowgirl and up redundant?
Great!
I’m back in demand again.
So that’s why the left is trying to make men into wussies.
LOL genius
One thing that I have noticed about women is the are focused on the now and men are supposed to be focused on the tomorrow and how to make it easier on women in the future now. Sounds confusing but think about it.
Not even liberal women like metrosexual , liberal men.
Book written by a friend of a friend:
Cooking for Cavemen
http://www.amazon.com/Cooking-Cavemen-Dave-Brown/dp/1592990002
Shouldn’t Obama be wearing a hard hat and eye protection on that job? Those curtain rods can be tricky.
LOL!! As if this was news???
Wow! This is news?
Just because women might appreciate a helping hand with the kids, or the dishes, etc., does not mean they want men to be effeminate.
Funny!
I’ve known females who claim they want soft wooshy metrosexual boys with lots of “ feelings.”,” whatever those may be. But just watch who they finally decide to go with! Always the guy with muscles. Or at least a guy who has “ strong character.” The girls end up leaving the emasculated little pajama boy toys to play all by / with themselves.
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