Could Mr. Right be white? [Black women choosing white men]

Atlanta Journal-Constitution ^ | 7/13/2

[conservatism_IS_compassion]

At least 60 percent of blacks who get awarded college degrees are women, according to the Journal of Blacks in Higher Education.

. . . and most women want to marry UP. This situation just doesn't compute very well.

[goldstategop]

Kevin Costner & Whitney Houston in The Bodyguard comes of age.

[oldtimer]

When 'Minister' Farakhan was in Dallas a couple of years ago, he orated before a crowd of 4,000 brothas, that if every black man mated with a white women, the white race would go away. They roared with joy.

My thoughts were who would be left to do the work.

[AmericanInTokyo]

Yep. Condi's not too bad looking.

(She's just gotta work a bit on those Star Trek forehead worry wrinkles a bit!) ;-)

[NativeNewYorker]

I've dated people who have no understanding of the Middle Passage, colorism, any sort of understanding of the black experience.

I had the same reaction you did.

This must be some public school twaddle they shovel into black kids' heads to make sure they never EVER vote GOP.

[NativeNewYorker]

College/govt/hi-tech towns are different.

One thing I noticed growing up in NY is that you see very very few inter-racial couples in the more proletarian "outer boroughs". But they're very common in cosmopolitan Manhattan.

Good bet dating couples from around the city come into Manhattan for a change of scenery, and perhaps to escape stares and barbs.

[NativeNewYorker]

most women want to marry UP. This situation just doesn't compute very well.

If the population of unthreatened, educated males is mostly white, it makes perfect sense for black women to cross the color line.

[JimRed]

I judge them as they come."

Her attitude is one that ALL of us should embrace.

[Bear_in_RoseBear]

College/govt/hi-tech towns are different.

That's very true, and Austin is all three in one. We've never felt out of place here, while we have felt stared-at in other places.

I found this comment from the article to be especially true:

compatibility, not color, is what's ultimately important in her relationship.

Despite the fact that my wife grew up black in San Antonio and I grew up white in Northern Michigan, we both came from working/lower-middle class families. The differences between us were much fewer than the attitudes and beliefs we have in common.

[NativeNewYorker]

...and the mixing/churning of US society makes happy pairings such as yours increasingly likely as time passes.

[NativeNewYorker]

Now that you mention it, blondes are disproportionately represented in black male/white female pairs I've seen.

Can't comment on hair dye, tho.

[gcruse]

 
Has anyone else noticed that more often than not,
white women that date black men have bleached blonde hair?

Now that you mention it, I can't think of any that
were not bleached blonde.  I guess the black guy
wants white on white, eh?

[sonofron]

"Still, Smith sometimes questions if she's being true to her black identity. "

I understand this statement. I'm not in an interracial relationship because i want to be true to my white identity. I know some nice black wemon, but i don't think i'd ever hook up with any of them. I realize i'm unique in wanting to preserve my heritage and history, which includes passing the genes down. Am i a racist for this stance? well, i think of myself as more of a culture preservationist. This is just my own personal standard, and i realize alot of people don't feel this way, so i respect thier choice. My brother is married to a black woman, and we all get along great!

[sonofron]

". I'm not in an interracial relationship because i want to be true to my white identity."

i think this would have made more sense if it went, " I'm not in a same race relationship because...."

duh!

[gcruse]

I understood you the first time. The second, I don't.

[Bear_in_RoseBear]

the mixing/churning of US society makes happy pairings such as yours increasingly likely as time passes.

Well, more interracial pairings, anyway. The happiness level will, as always, depend on the individuals involved.

The growth in the number of interracial couples has been going on for a while... the 2000 census was the first to allow multiracial listings, and a surprisingly large number of people chose to list themselves using those categories.

[Lincoln]

"White guys find us exotic," she says. "They want to know how we [have sex], but they aren't going to take us home."

"I judge them as they come."

If the former is true how can she do the latter?

[Bear_in_RoseBear]

Ultimately, my wife and I decided we had more in common culturally than we had differences. We were both American, after all.

i realize alot of people don't feel this way, so i respect thier choice.

If only more people shared this attitude, the world would be a happier place.