Posted on 09/26/2002 11:55:18 PM PDT by Swordmaker
I'm not a lawyer and I don't live in California so I won't hazard a guess as to what legal steps she should take.
For the record, I went through the same thing. I ended up homeschooling, and I couldn't afford it either (my husband is disabled). I bent to the pressure simply because I had the feeling I couldn't fight them. (They wanted him hospitalized.) While that went on, I got my ducks in a row, joined Home School Legal Defense, and pulled him out as soon as I legally could. They were very upset but once he was out of the school they had little power.
For the record, when I brought him in for his testing next year they were amazed at his progress, and never gave me a problem after that, which I respect.
I have a girlfriend who has worked part time for years, has several children all with learning disabilites, and homeschools. She lives on a knife's edge. Somehow she gets through day to day. I wouldn't recommend her lifestyle to anyone but it CAN be done if absolutely necessary.
I hope someone can give you more practical advice, it should probably be someone familiar with CA, in every state the laws are different.
HSLDA.org and Family.org are the URLs.
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This may in fact be true. However, I would like to know how they came to this conclusion, and an answer should be demanded to this question. Was it concluded through crackpot amateur conjecture and speculation, or is there solid basis for it. I would also demand a resume of the background and qualifications of the psychologist. Schools and kids are used to train inexperienced grad students and give them opportunity to do clinical work-ups. I was sent around to schools as a graduate student. I'm not thrilled about what I'm reading here.
She was then instructed to take her son to a child psychiatrist that evening or they would call CPS and have all of her children (she has four) removed from the home. (She and her husband are from Taiwan so you can imagine their fear.)
CPS got involved when the first doctor found nothing wrong with the boy. After the first four evaluations (each with a different doctor, costing my friend roughly $400 each) they finally found a doctor that was willing to give a negative evaluation.
A court date was set and she was told that she would probably lose custody of her children. At this point, my friend, thru some contacts she had, was able to get her congressman involved. On the morning of the hearing, she received a phone call from CPS saying that the case had been put on hold - later it was dropped.
I told her that if I was in her shoes, I'd pull my kids out of that school system so fast it would make their heads spin.
She and her husband are two of the most loving and hardworking people I've ever met. Their children all excelled in school as well as many other activities that they were involved in.
I was stunned at the way they were treated. I guess the school felt that they were easy prey since they were from another country.
The irony in this is that at the same time, a little boy in Detroit was murdered by his mother because CPS wouldn't do their job. They yanked him away from a foster family that was trying to adopt him and returned him to the abusive home that he came from.
Then, she can go to the district attorney and file a formal complaint accusing them of practicing medicine without a license.
Their attempt to muzzle her can also be construed to be kidnapping, of which she can accuse them legally even if she doesn't expect the charges to stick.
The best defense is a good offense. Once the little Nazis realize that this woman is going to cause them more trouble than it's worth, they'll "Move On" to easier targets.
If she can get any pro bono help at all from a civil liberties lawyer (and I wouldn't be above challenging the local ACLU on this, asking them why they won't defend parents' rights against a Nazi school system), a lawyer can get the necessary complaints filed with very little effort - and that's probably all it would take to send the cockroaches scurrying for cover.
I'd have the child removed from the room and demand to know what the hell is going on? Tell them that you overheard a comment about the child needing to deal with issues about the dad. If the kid had never ever brought up the issue of the dad with the mom, I'd pin them down to ask who brought up the issue to screw with the kid's head.
It generally takes a psychologist wanna be about five minutes to blame every problem in a person's life on their parents. I'm betting the family farm some ding dong brought up the issue of this boy's father out of the blue with no mention from the child. Now the child may indeed have issues.
When my wife's first marriage broke up, she went to a counselor. She needed to cope with her husbands infidelity and the loss. Incredibly the counselor determined in her own mind that my wife's folks were the problem with the marriage because they never argued in front of my wife when she was growing up. Thus conflict resolution was never taught to my wife. The problem was, there wasn't an issue of conflict resolution. My wife didn't fight with her first husband. Out of the blue she found out that he'd been seeing someone else.
No matter what my wife tried to explain to the psychologist, the psychologist refused to believe that her parents weren't the problem. My wife left and never went back.
A similar thing happened to me. I've talked to others who had something similar happen to them.
Maybe this boy was depressed one day and some ding dong tried to find out why, opening up a can of worms.
Place these idiots on the defensive by finding out who brought up the issue, and if they were qualified to do so or not. The mom has a right to know all the facts before determining a course of action. I would inform the staff that if she finds out they are withholding information, she will seek legal recourse.
If the kid has already seen the campus psychologist, I'd go for the family jewels.
This was ALWAYS the pretext in the school district in Illinois to put kids on Ritalin. Remarkably, kids determined to be good candidates for Ritalin (I know of not a single case when the 'psychologists' at the local hospital ruled otherwise) turned out to be perfectly normal once their parents went ballistic and put the kids in private school It's worth the expense and in many cases, even poor parents can make deals with some schools, particularly parochial ones, to exchange weekend work, kids and all, for education.
Amazingly, in my time we had all kids graduate from school without once seeing a psychologist or being medicated in any way- yet now in some school districts the number of kids on Ritalin and related drugs exceed the number on none.
Poor families in particular are targetted because they are the most vulnerable, more likely to be intimidated into allowing it, and least likely to object. Some very brilliant kids were suckered into this in Illinois by the offer of special ed busses to parents, who liked the idea of a bus picking up little Johnnie directly from their doorstep rather than the idea of having to accompany the kid to the bus stop in the morning to get on a regular bus. In this way many poor welfare parents, or low income single parents, were conned. Their kids pay dearly for their parent's laziness or fear.
The school districts do this because they receive more money for special ed and ADD kids from federal and state coffers than they do for normal kids. The district also receives substantial bus funding from this. It got so bad in my district that there were more special ed busses than regular ones.
And no, it wasn't Palm Beach County chad-plucking country, although it was democrat country.
If you don't think money has something to do with how your kids are treated just watch what happens when the weather is really bad. You may notice your public schools are the last to call in for cancellations (unless the locale is very hilly and slippery) while private schools are more prone to cancel. You will also notice that the school will sometimes hold half-days... keeping the kids just long enough in bad weather to collect the government cash for each kid's attendance and then sending them home. This of course isn't that obvious because cancellations aren't a daily thing, and in warm parts of the country they never happen. But in northern areas it is very noticeable.
In some cases bus drivers (illegally) warned parents about it and they were able to withdraw their kids and put them in Catholic or other private schools. The public school district raised bloddy heck but couldn't do anything once the kids were enrolled. The kids turned out to be fine professionals and ended up with better educations than they would obtain in 'ecstacy land junior high.'
It IS a racket.
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That's the same question I'm asking.
Students should be warned by their parents to NEVER fill out questionaires if the school is unwilling to let the parents look at those questionairs first. They were bad years ago I can only imagine how intrusive the things are now.
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Your wife made the right decision. Half the psychological/social profession is in their own nutty ruts with axes to grind or trying to apply something out of a book that is inappropriate. I'm suspicious of any of them.
Another suggestion --and I'm very serious about this:
Tell the mother to get to the closest Catholic school and talk with a priest or nun who is affiliated with it.
They will on occasion allow kids to enroll without paying full tuition, especially in emergency situations. This may not be the ideal solution in her mind but it would solve the immediate problem.
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