What was I not assuming? Under the weather and on heavy cold/flu meds so not tracking real well. Please explain.
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No sweat.
Your 368 mentioned compiling a list of epithets you’d been called and the list growing huge rapidly.
It can be easy to blame such 100% on the other end of things.
Usually there are lots of reasons for labels and labeling.
They are ALMOST always at least a little on both ends and plenty in the middle. Certainly it can be 95-99% on one end and in some relationships almost always so. Still, there’s often at least a little truth from the opposite perspective’s uhhhhh perspective.