Dear Abby Tells Man: Get Over Your Girlfriend Having an Abortion

ln ^ | Dave Andrusko

[Morgana]

The original "Dear Abby" was progressive but NEVER like this.

[GeronL]

He should dump her, she isn’t worth it. How can live with someone like that?

[Morgana]

A bit judgmental are you? After all HE was also having sex outside of marriage with her at the time. Had he been married maybe this would not have happened? Maybe she aborted because she thought he would dump her for being pregnant? Maybe just maybe this is why God said to wait till marriage.

[LearsFool]

There’s clearly something missing from a mother who’ll kill her own kids - some sort of deliberate defect, which grows worse every time she rationalizes the evil deed.

I wouldn’t trust her with my children.

[silverleaf]

“Oh, I forgot to mention that I had an abortion?”

D’OH! Other than having sex, what have these two been talking about for the past FOUR years?

[GeronL]

did he do the killing?

[henkster]

Maybe he should have taken her to be stoned to death.

[Eva]

Dear Abby died and her column should have died with her.

[huldah1776]

The reason for non-disclosure could be many. Guilt, subconscious denial, fear of rejection are some. The woman is obviously messed up from it.

[GeronL]

Why would he do that? Is it his job to punish people? Better just not to associate with her.

[GeronL]

Yes it should have

[muawiyah]

Killing your kids is really not something to brag about ~ and while you have the chance it's best to go find somebody else who's not already demonstrated psychopathic reactions to minor stress.

You could wake up with a woman like this stabbing you to death in your bed or maybe even poisoning your food.

Not worth the risk.

[par4]

Nowhere does it indicate that the child was his, the wording is rather vague but it indicates

1. They have been dating for 4 years and

2. She had an abortion while in high school.

So if they're in the mid-twenties and she had the abortion when 16 or so, then it was long before they met. Not exactly a real conversation item after dinner and a movie, "by the way, when I was I kid I had an abortion". Sheesh, everyone has secrets.

[muawiyah]

Was he? That’s not in the story. The story is about her highschool years ~ in the past.

[GeronL]

Some stains never come off.

[silverleaf]

"Not exactly a real conversation item after dinner and a movie"

sheesh? = No big deal?
This ain't a dinner and a movie
Its is a FOUR YEAR relationship
This isn't secrets about who she slept with 4 years ago, it is about murdering an inconvenient child- and it wasn't exactly a secret to everyone, just to him
abortion repulses this young man despite "Abby's" motional salve. He now sees his sexmate as cold, selfish and secretive to the point of deception. You don't date for 4 years and never discuss your moral values. How would you feel dating a guy for 4 years and then finding out he forgot to tell you he manslaughtered his child. oops.
Would this young man want the mother of HIS children to be this woman who aborted their half brother or sister for convenience? Are these the moral values he wants his children to be raised with by their mother?
As an adoptive parent, I have living proof that abortion is not necessary, there are humane loving ways to give up an inconvenient child, that abortion for convenience is state-sanctioned selfish manslaughter or murder. The child may be aborted but it will NEVER “go away”

[Eva]

I know a young woman who got pregnant in high school just before graduation (she graduated) and wanted to put the baby up for adoption. The young man, wanted her to have an abortion and told her that he would not give permission to put the baby up for adoption, that if she went ahead with having the baby, he was going to see to it that his mother was given custody of the baby.

When she consulted authorities about putting the baby up for adoption, she was told that the father had to sign off on the adoption or the state would not allow it. I called, myself, and verified the information because I could not believe it. She could have an abortion without the father’s signature, but not put the baby up for adoption.

[GeronL]

and that still does not justify killing the baby

[hinckley buzzard]

It is not at all clear from the letter that he was the father of the baby. If he was, so much the worse of her. But the way it is phrased makes it sound like otherwise. If he was, then he has a right to feel betrayed.

Contrary to popular belief many men are highly distressed when their child is aborted with or without their knowledge, without their consent.

[hoosierham]

I,for one, am not comfortable with a woman who has or would kill her unborn child.Abortions are done because the child is inconvenient to the mother in some way.We have a nation almost equally divided between good people who stumble and sin,and evil people who put themselves first in everything.Most of the evil in America is actually rooted in selfishness.