I’ve seen this done a number of times. The wedding is held at the close of Sunday service. Members are invited to stick around if they like.
Pot luck dinner downstairs afterward, provided by the various families who are close to the couple.
Costs almost literally nothing. More likely to last than any six figure wedding in the Caribbean.
A young man once asked his girlfriend to marry him. She said no and he lived happily ever after.
It shouldn’t cost the guests one penny ... other than any possible travel expenses they may need to spend to get to the wedding.
Back in the day, my bride planned our wedding all by herself. I took care of the honeymoon ... thanks to a generous cash wedding gift from my parents. Costs were minimal and it was a great day.
I’m flying to California for my daughter’s wedding. But that is where she lives. That is the only excuse for flying to a wedding.
Unless you are independently wealthy, that is.
Even if the wedding isn’t held in the Caribbean, it still gets ridiculous. I’ve watched coworkers plan their weddings, taking company time to call florists, caterers, etc. There’s a lot of competition in it, (”My diamond is bigger than hers. The band at my wedding will be better than hers,” etc.)
And it’s about being Queen for a Day. The Bride starves herself to be skinny on her wedding day, picks out a fabulous dress, has her makeup and hair done, then walks down the aisle with all eyes upon her, dazzled by her beauty. She has photos and videos taken. It’s the one day that a woman can feel like a princess, a superstar. I understand that.
But it should be about the couple’s love for each other and planning their lives together. That falls by the wayside, and the couple usually ends up divorced.
I always thought that if I got married, I’d want to elope. My fiancee and I would take off and find one of those little white clapboard churches in the country. The minister and his wife would be the only ones there.
We eloped.
Three days skiing in Grand Targhee followed by four days skiing in Jackson.
The Wife’s sister is still mad that she did not get invited to the wedding.
THERE WAS NO WEDDING!
She lives in Minnesota, imagine that...
“when weddings are about being a Disney Princess for a day”
All women desire this at some level.
It’s mass insanity. Completely, bat sh!t crazy.
And their prospective husbands share the fault for not just saying NO.
Western weddings are one of the stupidest spectacles anyone ever thought up. Anyone who participates is equally stupid.
Dear Mrs. Web has always recommended having the wedding one can afford.
www.dearmrsweb.com
Women have always wanted to make other women jealous. On top of that, many people now think they deserve to be a celebrity.
So far, my sister and I have thrown five beautiful weddings with receptions for our children under $6,000. Everyone pitches in and fortunately we have talented family members. Last wedding I ordered roses in bulk from Walmart for far cheaper than a florist or online. Score!
Marriage > Wedding day.
Much.
Make appropriate effort.
This happened to someone I know. An old friend wanted her to be a bridesmaid and she refused, with good reasons. They actually made up later but the bride never really understood and things were never the same between them.
The Wedding Industry is the biggest racket going.
A further extension of the ENTITLEMENT attitude of today’s people. I just walk away from any kind of demand, but I am not attending weddings either,
It should also be noted that marriage has a profound biological purpose, making it far superior to just monogamy.
This ends up with a peculiar juxtaposition.
Spiritual joining under religious auspices, hoping to augment and strengthen the essential social exclusion of the couple from sexual relations with others. That is, marriage is supposed to put them off limits to others. It is vital that it at least tries to do so.
But also the strong encouragement of fecundity, a lot of children, and the sooner the better. Which entails a bawdiness which existed until modern times.
Until people finally understood the mechanisms of reproduction (as well as communicable disease), they had to rely on bawdiness to overcome the high childbirth and infant mortality rates by having large families, and children to insure a healthy retirement for their parents.
So what we end up with is a meaningless secular document signing, followed by a prudish religious ceremony, that in past wasn’t very prudish at all, followed by a bawdy, maybe alcohol fueled reception, and other encouragements to reproduce.
My daughter was married last September for the first time. The wedding was in the back area of a bar. I was a little worried when she told me this; but, you could actually rent out the entire bar, guests at the wedding only, and the back area was actually quite nice for a wedding. The guest list was not very large, around 50 people, and it was a nice wedding. There is no need to go broke paying for a wedding. The important part is family and friends of both bride and groom, getting together to celebrate a new union — the creation of a new family.
A former co-worker of mine staged her “destination wedding” in Costa Rica, forcing friends and family members to dig deep in their pockets. She was divorced two years later.
When you spend so much on a wedding, the only thing that could possibly be more gay is a gay wedding.
That is pretty sad.