You are a better person than I am.
I had a bad thing happen to me as a young kid. I carried it around with me for a long time, but when I got a chance to see the person face to face again some 30 years later on the other side of the world...well...I couldn’t feel hate for him. He was pathetic and wretched, and all I could think was that I was glad I wasn’t him.
I found the concept of giving up the grudge is liberating in a way few things are. And so it was with my sister.
And I am not much of a Christian, but...I want to be. And nothing I have done in my life has better made me understand what it is I strive to be a Christian than those two things. There is something to the power of forgiveness.