To be sure, I also don't want my defensive end playing QB. People on the spectrum may not do well in customer-facing roles or where conflict resolution is part of the grind. But that's not the fault of the employee - that's a problem of management that can't hire for the job. We ARE individuals.
Oddly, I deal well, generally, with customers. I have an “on” switch where I know what to say, remember personal details, and explain complex technical issues by breaking them down systematically. I’m not a salesman type, but I’ve learned, with long experience, to be able to tell things to people that they don’t want to hear, and just how to do so.
Once my ex-wife visited me at work, and she was shocked at how easily I got along with customers. I think she felt I’d been “holding back” at home.
At home, I’m happy reading, or working on my workshop, or watching TV. I don’t really want to chat. In social situations, I let my wife do the talking.