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Dating Along Party Lines
The Daily Standard ^ | August 4, 2004 | Erin Montgomery

Posted on 08/05/2004 7:39:36 AM PDT by sinanju

CHRISTINA "C.J." FROGOZO, a 24-year-old self-proclaimed Democrat since the fifth grade, will never date another Republican again. "My Republican ex-boyfriend and I would literally have three-hour telephone fights about politics, and he used to refer to me and my friends as 'you liberals.'" In the several months Frogozo and the 29-year-old entertainment lawyer from Santa Monica (whom she wishes to remain nameless) carried on a relationship, the two argued about unions ("his dad was a union-buster"), the economy, women's issues, gay marriage, and more.

Frogozo eventually convinced him to give money to the Kerry campaign, but the gesture wasn't enough to save the relationship. "I'm now dating a nice Democrat, who I actually converted from a Republican," she says proudly. She explains how her current boyfriend recently slipped a "present" under her door: a voter re-registration card with the "party of choice" box checked "Democrat." It must be love.

Listening to Frogozo talk about her romantic history last week at the Democratic National Convention, at a bar on Beacon Hill called 21st Amendment, I was amazed by how much power the attractive and stylishly dressed brunette had over the opposite sex. She is as creative as she is persistent and pretty. She's also concerned. As the founder of DemDates.com--a website that allows single Democrats to post and browse personal profiles à la Match.com, as well as meet and mingle at planned social events in their home city--she doesn't want other Democrats to make the same mistake she did (date a Republican). "You have to think about things that really get people at their hearts: politics, love, and religion," Frogozo says. If you already have similar political views with the person you're dating, "the rest of it seems to fall into place, I think."

With that in mind, Frogozo kicked off the first day of the DNC by hosting an all-day happy hour at the aforementioned 21st Amendment. The bar's central location--around the corner from the Massachusetts State House--makes it a good spot for the curious to stop in for a chat. There, single Democrats, many of whom are in town for the DNC, can meet one another and learn more about the latest niche in online dating. Frogozo's brother, B.J., a sophomore at Indiana University, sits behind a table covered with red, white, and blue T-shirts and stickers that display the DemDates motto: "Smart. Sexy. Liberal." He tells me that 13 people have come to the happy hour so far, but the day is young.

Before Frogozo can tell me how she came up with the idea for DemDates, B.J. gives me some background information on his big sister. Last winter, around the time of California's primary election, Frogozo, a Santa Monica resident who then worked as a curator's assistant at the L.A. County Museum of Art, rounded up her girlfriends for some creative campaigning. Dubbing themselves "Johnny's Girls" and capitalizing on their sex appeal and that of the candidate's, they hit the bars in Los Angeles to encourage young people, particularly young men, to vote for John Edwards in the primary. "I think we Democrats have a pretty good pool of good-looking people, so we should use that to our advantage," Frogozo tells me after her brother finishes. "Not that you should vote on looks," she quickly adds.

Frogozo first conceived of DemDates.com in April and shortly thereafter pitched the idea to two investors at Venture Capital. Promoting DemDates.com is now her full-time job. She launched the website only three weeks before the Democratic convention, the timing of the launch being "serendipitous," she says. "I actually gave a shirt to Terry McAuliffe at the Rock the Vote [rally], and he chuckled," Frogozo says. "Yesterday, we were at [Boston nightclub] Avalon, and we got Jerry Springer in a shirt. We got Natalie Portman in a shirt, Biz Markie in a shirt. It's definitely out there now," B.J. adds.

In Boston alone, there are over 500 registered DemDaters, B.J. tells me. They fall between the ages of 18 and 47, but most are 25 to 30 years old. And the ratio of men to women is about even. "There are so many more men than women on e-Harmony and Match.com," B.J. says. "It's 50/50 on DemDates." Unlike most dating sites that could care less about a user's political opinions, the site asks questions with fun, political flair, such as "Monica or Gennifer?" And, "Who's your political crush?" The site does not match users up with each other, but it allows them to post a profile, including their answers to the pop-political questions; browse other profiles; and "wink" at the DemDaters they want to get to know better, B.J. explains. A photo is encouraged, but not required. "Just signing in allows you to check out our upcoming events, giving you inside info. on where the smart sexy liberals are hanging out in your city," the site reads. You can post your own profile and check out other profiles for free. But a membership fee of $10 a month or $100 for one year is required to actually contact the other members of the DemDates community, as well as to receive advance notice of parties and events and to use private instant messaging with other DemDaters.

While the main purpose of DemDates is to provide a forum for single Democrats to meet and possibly make a love connection, Frogozo also hails DemDates as a great way to "usher [young people] gently into politics" and "to push Kerry into office." Frogozo is gearing up to travel to major cities across the country to attract new DemDaters, and is currently planning a "Say goodbye to summer, say goodbye to Bush" pool party.

Frogozo doesn't have any DemDates success stories yet, but her two interns are dating. And as for Frogozo, well, like I said, she's already found herself a nice Democrat. That doesn't stop her, however, from revealing the name of one conservative she finds particularly sexy: Tucker Carlson. "He's my secret political crush," she laughs.

So what about all those single Republicans out there who would take George W. over the two Johns any day, and are looking for someone who feels the same way? In the words of John Edwards, "Hope is on the way." Or rather, it's already here: SingleRepublican.com.

Erin Montgomery is an editorial assistant at The Weekly Standard.

© Copyright 2004, News Corporation, Weekly Standard, All Rights Reserved.


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Okay gang, with any luck this should be a fruitful thread. Ideological Compatibility in Romance should be a topic sufficient to fill whole bookshelves. My democrat kid brother insists that liberals are more glamorous, exciting and throw all the good parties. Here in the Greater D.C. area it's on a par with "Catholic or Protestant" in Northern Ireland; along with similarly subtle visual and behavioral cues. Now a man might do anything for a little you-know-what but that wouldn't do for a full-scale relationship. Are there any Arnold and Maria stories out there?
1 posted on 08/05/2004 7:39:37 AM PDT by sinanju
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To: jamesnwu

Yes, he was a wuss for DONATING??? Also -- I was a lib when we married. My conservative husband convinced me I wasn't thinking clearly. It is GOOD for libs to marry a conservative.


3 posted on 08/05/2004 7:42:48 AM PDT by bboop
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To: bboop
My wife was a liberal before we got married. After 13 years of marriage and two kids, she's begun to realize I'm correct about so many things (including politics) and is shifting to conservatism.

But she'll never admit I'm right!

:-)

4 posted on 08/05/2004 7:48:20 AM PDT by Jonah Hex (Only 5 cents a troll? Must be too many of the varmints around here...)
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To: sinanju

Goos. If we can encourage liberals to date and marry themselves, Darwinism should eventually root them out. They have been polluting the Republican gene pool for too long.


5 posted on 08/05/2004 7:49:05 AM PDT by Lunatic Fringe (Where’s my fu©king balloons?!)
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To: sinanju

It's no coincidence that some of the most flaky, unstable women I've known are democrats.

The typical psychiatric diagnosis, if anyone is wondering, is "borderline personality disorder".


6 posted on 08/05/2004 7:51:17 AM PDT by brianl703 (Border crossing is a misdemeanor. So is drunk driving. Which do we have more checkpoints for?)
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To: sinanju

"Frogozo eventually convinced him to give money to the Kerry campaign, but the gesture wasn't enough to save the relationship. "I'm now dating a nice Democrat, who I actually converted from a Republican," she says proudly. She explains how her current boyfriend recently slipped a "present" under her door: a voter re-registration card with the "party of choice" box checked "Democrat." It must be love."

Yet more tragic examples of letting the little head do the thinking. Weiners! Wake up!
In 6 months, the cutsey has worn off, she's grating on your nerves AND you may have help a dumblecrat be elected, betraying your very country inot the hands of socialists and fools. Ain't none of it that good, guys!
Be ashamed! You should be converting her! Sheesh!

[heh heh heh]


7 posted on 08/05/2004 7:51:28 AM PDT by Adder (Can we bring back stoning again? Please?)
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To: sinanju
Frogozo eventually convinced him to give money to the Kerry campaign, but the gesture wasn't enough to save the relationship. "I'm now dating a nice Democrat, who I actually converted from a Republican," she says proudly. She explains how her current boyfriend recently slipped a "present" under her door: a voter re-registration card with the "party of choice" box checked "Democrat." It must be love.

What the h*ll is wrong with these guys? Talk about p*ssy-whipped, sheesh, Californians...

8 posted on 08/05/2004 7:51:41 AM PDT by Paradox (Occam was probably right.)
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To: sinanju
"I think we Democrats have a pretty good pool of good-looking people, so we should use that to our advantage"

Riii-iiight...


9 posted on 08/05/2004 7:53:06 AM PDT by Old Sarge
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To: sinanju
Frogozo eventually convinced him to give money to the Kerry campaign, but the gesture wasn't enough...

It never is with a Liberal.
Give 'em a dime, they want your VISA card.

10 posted on 08/05/2004 7:53:22 AM PDT by grobdriver
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To: sinanju

Well,
One of the many reasons I broke up with my last beau was we were so different politcally (that and he was seeing his old girlfriend again....hrmpt!)


11 posted on 08/05/2004 7:53:46 AM PDT by najida (Without pack-rats, there wouldn't be any antiques.)
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To: sinanju
My wife was a moderate/liberal on most issues when we began dating - but she never liked unions (because her dad had had very bad experiences with union thugs as a non-union truckdriver) and she was very conflicted on the topic of abortion.

But now that we're homeowners and parents and now that she's had experience working as an attorney for Children's Services in Brooklyn we're basically on the same page on every issue.

12 posted on 08/05/2004 7:54:29 AM PDT by wideawake (God bless our brave soldiers and their Commander in Chief)
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To: Old Sarge
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
13 posted on 08/05/2004 7:54:45 AM PDT by grobdriver
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To: Jonah Hex

The jury is still out. You can bet she is hearing you. And she has to be checking Reality -- the denial can't last forever.


14 posted on 08/05/2004 7:56:31 AM PDT by bboop
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To: bboop

Heh, heh...we were both libs when we married...now I am conservative (funny how the real world changes your views) and working on converting my well meaning wife.


16 posted on 08/05/2004 7:58:18 AM PDT by Tulane
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To: sinanju
No way. Dating the ideological opposite makes for much better "grudge sex".

Pretty hot stuff!

17 posted on 08/05/2004 7:58:36 AM PDT by zarf
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To: sinanju

I've dated my fair share of liberal women. It seems like they were the ones who always made an issue out of politics. I was happy to ignore their little personality quirk.


18 posted on 08/05/2004 8:00:01 AM PDT by Modernman ("I have nothing to declare except my genius." -Oscar Wilde)
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To: jbeachgrl5

"I would rather die an old maid than date a liberal"

Ditto!


19 posted on 08/05/2004 8:01:13 AM PDT by RepublicanHippy
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To: Old Sarge
Yeeccccccccccccccccccccccccchhhhhhhhhh!
20 posted on 08/05/2004 8:01:34 AM PDT by Logic n' Reason (Don't piss down my back and tell me it's rainin')
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