Posted on 10/04/2004 7:31:17 AM PDT by dead
Nadine Davidoff has had enough of men assuming that what gay women really want is a bloke.
When you see two girls walking down the street arm in arm there are a few of safe assumptions you could make about the scene; either the girls are friends or they are gay - they could even be partners. However, a certain subset of heterosexual men inexplicably arrive at a completely different conclusion: that the girls are putting on this display for their benefit and that they secretly want the men to join in the fun.
Who knows where this misconception comes from? Centuries of male privilege perhaps; a notion that everything in this world is created for their enjoyment? But this is the post-feminist age and men have long since ceased to be our supreme rulers. Which poses the question: what part of the word "gay" do these men not understand?
We are not helped, of course, by the likes of Madonna and Britney Spears, who recently engaged in a tongue-twister for precisely the purpose of revving up heterosexual men. I am sure they enjoyed themselves (well, Britney surely did) but did they realise that this wanton publicity stunt trivialises and misrepresents every genuine display of affection between lesbian women?
A case in point; one warm Sunday afternoon, I was walking along Bondi Beach hand-in-hand with my girlfriend. Deep in conversation, we suddenly became aware of a fat, hairy man barrelling towards us with his arms outstretched. "How 'bout a threesome ladies?" he leered as he attempted to enfold us in a group hug. It didn't take us very long to come up with an appropriate response to this invasion, and we promptly told the fool to bugger off. But sometimes, it's a little bit more tricky.
For example, my girlfriend dropped me off at yoga one evening, and as we parted, she gave me a quick kiss goodbye. "Nice kiss, girls," drawled a male member of the class as he stepped into the room. As I followed him into a quiet candlelit studio with members of the class already deep into their postures, it didn't seem quite right to ruin the serenity with a loud four-letter word.
It does help though, to have your mother on hand. Strolling past Ravesi's in Bondi one hot afternoon (yes, hand-in-hand with my girl) the hairy boofheads spilling out of every open window could not contain their excitement, and proceeded to hassle us with catcalls and whistles. By now, quite used to this graceless display, we walked blithely on. Not so my mother, for whom this was a new experience. "What's wrong with you all?" she scolded as she turned to face them. "They're not doing it for your benefit."
I have never seen a bunch of men sink faster into their beers. Clearly, if there's one thing heterosexual men are still afraid of, it's their mothers.
One is great - two is better - especially when there is no competition involved - at least anatomically speaking...
What part of "heterosexual male" don't you understand? You're female and you obviously don't have a boyfriend. It's definitely worth a shot.
Possibly because they have known too many straight women who do just this.
What they love is feeling persecuted. That is why they chose the lifestyle to begin with.....
Who knows where this misconception comes from?
It comes from the fact that it is abnormal for a woman to prefer sex with a woman than with a man. It is natural for men to want to fix things. Since you are broken, men want to fix you.
OK, so these particular men prefer to join in the brokenness - they need help too. But that's still the root of the concept, which is not a misconception in the least.
Get treatment.
Shalom.
ROTFLMAO!
Exactly. It's like a person with blue hair, a mohawk, dozens of piercings and tattoos who complains that people are staring at him.
"Who knows where this misconception comes from?"
I know. It's the commonly-held myth among many men that they are some deity's gift to women. They just assume that all women want to have sex with them, and cannot, for the life of them, understand why any women does not desire them.
I believe there may be a few in that category right here on FR.
O'Reilly was discussing the topic of lesbianism, and even confessed that men are just hard-wired that way. There are several issues going on at once - watching two women together with no other male competition around - already aroused - and ripe for the plucking - so to speak.
That's about the best I can explain it.
"By now, quite used to this graceless display, we walked blithely on"
Maybe, someone should point out that the graceless display is on their part as well?
She doesn't get why men find lesbo scenes in porn such a turn-on. Guys want to be in the middle of the action. Here's a lesbian who doesn't understand men and their attraction to women.
Homosexual Agenda Ping.
All I can say is they deserve each other. Homosexual women getting angry about lust-driven men looking at them. Don't want the attention, ladies? Don't act out in public, then.
When people want to deny the laws of nature set up by nature's God, they have to also take the results, which are never pretty. And there are a lot more results to come.
Let Scripter and me know if anyone wants on/off this pinglist.
When was the last time you saw adult heteros do that?
They were showing off and looking for attention.
Of course, they were exceptionally ugly, too, made particularly ugly from artificial uglification means like dyed hair (at least one had weird dyed hair like a clown).
"I believe there may be a few in that category right here on FR."
Hold on now! I represent - er - resent that remark.
O'Reilly was discussing the topic of lesbianism
Slightly off topic, but I was listening to Howard Stern this morning and they were playing a clip from O’Reilly reading his viewer mail last week. He actually read an e-mail from “Jack Mehoff” on the air. It was pretty hysterical listening to him say the name in that big O’Reilly voice of his – “Jack Mehoff in Coral Gables writes…”
It's very simple. There are no men in the picture. It's pure abstract sex. If a man sees another man having sex with a woman, he thinks "who the hell does that guy think he is, having sex with that woman I should be having sex with? It's an outrage!" There is no such barrier when watching hot girl-on-girl action.
Women think totally differently. They see a hot guy with a woman and they'll ask a man - "do you think she's pretty?" Men couldn't care less what other men look like.
Not all men do, I am not turned on by gay couples of any sex.
To each their own I suppose.
I don't know, guys.
Most of the gay women I know don't bear the slightest resemblance to Britney or Madonna.
In fact, most don't even really look like women in general.
(Not that there's anything wrong with that)
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