How Do I Love Thee? I'm Not Sure Yet

NY Times ^ | 2.13.2005 | Damien Cave

[xm177e2]

Hmmmm... a reason not to hate Valentine's Day: the alternative could be worse.

[SilentServiceCPOWife]

For our first Valentine's Day together, my husband got me a giant frying pan. Last year he made me a cd of songs that reminded him of me. And this year he got me perfume. He's definitely getting better with age.

I don't know what this says about me, but I got him a Leisure Suit Larry computer game this year. He's been playing it for several hours now. I hope I don't end up regretting this. :-)

[marajade]

For reals... a cashmere sweater for Valentine's Day after just a couple of dates? OMG!

[Larry Lucido]

I didn't get pinged. Some of my comments in the past must not have gone over too well. :-)

[CzarNicky]

I've never had a girlfriend around Feb. 14th. I guess I was just kind of lucky that way.

My funniest story would be that one around that particular holiday I had lost a ring that I had got for graduation and decided to purchase another one. I went to a jewelry store and was looking at mens rings when the sales clerk came up and asked if I was looking for anything. I said I was looking for a ring. The sales clerk then said, "Oh an engagement ring?" To which my response was, "Oh god no! I was just looking for a ring for me." The now sheepish clerk showed me what I was looking for. A few weeks later I found the ring I lost behind my television so I was glad I didn't buy one right then and there.

[Kinky]

Same with me. It's a contrived "holiday". I've never liked receiving roses and candy because a guy felt he HAD to. I liked the Valentine's Day cards we used to give to one another in grade school though.

[BobS]

"I freaked out because I realized that I would have to reciprocate without making it look like I was doing so only because I found out about the tulips," she said. "I wanted things not to be awkward."

Precisely. Years ago I said not to buy me presents larger than a 5x11 envelope. So various cuties sent me about 300 Euros and my current one gave me 100 Rials from Brasil. And I sent Euros to Brasil and Rials to Spain!

One of these days those gals are going to sneak up on me and say "HEY!"

[jocon307]

"Once you try that, you're doomed. DOOMED!"

LOL still great!

NYC, thanks!

[NYC GOP Chick]

Frying pan? At least you trained him well after that! ;D

[Larry Lucido]

"People don't realize until it's too late that each of us has a secret relationship rule book based on a combination of expectation, fantasies or even television," she said. "We come into a relationship not even realizing we have it, but we enforce it immediately."

Allow me to translate into manspeak:

If the chick's a psycho, dump her.

[sandbar]

My husband and I don't make too big a deal out of Valentines Day. I got a little mushier than usual this year with dedicating a song to him complete with lyrics in the card. It seemed to fit us to a T. I haven't gotten mine yet, but it's usually candy and card. Not the most romantic on frivilous gifts, but last year for Mother's Day, he built me a picnic table by hand. I had commented I wanted one to have picnics in good weather under our cedar tree. Or one day for no reason he installed a ceiling fan over our bed because I get hot at night. Those kinds of gifts are FAARRR better than any store bought flower or trinket.

[NYC GOP Chick]

If that's now she normally does things, I'd consider going out with her! ;D

{Just kidding!)

[NYC GOP Chick]

I could have sworn you were on my ping list -- so I just added you. :)

[NYC GOP Chick]

LOL! Good story. :D

[sandbar]

>I don't know what this says about me, but I got him a Leisure >Suit Larry computer game this year. He's been playing it for >several hours now. I hope I don't end up regretting this. :-)

Nah, you won't. Because it's obviously something he LIKES. That is the important thing. I think too many business like to tell us what our spouse wants or likes instead of what they REALLY want. I bought my husband a set of tools for VDay one time, he LOVED it.

[Larry Lucido]

Welcome to FR.

I like your screen name.

[NYC GOP Chick]

If the chick's a psycho, dump her.

'Xactly! Same goes for psycho guys!

[marajade]

I'd be thinking maybe just a card by itself if after just one date... Guess I've been married too long.

[Larry Lucido]

"Same goes for psycho guys!"

Hey!

[Richard Kimball]

Allow me to post this so ALL Freeper young men can read it. Valentine's Day is not a holiday. It's a test.