If my wife hits me in the head with a rolling pin (a distinct possiblility considering my behavior over the years), and I am in a coma, why would I want my wife to decide my fate?
You should see what happens when there is a living will and the wife is NOT the person designated to make the decision. There is no rule that says the person has to know they are not the healthcare surrogate OR that the husband even has a living will.
Sometimes it is an innocent reason, I don't want my wife to have to make the choice or I want my brothersistermotherorfather to make the choice because they have "X" qualification. (doctor etc.)
LOL, what you said!
(says it all)
quick, someone notify his wife and make sure he is not allowed to make health care decisions for HER.