Posted on 08/31/2008 6:10:00 AM PDT by Libloather
Boys to men: Why guys aren’t growing up
Career aimlessness and beer and porn culture define ‘Guyland’
updated 10:41 a.m. ET, Wed., Aug. 27, 2008
After interviewing hundreds of 16- to 26-year-olds across the U.S., sociologist and gender studies expert Michael Kimmel found a trend of “guy” culture that is marked by the inability to have healthy relationships with women, murky career goals, and the desire not to grow up. In his new book “Guyland,” Kimmel writes about why many young men are trapped between adolescence and adulthood. An excerpt.
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Today, many of these young men, poised between adolescence and adulthood, are more likely to feel anxious and uncertain. In college, they party hard but are soft on studying. They slip through the academic cracks, another face in a large lecture hall, getting by with little effort and less commitment. After graduation, they drift aimlessly from one dead-end job to another, spend more time online playing video games and gambling than they do on dates (and probably spend more money too), “hook up” occasionally with a “friend with benefits,” go out with their buddies, drink too much, and save too little. After college, they perpetuate that experience and move home or live in group apartments in major cities, with several other guys from their dorm or fraternity. They watch a lot of sports. They have grandiose visions for their futures and not a clue how to get from here to there. When they do try and articulate this amorphous uncertainty, they’re likely to paper over it with a simple “it’s all good.”
(Excerpt) Read more at today.msnbc.msn.com ...
Long four page piece at the link above.
Just another failure of liberalism. Where men aren’t men anymore...
Except for the video stuff, you could have overlaid this quote on any random generation. How much was paid for this study?
so some stories from MSM we believe other we dont its really arbitrary
and where are all the amazing women, if the guys are watching all this porn whos producing it nuns?
What losers. If dad yanked the credit card, they’d all be lost.
It’s really called no discipline.
Now, the “guys” are more concerned with going to Obama rallies. P*ssies.
In years past, when you didn’t have any discipline, your Dad beat your ass until you straightened up or you went into the service.
Raising a culture of freakin’ sissies.
Our son is 13 years old. He has known, since kindergarten, that when he turns 18 he will be OUT of this house and into college or the military and on with his life. Me and his daddy got some things we want to catch up on.
I recently learned that most state universities are populated by a majority of women, with statistics like 65% women, 35% men attending them. Where are the men? It’s curious. But, watching how the female-dominated education profession treats even the youngest of boys, one can see—our culture does not want boys to become men. Too bad!
i couldn’t wait to get out!
Yep. My parents told me that they would help me (I still had to get a job & pay for my car, clothes & insurance) - but they would help me while I was in school as long as I was making good grades. But once I left school, for whatever reason - I was on my own. No coming back home to mommy & daddy - I was to make it on my own. I knew they meant it too!
Thet danged younger gen’ration is goin’ to hell in a handbasket, I tell yuh. Why, I heard a young whippersnapper at the Gen’ral Store sayin’ thet he agreed thet women should have the vote! What’s the danged world comin’ too?
Nail...meet hammer!
Oh brother.
...been on campus lately?....seen the way the coeds dress now days?....it’s a lot different than when I was in school...no wonder some of these guys just want to party.
.....sociologist and gender studies expert .....
This guy slipped through the occupational crack into a never never land of psudoscience and pretendstudy. He is a joke. His conclusions and writings are drivel, pure balderdash.
Incredibly depressing. But I’ll say one thing: it makes being a 43 year old cat lady with a decent job feel like an accomplishment.
In my neighborhood, its simply impossible to find a teenager willing to make $30/hour helping me with odd jobs around my house. They get all their money from Mommy and Daddy, so why work? When my toddlers get to be that age, they will be working for me, and others if requested.
On the other hand, if a child is raised properly and can be trusted to be responsible, and the college offers a serious education, I think a parent should pay for his college education if able.
Peter Pan with no incentive to grow-up, there is always someone there to take care of you.
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