Skip to comments.A couple desperate to be parents asks: Will you help us pay for fertility treatments?
Posted on 01/21/2014 5:22:06 PM PST by Behind Liberal Lines
Frustrated by their inability to have a baby, Roger and Jasmine Hill of Canastota are going public in their effort to conceive a child.
The young couple is asking for donations from the public to help pay for the costly IVF, or In-vitro fertilization, procedure they are hoping to try.
There are incentives for those who help: $100 gets you a copy of the sonogram and a photo of the newborn, $500 gets you in the baby book and $1,000 gets you a T-shirt plus all the other rewards.
Roger, who works at Walmart in Oneida and Jasmine, an accountant in Manlius, have set up a Go Fund Me site "Hope for a Baby Hill" where people can donate money to their cause. In the past two weeks since they started the site, they have raised nearly $900. Their goal is $10,000 by June, and they plan to save and contribute some cash of their own.
"We wanted a baby right away when we got married in June 2010, and nothing has worked,'' said Jasmine Hill. "My goal was to be a mom by 27, and that didn't happen."
Hill, 27, said they've tried fertility drugs and four cycle of (IUI) intrauterine insemination, which was covered by insurance. (IVF) in vitro fertilization -- isn't covered by their insurance and costs more than $8,000, plus follow-up visits. They hope to raise the cash and start IVF in June.
IVF combines an egg and sperm in a laboratory dish, and when successful it is combined with an embryo transfer, which involves physically placing the embryo in the uterus.
To chronicle their journey, the Hills also have started a blog.
The couple also has responded to critics who question their decision to go public.
"We both come from big families, and we really want a child,'' Jasmine said. "Roger has three siblings and I have four. So I got worried pretty quickly when I didn't get pregnant right away. I thought it would be easy."
After tests showed no clear obstacles, they were told they had "unexplained infertility," Jasmine said. She began taking medication to boost her fertility, with no luck and some unpleasant side effects.
"Roger and I have a lot to offer a child,'' Jasmine says. "We go to church, and we are both very active people. We feel like we could really give something to a child."
Roger, 29, agrees. "I love to hunt and fish, and we'd love to have two children to share that with,'' he said. "I'd really like to have a mini-me."
At Christmas, their families always asked about grandchildren. The Hills didn't share their struggle with their parents until they decided to go public.
"It's not just the financial support that matters to us, but it's all the emotional support we're getting by going public,'' Jasmine said. "My friends were against it, and it is a very private thing. But we wanted to do it.
"Infertility is viewed as a disease,'' she said. "But it doesn't mean we are broken. We need to make people more aware of that."
IUI, which they tried, was covered by insurance an has about a 10 to 20 percent success rate based on Jasmine's age. It also was invasive. "We counted and I had to give myself 69 shots for the cycles. Our bathroom was filled with medication and needles."
IVF's success rate is higher, more like 30 to 35 percent, the Hills said.
Although they consider adoption down the road, the Hills want to explore every alternative they can to have a child naturally. Still, they debated the public campaign.
"We had some qualms about doing this, but we both paid for college ourselves and we paid for our wedding and house on our own,'' Jasmine said. "To have to ask for help is hard, but we are so happy we are doing it."
I would suggest these two adopt. However, their maturity level and sense of entitlement leads me to believe any kid is better off in a different home.
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I thought zero care paid for this.
Zerocare only provides for the prevention or destruction of life.
Did dumBO overlook this one in zerOcare?
3D printer to make fetus dolls
50 years ago - they could have adopted.
Now, pregnant teenagers keep their babies and make the their kids’ live miserable.
all about me
+1 it worked for my parents and their parents.
NO! Agree with above, ADOPT
lots of kids already in existence need parents that want kids.
i have thought adoption was special because of how God adopts us to be His children.
Let’s take a look at the wife. If she’s hot, I’m pretty sure there’s some guys who’ll help with the “fertility problems”.
Probably a lot of young single men around who would be glad to put something into that fund, and help her out.
Get a divorce. Move to California. Claim to be homosexual. Hire your former wife as a surrogate. Get IVF and make a baby. Rinse and repeat for as many kids as you want. Leave California for someplace sane. Re-marry. Live happily ever after.
They sound like lefties. They should adopt a black baby from Africa. It’s all the rage on the left. And Melissa Hyphen-Hyphen won’t bother them if they really are lefties.
Not at the top of my list.
No healthy kids available for adoption?
It's all about adults' wants, not babies' needs.
I wonder if she had an abortion at one time....
Having one can make getting pregnant harder....