I think after 25 years it’s, well, just everything.
I’ve heard all sorts of contrivances.
Crap that there is no way it happened.
Like he watched every episode of Jerry Springer and is acting out those scenes.
He has been in the entertainment field for 25 years and some people get caught up in the partying, not realizing it’s a business.
I’ve heard entertainers galore tell him he needs to move out of this lifestyle. People you would be familiar with.
He just keeps going.
Hell, he had an investor last month will to finance one of his scripts.
Well, he flew to Vegas for a meeting.
Somehow he ended up staying two weeks.
Have no idea where he got the money but, when he came back it was a real hassle just trying to pick him up from the airport.
He never showed up curbside. He called two hours later saying he was someplace clear across town.
Went to pick him up and sure enough, again, he was not there.
In fact, after his mom finally got him to tell us where he was at it turned out he was downtown and uhm...drunk.
So we show up to take him home and he’s pretending to call a credit card company.
His card had been denied and be was probably playing it until the right moment, so he could walk. He’s done that so many times.
His mom payed the bill, he got in the car and immediately started in with the “I’m hungry” routine.
Really agitated.
We told him we have two refrigerators full of food and a walk in pantry.
Just wouldn’t stop.
Got him though and made him a sandwich.
He ate like some slob. It was really awful.
Then when he had conjured up his story started crying and lamenting this investor made a fool of him.
Just wailing.
The next day, he starts the whining routine again.
I informed of the truth.
“You went to Vegas and did exaclty what you said you weren’t going to do and predictably the same results ensued”.
“You dont know! You weren’t there!” He blurted
“Why, no I wasn’t but, there seems to be a predictable common denominator for all your problems. In fact, there are two: You and booze”.
Time to toss a grenade and deflect.
“You drink and I should be able to....too!”
“Uhm, my sobriety is not an issue, nor is my ability to function as an adult”. I responded
Needless to say, that’s how it always goes.
Every frickin time.
Heck, he likes to point out everyone’s faults, if only to deflect and dilute his problem.
I have better things to do.
WOw! Obvious the family has been enabling him...and needs to stop believing him...he knows he has a problem...they dynamics are typical don’t you think?.. to those of famiy members attempting to help.
My son was staying with my other son after his marriage break up, (His fault of course), to help him get on his feet...three years later he was still there and would have continued to mooch had my other son not come to his senses and realized he was being played.
Now we wait...and continue to pray. Although my son and his wife do call him every few weeks... they advised me not to try and reach him because better he goes it alone.
Moms need to know you can’t fix what your kids break when they are adults....they have to.
You might benefit to learn that no you do not have to keep on hopping on top of his folly to keep correcting him when he lies or talks foolishness.
Because that is what this kind of situation turns out to be.
He is miserable inside, full of his fallen self, collapsed by Satan. Don’t be gratuitously cruel, but don’t try to keep on rescuing him with kindnesses either. That is a God sized task, not a Vendome sized task.