Posted on 02/17/2018 11:35:35 AM PST by Albion Wilde
Here's how one schoolteacher takes time each week to look out for the lonely...
Every Friday afternoon, she asks her students to take out a piece of paper and write down the names of four children with whom they’d like to sit the following week. The children know that these requests may or may not be honored. She also asks the students to nominate one student who they believe has been an exceptional classroom citizen that week. All ballots are privately submitted to her.
And every single Friday afternoon, after the students go home, she takes out those slips of paper, places them in front of her, and studies them. She looks for patterns.
Who is not getting requested by anyone else?
Who can’t think of anyone to request?
Who never gets noticed enough to be nominated?
Who had a million friends last week and none this week?
You see, Chase’s teacher is not looking for a new seating chart or “exceptional citizens.” Chase’s teacher is looking for lonely children....
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Interesting.
What, did you just look it up?
Thanks for the ping, AW.
You didn't even attempt to refute what I typed.
Heh. :)
Yeah, some exercises in futility are just not worth my bother any more.
Thank you for an interesting exchange of ideas.
They are not identical terms, true.
Their overlap is fairly large, however.
Nevertheless, I'm not all that thrilled to go on and on about this topic. It doesn't excite me that much.
Part of me takes that as a compliment, the other half says &^%$#.
OK. We have had a good exchange. I disagree on this point and am happy to leave it there.
Are introversion and shyness the same thing? When I interviewed Wellesley College psychologist Jonathan Cheek, he said it depends on who you ask. So I next asked Louis A. Schmidt, director of the Child Emotion Laboratory at McMaster University, who studies the biological underpinnings of personality, especially shyness.
“Though in popular media they’re often viewed as the same, we know in the scientific community that, conceptually or empirically, they’re unrelated,” Schmidt says.
The two get confused because they both are related to socializing-but lack of interest in socializing is very clearly not the same as fearing it. Schmidt and Arnold H. Buss of the University of Texas wrote a chapter titled “Understanding Shyness” for the upcoming book The Development of Shyness and Social Withdrawal.
There they write, “Sociability refers to the motive, strong or weak, of wanting to be with others, whereas shyness refers to behavior when with others, inhibited or uninhibited, as well as feelings of tension and discomfort.” This differentiation between motivation and behavior is consistent with the ability many of us have to behave like extroverts when we choose, whereas shy people cannot turn their shyness off and on.
What a great story! Illustrates the “blind spot” thesis exactly. Thanks!
How is it any less "engineered" than the old way, which was alphabetical, with the kids with the A and B names in front and the W's and Z's in back?
It sounds like she is at least mixing it up a little so that different combinations of kids sit together at various times.
That’s engineering. Sorry, alphabetical is not. That’s just plain retarded to think that.
Not parroting - sharing.
This isnt all bad. Personally, I have some scars on my face and as a elementary student I was horribly picked on and bullied. I grew into a strong young my man. Athletic and popular. The scars faded. I always looked out for and befriended the loners and nerds. I still do today. Too many people ignore these folks and are missing out on some really neat people.
But I am also with you. From my class, there are really only 5 people I care about. The rest mostly made my life difficult, so I have no time for them.
Worthy points.
Great post. Thanks.
Social engineering logically has to do with any social arrangement that influences the individual and/or group.
IF you think that persistently being at the end of the line and back of the group due to name alphabetizing fails to influence such individuals in any way--then evidently we do not share a sufficiently large dictionary to have any meaningful dialogue whatsoever.
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