Posted on 04/09/2018 4:57:45 AM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
How about starting with holding girls accountable by making them live with their decisions apart from forcing the father, or the taxpayer, to finance those decisions.
I cannot, in good conscience, agree with compelling ANYTHING from the father so long as all the decision rights belong to the mother.
"Risk of Psychological Difficulties Among Children Raised by Custodial Grandparents - Similar to other children in kinship care arrangements, custodial grandchildren are reported by their caregivers to have higher levels of behavioral and emotional disturbances than children in the overall U.S. population."link
I knew a young woman named Shawn in college, so that is not out of the question.
Unplanned pregnancy is NEVER something to celebrate, especially for men, in this legal environment and culture.
lets not forget the young man who got her that way. He needs to keep his pants on as well, or at least practice safe sex.
Shawn Johnson is a female. (former gymnast)
Not to be harsh but one only needs to look to African American communities to see harsh realities of grandparents rain grand children
‘If you don’t get an abortion, I will lose all respect for you’
‘I wouldn’t want my daughter punished with a baby’
These are the prevailing attitudes in our country today. The Godless have ruled for decades. Those of us who don’t subscribe to these anti-life attitudes are ridiculed and demeaned at every turn. I’m glad this young woman found out that her ‘8 year relationship’ wasn’t what she had believed. I hope her future is filled with love, marriage and children someday.
True, and that's the ideal we should all strive for. But this deals with the best options in those inevitable cases where the ideal isn't met.
“I really don’t understand why people hate babies so much.” It all starts at the top. Don’t you remember President obama saying “I don’t want my daughter punished with a baby” Extremely interesting and telling statement.
Not to be judgmental, but I am not African-American nor do I live in those communities.
I have three daughters; 23, 20, and 16, and by the Grace of God have not had to face that decision yet, or hopefully ever.
But I will not idly sit by while my grandchild is farmed out to another, faith unknown, family to raise.
This girl decided to give up her child for others to take care of, while she still gets to go see him from time to time. You know, whenever she feels like it.
That used to be the joke about grandparents, they can give the grand-kids back whenever they are tired of playing with the grand-kids. This girl just found a way to get someone else to take care of her kid, because that kid will always know who the real parent is.
So she didn’t kill the baby but her future career still took precedence.
“”“The hardest day of my life was driving away from that hospital without a baby. I had never felt more empty in my life. I was physically empty, and I felt so alone.”””
That’s about how the kid might end up feeling someday when he finds out his mom gave him away.
“””“I don’t sugarcoat that because it’s real life and I loved this child so much, but I couldn’t give him a father, I couldn’t give him brothers and sisters for a long time, I couldn’t provide him with what felt like anything he deserved.””””
Couldn’t give him brothers and sisters for a long time - because career.
For all she knows, she could have met a guy in less than a year that already had a house and good income.
I don't hate them, but I have absolutely zero desire to ever have to care for one.
What a great story about a person’s making the best decision in a very difficult situation.
I could not help but observe, however, that, having earned a Master’s degree in counseling, the young lady is working as a preschool teacher. Parents, think about this when you and your young-adult children discuss college!
So do I; also "Shaun."
I, on the other hand, am very curious. :)
DH and I adopted our granddaughter after taking a year of legal struggle to get custody another year and multiple thousands of dollars to adopt. She lived with her drug addicted birth mother moving in with a series of drug dealers every few weeks. Our son who fathered the baby is no better. I am 55 years old with a 5 year old child and blessed. I think grandparents adopting and raising a little one surrounded by love is the best option. I could never let a stranger raise my grandchild as long as I have breath. I do not think we have damaged her at all raising her as grandparents and now legally mom and dad.
I could never have done that - I raised mine to be a successful, working, loving mother and grandmother. 47 years ago.
As I said there are those that beat the odds. In general, mother/father is the optimum for every child. That’s not always possible. With every less optimal situation there seems to be a price to pay, first by the child then by the society that has it’s members made of of these children after they’re grown.
A hedonistic culture spawns such men.
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