Skip to comments.Same Sex Attraction: A feeling, not an identity
Posted on 04/18/2018 2:44:28 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Am I Gay? Today, every family in America faces this question one way or another. Even the best families. Maybe you have a child, or sibling, or close friend who feels attracted to people of the same sex. Maybe a niece or nephew or grandchild wonders about their sexuality.
Maybe they are asking YOU about these questions.
The book Why I Dont Call Myself Gay challenges the idea that feelings of same sex attraction necessarily mean a person is gay. The author, Daniel Mattson, tells his story of experiencing same sex attraction, acting on it, and ultimately, allowing Jesus to turn his life around.
This is not a pray away the gay message. It is something much more powerful. The pray away the gay slur is meant to demean peoples efforts to change their patterns of sexual attraction. Mattsons message is that every person can and must, make choices about their feelings. Even if same sex attraction persists, or reemerges, every person continues to have meaningful choices about important topics:
What meaning do I assign my sexual feelings? Whom do I choose as my friends? From whom do I chose to draw inspiration, advice, and encouragement? And most of all, how do I decide to behave?
I have heard Dan speak. (Full disclosure: Dan and I are friends. He says nice things about me in the Acknowledgments section of the book.I say nice things about him on the back cover.) Dan has a wonderful way about him. He loves talking with high school students. He invites them to write their questions on index cards, so no one knows who is asking what question.
Inevitably, a few kids will write Am I gay? on their cards.
Dan answers them so gently.
Feelings of attraction to the same sex are just that: feelings. Those feelings are not the same thing as an identity. You are more than the sum total of your feelings. So is every human being who has ever walked the earth.
Did you know, that in some states, Dans message could be considered illegal? Thats right. You Must Stay Gay laws are being proposed and passed across the country.
Of course, no one comes right out and says: You Must Stay Gay.
They say they are outlawing Sexual Orientation Change Efforts.They claim offering therapy is an unlawful business practice.
In other words, the government is telling you and me and every young person how they must interpret their own feelings. You feel same sex attraction: you are gay. End of story.
But Dan Mattson begs to differ. We can feel all kinds of things. We still have choices about how to label ourselves, what to think, and how to behave. He is not a therapist, and not making therapeutic claims. He is just one man, who is telling his own story. That is still legal. At least for now.
My identity: I am a child of God.
Noted Catholic Cardinal, Robert Sarah of Guinea, wrote the foreword to Dans book. Cardinal Sarah says of persons who experience same sex attraction:
Only when they lived in keeping with Christs teaching were they able to find the peace and joy for which they had been searching… They are called to chastity, and we demean them if we think they cannot attain this virtue, which is a virtue for all disciples.
In fact, the subtitle of Dans book is How I Reclaimed My Sexual Reality and Found Peace. People need to hear this message of hope for people who experience same sex attraction.
A word to the many non-Catholic Christians on this site: Yes, this book is written by a Catholic man, published by a Catholic publisher, and endorsed by a Catholic Cardinal. There are plenty of culturally-Catholic quirks that may strike you as odd. But the overall message is just as biblically sound and solid as it can be. In this age of so many religious leaders in so many branches of Christianity promoting so much confusion, we small o orthodox believers have no choice but to support one another wherever we can.
Please buy this book. Read it. Share it with your pastor, youth minister, and others who work with young people. Help give Dan Mattsons message of hope and peace the wide audience it deserves.
Jennifer Roback Morse, Ph.D., is Founder and President of the Ruth Institute, located in Lake Charles Louisiana. Daniel Mattson will be the keynote speaker at their First Annual Awards Dinner June 15, 2018.
Studies done on identical twins show there is no connection between DNA and homosexuality. So what’s left for a person to identify themselves as “gay”? Like any that is not instinctively driven by DNA, it is conditioned behavior.
I’ve been saying this for years. “Gay” is a purely political term for someone who embraces that ideology and participates, affirms and encourages others in it, even as far as making it public policy.
It is NOT the same as same-sex attraction.
Here’s my joke
Yeah I’ll TRY ANYTHING !
bwa ha ha ha ha ha
I’m this this week
That the next
And both every other Tuesday !
A desire to be special or to be dominate over someone.
We all have the choice to follow after our animal instincts or to control our urges. One path leads to slavery, the other to freedom and enlightment. It is a daily choice. Some people prefer to stay in a low state. If one wants to stay a slave to their desires then they redefine their world to make it acceptable and nowadays, even desirable.
“Feelings”: Fickle, fleeting, and frequently false.
Am I Gay? Today, every family in America faces this question one way or another.”
Especially if anyone in your family is a schoolchild.
Ive been saying this for years. Gay is a purely political term for someone who embraces that ideology and participates, affirms and encourages others in it, even as far as making it public policy.
It is NOT the same as same-sex attraction.
I call them HOMOSENSUALS there is no sexuality in evolved in what they are doing. They “feel” pleasure in same sex unions but sexuality, by definition, involves the “ability” to reproduce. This behavior is actually asexual. The bible never mentions “homosexual” . It speaks of man with man and women with women and forbids the behavior as sinful. Biblicly and scientifically, there are only two sexes.
I knew that I was Heterosexual before I knew what Sex was.
You knew you wanted to be normal. So what is normal? It’s our natural state, i.e. the way nature designed us. So how is homosexuality not natural? Nature has no reason for it to exist. It’s as useless as attaching a child’s car seat to the front bumper.
Got that right bro.
Learned behavior can be changed. They can also get help for dealing with the abuse they endured.
Am I gay?
Just a minute - I’ll answer that question just as soon as I get this naked woman off my face.
I’m Romulian in nature, and adapted to the race in the 1980s after watching Star Trek. People should respect my race (even though it’s imaginary and fake).
Feelings are not facts, period.
Feelings can easily turn to addictions.
Good news, else I'd be a serial killer. ;p
Yes. I know a pair of male twins. One is heterosexual, one is homoerotic.