30 years old and living at home with his free time taken up with drugs instead of a job,a crappy boss, bitchy wife , a mortgage, a yard, car payments, A broken washer and or dryer, health insurance premiums, and a couple of rugrats...
Meth and dope only gave him 2 problems.. and he couldn't handle that.. I'm sorry your son is dead, but he was never really living anyway.
Her son was a would be mass murderer.
Nothing to be proud of.
To most your post would seem hard heart-ed and uncaring and it was. However, it was a most and exactly correct post. I agree with your post. The real hell of it is those with drug problems have many sources of help if they will avail themselves of it. If they do not choose to avail themselves of this free help I do not mourn their demise.
From the obituary this woman wrote: “Shawn was a troubled soul who lacked a good male role model.”
In other words this was YET ANOTHER single mother situation, no male present, completely incapable from the get-go in raising a healthy male child, and now she’s blaming others for the nigh-inevitable consequences of her own choices.
Single motherhood is an abomination. If she is not a widow, a single mother should be shunned as a pox on society, and children removed to a healthy and intact family for their own protection.
Right ?
Who the hell whose normal even THINK about living with the rents past high school ?
I moved 3000 miles away. Not that I don’t love them dearly
The east coast is just boring
That statement tells us a LOT more about you than about him.
“I’m sorry your son is dead, but he was never really living anyway.”
The second half of your statement appears to nullify any expression of sympathy in the first. It would be very harsh to say this in person to the grieving mother, and never come across as a genuine expression of sympathy.
I understand why this mother made her “in lieu of flowers” request, even if it is not completely correct assignment of responsibility for her son’s drug addiction. I may have expressed similar sentiments too. Recently, our President made a public comment about the death penalty for drug dealers. Her opinion appears to be aligned with his. If she had instead said that she supported the President’s position in light of what happened to her, the article would have had a much different narrative. Hence, would you object to the President’s statement for the same reason you object to hers? Just asking.
Yesterday, I had the rare opportunity to be patted down like an apprehended subject in order to enter a jail facility. I attended an event where 30 inmates had successfully passed an in house rehab program. These are human beings who are responsible for their drug problems, and some of them will probably fall again when they go back into the streets. I did not hear one of them who spoke about recovery blame their problem on a drug dealer. The scourge of drugs is devastating, the suffering, pain, health problems, even death these souls and their families have endured, and some may continue to endure once out. I don’t have a simple solution to this problem. But I what I have seen is that those who turned their lives over to God and had the positive support structures to continue recovery have been successful. Kicking them when they are down is not going to help. Addiction is so powerful that shear will power and (learning to or) making good decisions is not enough to overcome it. I grieve for this woman’s loss of her son.