Posted on 07/24/2018 11:14:28 AM PDT by servo1969
That's generally good advice. I'd like to add some things from the perspective of a woman who loves men in general, loves her husband and sons in particular, and who hopes to help other people to also know the joy of a good marriage.
In re: #1,
Beauty of character is the beauty that lasts. My husband still looks at my face through the eyes of love because I've never given him reason to do otherwise.
In re: #2, As a general rule, men fight straightforward and face-to-face. Women don't. We are subtle, nasty, and vindictive. This is biology. We get pregnant and have the care of nursing infants and/or small children. We can't just settle things with a boxing match so we compensate. A wise man doesn't over-react but remembers that women think differently about conflict.
In re: #3,
The status thing matters because once we settle down to raise kids with you our status depends entirely on yours. But remember, there are different kinds of status. Your job isn't the only thing. My DH is "only" a landscape/maintenance guy. But he's also tech staff at our church, known in our community for being willing to help people when they need him, and incredibly good with his hands at both carpentry and crafts. A man doesn't have to be a company CEO to be respected. But he has to do more than just sit on his backside and he can't be a whiner.
In re: #4,
All too true. I'm probably about as stable as women come, but very, very few men (at least real men, not the damaged, SJW snowflake types), will be significantly more volatile than I am. At least 60% of the women in the world drive me nuts with their emotionalism. Good luck, guys.
In re: #5,
This gets tricky because leadership, like status, comes in many shades and varieties. It takes a tremendous amount of strength and self-confidence for a man to love and partner a woman who excels him in worldly accomplishments, but I've known a number of loving and well-paired couples like that. In all such cases the man in question may not have been as "successful" or "brilliant" in the eyes of the world as his wife was, but he was competent and confident in his own area of expertise and had his wife's respect for it. If you can do this, great. But beware the "brilliant" woman who thinks that she wants to control the relationship rather than have a partner. In fact, run from her as fast as you can.
Beauty is fleeting but cooking ability lasts a lifetime.
Most of what is considered beauty in our society is just youth, IMO.
RE: 1. Beauty fades
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” ( Proverbs 31:30)
We already knew that.
Hkmmmm.... sounds a bit like the common pit bull.
As a woman, I guess I have the freedom to say that I don’t know how men put up with us!
Always look first for medical issues.
My Mom is incredibly sweet and kind.
Then, she got Thyroid Cancer and became angry all the time.
After treatment, back to sweet and kind.
I married the sweetest person I ever met.
She got sick and it was awful until they got it under control.
Make sure the problem isn’t medical.
I laughed out loud at this (true) 5 points. My husband refused to comment ;)
Ouch - those are my good qualities.
Men are attracted to healthy, physically fit women in their prime child-bearing years. The composite of the above features is what we call "beauty".
More and more of us aren't.
When men act badly, they mess up your face or break your bones. When women act badly they destroy your life.
The comedic part is only the former lands you in prison, usually. :-D
I find older women more attractive. Just saying.
“5 Ugly Truths About Women That Young Men Need to Recognize”
That older men have found out the hard way,
1. Breasts are for feeding babies.
That is all...you are dismissed.
Interesting article and responses.
Reminds me in a way of the lyrics of a catchy 60s song by Jimmy Soul.
“If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he marries her then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart
But if you make an ugly woman your wife
You’ll be happy for the rest of your life
An ugly woman cooks meals on time
She’ll always give you peace of mind
Don’t let your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly, her eyes don’t match
Take it from me, she’s a better catch
If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you.”
I have been fortunate in that I have have had (have) two wives (lost the first to a disease years ago) who were (are) attractive inside as they are outside. One friend’ s spouse more matches the song, and she is one delightful and wonderful to be around person.
So, in the long run, good beats beautiful. If you’ve got both, thank God.
Just sayin’.
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They are all nuts, Jim.
Men find women attractive who are strong and smart. Unfortunately I prefer women who are weak and stupid.
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