Posted on 11/03/2018 7:14:18 AM PDT by Vlad The Inhaler
TIERRA VERDE — Judson Kidd and James Donovan are a gay couple with an adopted black son. From the day they moved into their waterfront house last summer, they never felt welcomed in the conservative, overwhelmingly white community of Tierra Verde.
Neighbors never waved or introduced themselves, they said. One mother yanked her daughter away when she started to play with 2-year-old Van. Then came Halloween, and the disturbing decorations at the big house up the street.
The yard had been transformed into a graveyard. "CNN,’’ was written on one white cross, with a gruesome gray skull at its base. Other crosses bore the names of Democrats Hillary Clinton, Nancy Pelosi and Chuck Schumer. A firepit contained a jumble of bones and a cross marked "George Soros,’’ the Jewish billionaire who supports liberal causes.
All had been critics of President Donald J. Trump.
Kidd was so appalled that he took to Nextdoor, the social media site on which residents of a neighborhood can post messages, whether offering items for sale or reporting suspicious behavior. Kidd’s message was more pointed.
"This is pathetic," he said of the graveyard display. "Can’t we take the politics out of Halloween?"
That elicited a quick response: "You’re disgusting. If you don’t like it why don’t you move."
Since then, a long string of comments has reflected the nation’s deep divides leading up to Tuesday’s elections. Some posts supported Kidd. Others strongly defended the graveyard.
That made Kidd and Donovan wonder: Is this a neighborhood where we want to raise our black son? Could he be the object of racist taunts or worse as attitudes become even more hardened and polarized?
"People hear things from the president and think, ‘If the leader of the free world says it, it’s OK,’" Kidd said. "Even my rhetoric has amped up, not that I’m proud of it. But this is the world we live in today."
Now in their early 40s, Donovan and Kidd have been together for 15 years.
Donovan came out just after the Sept. 11 attacks. Then working on Wall Street, he was getting his shoes shined near the World Trade Center when the first plane hit. He saw people jumping from 100 stories up and realized: Life is short. It was time to acknowledge he was gay.
Soon afterward, Donovan’s employer transferred him to Texas. He met Kidd, who had just graduated from Southern Methodist University, in a gay bar in Dallas. Over the following years they moved frequently as they married and advanced in their careers — Donovan as a media executive who once worked for CNN’s parent company; Kidd in banking, then as a Realtor.
Four years ago, they settled in the Tampa Bay area. They had a vacation cottage on Anna Maria Island — "Everybody there loved having gay friends," Kidd says — and a waterfront house in northeast St. Petersburg, known as one of the nation’s most gay-friendly cities. When the couple adopted Van, neighbors cooed at the baby and brought over gifts.
This year, Kidd found an attractive deal on a larger house in Tierra Verde with a prized view of Boca Ciega Bay. As they were moving in last July, two children, no older than 7 or 8, appeared with signs sporting Trump’s "Make America Great Again" slogan.
No one stopped by to say hello.
"This is the most unwelcome I’ve ever felt," Kidd said, "We’ve live in all kinds of Deep South states and in all those situations, I was surprised at how considerate people were. In Little Rock, Arkansas, it was pure Southern hospitality."
Several days before Halloween, Donovan was riding his bike when he saw the mock graveyard. In addition to the Clinton, Pelosi, Schumer and CNN signs, one grave was marked "Socialism" and another "Pocahontas" — Trump’s nickname for Sen. Elizabeth Warren — with a severed head nearby. Donovan was also struck by the tiki torches burning next to white crosses and signs that said: "Stay Away.’’
The graveyard seemed to be a message to all those who weren’t straight, white Trump supporters.
Kidd called the Tierra Verde Community Association and sent photographs. He heard nothing. That’s when he posted on Nextdoor and prompted the response so offensive that it was taken down. But there were dozens of other comments:
Oh, dear. Whatever happened to having a sense of humor. No, Halloween isn’t just for kids and God Bless the First Amendment. If a sign intimidates you, go to your safe place.
I’m guessing that it wasn’t your neighbor’s intent for you to feel uncomfortable and if it was, who cares. Be grateful you can afford your home. The are plenty of people who can’t afford a home at all.
Just remember, you moved here and those tiki torches probably were here before you.
There were postings in support, too.
I agreed with you Mr. Kidd. Our society has become increasingly coarse and aggressive. The adults are acting like children.
Putting the name of a living person on a gravestone implies you want them dead.
The nation is split and that includes Tierra Verde. This gallows humor is an insult to other neighbors and confusing to children who we want to teach that we are all Americans with values.
The white nationalists who held their rally in Charlottesville last year used tiki torches as they marched around chanting "Jews will not replace us" and other, much worse anti-Semitic chants.
Also joining the online conversation Sharon Rhoads, the homeowner with the graveyard. She cited her charitable work and her adoption of two orphaned children from Guatemala.
My husband and I hate NO ONE, she wrote. We teach our children that we are all ALL God’s people and we love them all — men, women, LGBT, black, white, Hispanic, Christian, Jew. Our graveyard was simply political satire designed to target that with which we do disagree, WHICH IS SOCIALISM.
Rhoads invited Kidd to have coffee, which he declined. That prompted more Nextdoor comments, some of which criticized him for not meeting with her.
"With that stuff in her yard, I’m not setting foot on her property," he said.
Rhoads did not respond to a call for comment. The Tierra Verde Community Association said it had no comment on the controversy over her Halloween decorations.
At first, Kidd and Donovan were so concerned about the graveyard and some of the postings on Nextdoor that they decided to sell the house and move. Then neighbors invited them to Halloween parties. Others thanked them for speaking out. Perhaps Tierra Verde was not quite as unfriendly as they thought.
They are going to stay, for the time being at least.
For all of those who are criticizing the posting of this article here, I want to counter that it is highlighting a very dangerous trend among the left. That is the leftist practice to condition people to reflexively assign racist motives to those who point out the hypocrisy and anti-freedom beliefs of the left. They are so conditioned to automatically think “racism” every time they hear a conservative that they are incapable of even thinking about the philosophical underpinnings of conservatism. Nothing in the lawn display was racist, yet this “couple” is worried that the little boy is going to be subject to racist harassment?
This is an extremely dangerous trend on the left. Once they are so conditioned to reflexively dismiss anything conservative as racist, sexist, bigoted, homophobic, etc., then they start feeling that a more permanent “solution” to conservatives is needed. This is how the Soviets, Nazis, Chicoms, etc., rationalized the murders of over 100 million people last century. This is how they are working themselves up to commit millions more murders.
They are already conditioning themselves through Antifa activism and various politicians inciting violence. The question is, what are we doing to counter the current efforts of the left to work themselves up to mass murder?
Seriously, why do we need to have every sodomite article posted on this site. What does it add to the overall purpose for FReeRepublic’s existence?
Newsworthy, no. Family friendly, no. Edifying to the members, no.
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RIGHT ON! AND BEARS REPEATING.
Please don’t post this disgusting trash here.
BTW - I am offended by the story of these sexual deviants.
Exactly, from NFL to Taylor Swift, Democrats have demanded that politics be inserted into everything so when someone says, "can't we take the politics out of..." they really mean, get rid of the pro-Trump politics.
Fairies have a hissy fit.
Not exactly breaking news.
I notice that they wear beards. Why is that?
28% of US gay men have had over 1,000 partners
Only about 25% of US gay men make it to age 65
Only 3% of US gay males ever have an exclusive relationship lasting more than 3 years
Homosexuals cannot get away with offending God forever.
This is the same God who destroyed Sodom.
He is being gracious to homosexuals to give them time to repent and come to Him through His son.
If they continue to reject His grace and His terms, they will die in their sin.
Then, their fate is sealed and permanent.
Absolutely spot on!
The homosexual movement doesn’t want tolerance of their lifestyle nor acceptance of it but approval of it. Anything short of that will get their undies in a bunch. They will exaggerate any possible slight (many of which they create in their own minds) to garner sympathy which they hope to turn to approval.
These two are the real hate mongers of the neighborhood. Claiming these decorations were racist and homophobic with absolutely no evidence. This is how they operate. Make unsubstantiated charges to smear peoples reputations to hide their own bigotry.
Discrimination DURING the home purchase process is strictly verboten.
Discrimination AFTER the purchase...not so much.
You rolls your dice guys, you takes your chances.
>>>Most homosexuals are dead before they reach 50 years of age. It is not a lifestyle where those engaging in it should be preaching morals. Yet that is what this article is attempting to do. Degenerate fudge packers complaining and moralizing about a neighborhood that does not condone their behavior.<<<
A most hearty Amen! to that.
I’m offended that we even have to be exposed to this junk.
Don’t forget VP Pence’s treatment at the Hamilton play.
In the 1950s they usually stayed "in the closet" and if outed almost never got in your face as they do now.
You may feel better with your head in the sand, but I DO NOT.
That’s why FreeRepublic is HERE.
“Neighbors never waved or introduced themselves.”
“No one stopped by to say hello.”
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Obviously, these dudes never lived in Southern California. I lived there for seventeen years and this is typical behavior out there, or at least it was when I lived there many years ago.
You know how to fix that, right?
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