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Posted on 11/03/2018 7:14:18 AM PDT by Vlad The Inhaler
TIERRA VERDE — Judson Kidd and James Donovan are a gay couple with an adopted black son. From the day they moved into their waterfront house last summer, they never felt welcomed in the conservative, overwhelmingly white community of Tierra Verde.
Neighbors never waved or introduced themselves, they said. One mother yanked her daughter away when she started to play with 2-year-old Van. Then came Halloween, and the disturbing decorations at the big house up the street.
The yard had been transformed into a graveyard. "CNN,’’ was written on one white cross, with a gruesome gray skull at its base. Other crosses bore the names of Democrats Hillary Clinton, Nancy Pelosi and Chuck Schumer. A firepit contained a jumble of bones and a cross marked "George Soros,’’ the Jewish billionaire who supports liberal causes.
All had been critics of President Donald J. Trump.
Kidd was so appalled that he took to Nextdoor, the social media site on which residents of a neighborhood can post messages, whether offering items for sale or reporting suspicious behavior. Kidd’s message was more pointed.
"This is pathetic," he said of the graveyard display. "Can’t we take the politics out of Halloween?"
That elicited a quick response: "You’re disgusting. If you don’t like it why don’t you move."
Since then, a long string of comments has reflected the nation’s deep divides leading up to Tuesday’s elections. Some posts supported Kidd. Others strongly defended the graveyard.
That made Kidd and Donovan wonder: Is this a neighborhood where we want to raise our black son? Could he be the object of racist taunts or worse as attitudes become even more hardened and polarized?
"People hear things from the president and think, ‘If the leader of the free world says it, it’s OK,’" Kidd said. "Even my rhetoric has amped up, not that I’m proud of it. But this is the world we live in today."
Now in their early 40s, Donovan and Kidd have been together for 15 years.
Donovan came out just after the Sept. 11 attacks. Then working on Wall Street, he was getting his shoes shined near the World Trade Center when the first plane hit. He saw people jumping from 100 stories up and realized: Life is short. It was time to acknowledge he was gay.
Soon afterward, Donovan’s employer transferred him to Texas. He met Kidd, who had just graduated from Southern Methodist University, in a gay bar in Dallas. Over the following years they moved frequently as they married and advanced in their careers — Donovan as a media executive who once worked for CNN’s parent company; Kidd in banking, then as a Realtor.
Four years ago, they settled in the Tampa Bay area. They had a vacation cottage on Anna Maria Island — "Everybody there loved having gay friends," Kidd says — and a waterfront house in northeast St. Petersburg, known as one of the nation’s most gay-friendly cities. When the couple adopted Van, neighbors cooed at the baby and brought over gifts.
This year, Kidd found an attractive deal on a larger house in Tierra Verde with a prized view of Boca Ciega Bay. As they were moving in last July, two children, no older than 7 or 8, appeared with signs sporting Trump’s "Make America Great Again" slogan.
No one stopped by to say hello.
"This is the most unwelcome I’ve ever felt," Kidd said, "We’ve live in all kinds of Deep South states and in all those situations, I was surprised at how considerate people were. In Little Rock, Arkansas, it was pure Southern hospitality."
Several days before Halloween, Donovan was riding his bike when he saw the mock graveyard. In addition to the Clinton, Pelosi, Schumer and CNN signs, one grave was marked "Socialism" and another "Pocahontas" — Trump’s nickname for Sen. Elizabeth Warren — with a severed head nearby. Donovan was also struck by the tiki torches burning next to white crosses and signs that said: "Stay Away.’’
The graveyard seemed to be a message to all those who weren’t straight, white Trump supporters.
Kidd called the Tierra Verde Community Association and sent photographs. He heard nothing. That’s when he posted on Nextdoor and prompted the response so offensive that it was taken down. But there were dozens of other comments:
Oh, dear. Whatever happened to having a sense of humor. No, Halloween isn’t just for kids and God Bless the First Amendment. If a sign intimidates you, go to your safe place.
I’m guessing that it wasn’t your neighbor’s intent for you to feel uncomfortable and if it was, who cares. Be grateful you can afford your home. The are plenty of people who can’t afford a home at all.
Just remember, you moved here and those tiki torches probably were here before you.
There were postings in support, too.
I agreed with you Mr. Kidd. Our society has become increasingly coarse and aggressive. The adults are acting like children.
Putting the name of a living person on a gravestone implies you want them dead.
The nation is split and that includes Tierra Verde. This gallows humor is an insult to other neighbors and confusing to children who we want to teach that we are all Americans with values.
The white nationalists who held their rally in Charlottesville last year used tiki torches as they marched around chanting "Jews will not replace us" and other, much worse anti-Semitic chants.
Also joining the online conversation Sharon Rhoads, the homeowner with the graveyard. She cited her charitable work and her adoption of two orphaned children from Guatemala.
My husband and I hate NO ONE, she wrote. We teach our children that we are all ALL God’s people and we love them all — men, women, LGBT, black, white, Hispanic, Christian, Jew. Our graveyard was simply political satire designed to target that with which we do disagree, WHICH IS SOCIALISM.
Rhoads invited Kidd to have coffee, which he declined. That prompted more Nextdoor comments, some of which criticized him for not meeting with her.
"With that stuff in her yard, I’m not setting foot on her property," he said.
Rhoads did not respond to a call for comment. The Tierra Verde Community Association said it had no comment on the controversy over her Halloween decorations.
At first, Kidd and Donovan were so concerned about the graveyard and some of the postings on Nextdoor that they decided to sell the house and move. Then neighbors invited them to Halloween parties. Others thanked them for speaking out. Perhaps Tierra Verde was not quite as unfriendly as they thought.
They are going to stay, for the time being at least.
Poynter is brainwashing future “journalists”. It is a liberal, Marxist school for “journalism”.
Do you prefer: Know your enemy. Know their techniques. Know their weak points.
Or do you believe ignorance is bliss?
Yes and this trend is very evident on next door, which was mentioned in the article.
I see next door as the new facebook or maybe worse.
Everything is racist. In my hood there was a long, long debate, chock full of hand wringing and virtue signalling over the use of the word ghettobird which is slang for helicopter.
Most of the people on there are the usual raging leftists who claim the site shouldn’t be political and remove opposing commentary if they are ever confronted with any truth, statistics or facts regarding any pet proggie issues they brought up in the first place.
It’s nothing but puppies, proggies, virtue signalling and I’m calling the police because someone is sitting in front of my house.
Don’t click on it. Problem solved.
Bingo.
Well said.
For all of those who are criticizing the posting of this article here, I want to counter that it is highlighting a very dangerous trend among the left. That is the leftist practice to condition people to reflexively assign racist motives to those who point out the hypocrisy and anti-freedom beliefs of the left.
Nothing in the lawn display was racist, yet this “couple” is worried that the little boy is going to be subject to racist harassment?
EXCELLENT POST.
A clear and succinct warning of the danger we face when every act and action the left dislikes is reduced to racism.
We are a long way down that road already.
I think articles like this keep an important issue in focus; to wit, the LGBT crowds are not happy with our tolerance, they demand acceptance.
There are also areas in the US that my family and I (white heterosexual) would be made to feel unwelcomed so I do not not ever intent to move into such a community.
How many conservatives would be welcomed in any major university town? Answer none.
Indeed. I’m willing to tolerate, but they want me to celebrate.
Don't give them ideas. If they could, they would probably impose some form of tax on non-homosexuals like the Muslim jizya, the tax on non-Muslims. I'm sure they would also mandate celebration of all their "holy" days.
Exactly. They want their coffee cake (as well as your coffee cake) and to eat it all, none for you.
Yeah. Garage door ‘communities’.
The garage door opens. The ‘neighbor’ drives in. The garage door closes, and that’s the last you see of them.
“They are so conditioned to automatically think “racism” every time they hear a conservative that they are incapable of even thinking about the philosophical underpinnings of conservatism.”
The only conditioning they are exhibiting by using the word “racism” is that they have learned that it works like a charm in putting anyone on the right on the defensive with that accusation.
As long as we recoil at being called racists we lose. It is time we embrace the insult and then go on the attack. That is the only way to take away that weapon from them.
So next time somebody calls you a racist, laugh and then say, “you’re right I’m a racist, whatever that means, now let me tell you what you are.” And proceed to eviscerate them.
For all of those who are criticizing the posting of this article here, I want to counter that it is highlighting a very dangerous trend among the left. That is the leftist practice to condition people to reflexively assign racist motives to those who point out the hypocrisy and anti-freedom beliefs of the left.
Nothing in the lawn display was racist, yet this “couple” is worried that the little boy is going to be subject to racist harassment?
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Racism is the spear tip to paint all people who are not leftist fascist totalitarians as less-than-human.
less-than-humans can be easily killed.
Yes, I do live in Tierra Verde. A beautiful, quiet island in St. Petersburg. The people are nice and, thankfully, very conservative. There are areas of St. Petersburg (which are mentioned in the article) that are VERY gay-friendly. This couple should stay there if they want to be surrounded by gay families. I would not feel welcome in those neighborhoods.
The couple is expecting everyone to be happy and accepting of a gay couple with a child. They want the gay couple to be viewed as “normal”. It will never been seen as “normal” by Bible-believing Christians.
I dare say, no one would ever harass or hurt this couple on Tierra Verde. The people there are decent and nice and pretty much keep to themselves. But to accept this “family” as normal probably won’t happen any time soon.
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Well as a conservative-minded white male there’s reasons I wouldn’t move my family to certain neighborhoods. And racism is one of them.
Here's a sample post:
We had dozens of kids ring our Raleigh Heights doorbell last night. They were the nicest people one could enjoy meeting. They were polite and they were fun. Not one of them left our doorstep without saying "Thank you." Many of them added "Happy Halloween." There was NO vandalism and NO misbehavior. My wife and I are delighted to think that these young people will inherit the future.Thanks Kids, Thanks Parents, and Thanks Teachers.
I believe Poynter was the founder of the left leaning St. Petersburg Times (aka known as "Pravda On The Bay").
The St. Petersburg Times then morphed into the Tampa Bay Times and drifted further left.
They then expanded distributorship outside St. Petersburg into the Tampa area across the bay.
Eventually they bought their competition, the centrist/conservative Tampa Tribune, and shut it down.
Thn they tripled the price of their delivery subscription.
Now the 3 million residents of the Tampa Bay area have only one major newspaper - the far left Tampa Bay Times.
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